1 day past EDD and my MIL goes crazy...

[Elena'sMami]

So our Estimated Guess Date was yesterday. DH and I were, I admit, a bit disappointed because DD came on her due date in 2003, and we were hoping to be in the rare 5% again. But oh well! However, at least we were always aware that the date is ESTIMATED.

This morning my MIL called early, absolutely terrified, because she assumed that the fact that we hadn't called to give her the details about the birth meant that baby and/or I had died in childbirth!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm not in labor yet! And of course, her natural supposition is that my husband wouldn't call to let her know about a major life event. My MIL - gotta love her when you don't want to just strangle her.

Rebekah
waiting for my little bean.

[joannalovesyou]

in this day and age, how do people (especially mothers!) not know how loose estimated due dates are?

my father is, i kid you not, counting down the days until my due date. i'm not, but he is. he has them marked on his calendar. i told him that the baby doesn't have a calendar on the wall of the womb, and he doesn't care. when i call them, he announces to me how many days are left. it's really unnerving, because i'm trying so hard NOT to focus on that arbitrary date!

[HarperRose]

Oh my... And I thought my mil was bad.

[wife&mommy]

I'm in the Dec DDC but lurking here...

When my son was born my MIL and SIL took off work on my EDD! I was like wow they are idiots! LOL DS was 2 weeks late and I was induced after that. What a waste of a day off.

I hope she doesn't freak out until you have the baby, that is so annoying!

[renaissanceed]

Wow, it amazes me to hear stories like this. My EDD was Fri Nov 2nd and everyone I know is behaving as though I am never going to have the baby and making plans with me for next week - exactly the opposite! It's a bit weird. Of course, I also agree with them that the baby may never show up.

[aylaanne]

Oh my goodness. This whole pregnancy I kept telling people, "my due date is halloween, but I fully expect to have a baby in November." I got all kinds of responses to that. At least, though, I haven't had anyone assuming I was DEAD. Yikes.

[TulikaEma]

Elena'sMami--thank you for sharing. I'm so sorry your MIL is being difficult--but your post (and the others) made me laugh--and I needed it! My MIL got angry with DH last night when he told her to stop asking if I am in labor when she calls every day. She's normally a woman of extreem patience, and sanity (and I adore her) but she's just gone nuts on this--and I'm not even due yet. She is now 'not calling anymore' until we have the baby she's so upset with us (I'm sure this will pass, but still . Everyone we know is now calling to ask if I've had the baby--as if we would keep it secret or something...
The ONLY person who hasn't pestered us is one of our friends who is a confirmed bachelor. He called the other night, left a nice message (we've started screening calls...) and did not mention labor once. When DH called back, he thanked the friend who replied 'I wanted to ask, but figured that would be annoying and that you'll tell me when the baby arrives anyway'--leads me to wonder--why is the only non-clueless person a bachelor?!

[JamesMama]

Yikes...

I fully intended to be pregnant well into the 2nd week of November...Aldria, however, had other plans. But it was INSANE starting about 2 weeks before my EDD..."Call us if anything happens." and the "Any change yet??" questions every single day. Even when I told them "James was 2 days late, I fully expect to still be pregnant on and past my due date." guess I was wrong.

Sending you "Don't kill the family" energy.

[joannalovesyou]

Originally Posted by wife&mommy

When my son was born my MIL and SIL took off work on my EDD! I was like wow they are idiots!

wow.

my partner isn't even taking the day off work on my EDD.

Originally Posted by TulikaEma

The ONLY person who hasn't pestered us is one of our friends who is a confirmed bachelor. He called the other night, left a nice message (we've started screening calls...) and did not mention labor once.

bake that man a cake!

we don't know what to do about this. i have already told my parents that we will call them when i go into labor...so if i haven't called, i haven't gone into labor! i'm hoping that will stem the tide, since they are the most likely offenders for calling several times a day as my due date approaches.

with everyone else? i guess we just won't be answering our cell phones when they ring, which we don't do now, anyway! our phones are for OUR convenience, not our families' and friends', and if they stupidly assume that our not answering "means" something, they're making a stupid assumption. and i'm fine with that.

[HarperRose]

Originally Posted by TulikaEma

The ONLY person who hasn't pestered us is one of our friends who is a confirmed bachelor. He called the other night, left a nice message (we've started screening calls...) and did not mention labor once. When DH called back, he thanked the friend who replied 'I wanted to ask, but figured that would be annoying and that you'll tell me when the baby arrives anyway'--leads me to wonder--why is the only non-clueless person a bachelor?!

Wow. What an awesome friend!

My mil called DAILY for WEEKS and was all paranoid asking if anything was happening yet, is the baby born yet, etc. How about SHUT UP AND GO AWAY. Honestly, do you think we'll forget to tell you that the baby's born??? Idiot. (My mil drives me batty and sets off my anxiety SEVERELY. She always has. How either of her sons came from her I will never know.)

I had my yahoo messenger message set to say: No, the baby is not here yet. Do not ask me if I'm fine. Do not ask me anything. I am not in the mood.

Mil thought it was intended for just her (mostly her, but not only her) and got her shorts in a wad.

I strongly considered changing my phone message, too. "Hi, you have reached Carrie. No, the baby is not here yet. Yes, we are fine. Do not leave a message, we will not call you back until the baby has been born. Thanks. All other questions, please call (DH) at xxx-xxxx."

[Valerieg]

I'd be SO irritated!!!

Thankfully this hasn't started here yet. I'm hoping it just doesn't. People are clueless. But I've told pretty much everyone, after Thanksgiving, nobody really knows my EDD.

[*GreenMama*]

OMG, that story just makes me giggle. YOU MUST BE IN LABOR OR DEADZ!!!

Ahhhh, gotta love the mother-love.

[Shantimama]

After my first baby (who actually arrived 2 weeks early, but everyone was asking me every day anyway) I didn't tell anyone but my dp what the EDD was - for dd1 who was due around 2/8 I said mid-February and for dd2 who was due 11/20 I said early December. That made life so much easier!

[Da WIC Lady]

I love my friends, but they're wanting to schedule a game night for Saturday... It's a regular thing... Second and fourth Saturday nights are D&D nights. I usually cook for everyone and we play from 8p-about 12 or 1a. I just don't know that I'm going to be up for company or even here. Last game night our DM pretty much cooked, and it was weird being reduced to prep work in my own kitchen. If DH is home, then I might think about it. Otherwise, I'm thinking no.

ETA: The DM is my substitute labor partner in case DH can't be here. She and her DH are going to come over early to clean, so it might not be so bad after all...

Anna

[joannalovesyou]

Originally Posted by Da WIC Lady

I love my friends, but they're wanting to schedule a game night for Saturday... It's a regular thing... Second and fourth Saturday nights are D&D nights. I usually cook for everyone and we play from 8p-about 12 or 1a. I just don't know that I'm going to be up for company or even here. Last game night our DM pretty much cooked, and it was weird being reduced to prep work in my own kitchen. If DH is home, then I might think about it. Otherwise, I'm thinking no.

i would be honest. i would say: "that sounds like a lot of fun, but i'm due to give birth around then, so why doesn't someone else host it this time? that way, if i'm in the hospital, there doesn't have to be last minute rescheduling/relocation/canceling."