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post #41 of 224
Angela -- I'm in the process of getting my MBA and I'm slated to graduate next summer.

I did want to comment about TCOYF and using cervical position/opening as a primary fertility sign. This can be a very difficult sign to interpret because cervical position can change depending on what time of day you check, and what you've been doing (i.e., if you were sitting, exercising, standing, etc.). Additionally, for women who have not had a baby, it can be harder to tell when the cervix is open or closed.
post #42 of 224
True, true Kemaji - I always check my CP at the same time, every day - around noon. That way, it's a little more 'consistent'. And yeah, I just assume my cervix is always closed.
I do think though, that using CM as well as CP will give you a pretty good idea of what's going on..... but CP alone is.... well, hard.

Happy Friday ya'll!
post #43 of 224
of course not only did AF come on Tuesday but I started running a fever and now I have been in bed 2 days with the Flu or something... vomitting and such.. YUCK! At least if I was vomitting with morning sickness I would get a wonderful prize at the end instead of nasty used tissues and cups of warm tea!
post #44 of 224
Yuck Laura!! Talk about a bodily onetwo whammy!!!

I'm still sick - starting to feel a bit better, though.
post #45 of 224
AF showed for me this weekend as well....early, and of course I have killer cramps to go along with it, ugh. So, we're on to the next cycle.
post #46 of 224
*hugs* to those who the witch has shown for ...damn her!

I'm in my 2ww, as I've said before not holding out a lot of hope for this month but we'll see maybe just taking more notice of my body and my cycle will have made a difference.

Thanks to all the ladies who posted about checking cp and cm, I'm about to go to Amazon to see if I can get the book that you suggested in the UK.
post #47 of 224
To those entertaining AF, sorry . . . . Kiya and Laura, I hope you both feel better soon!

Jem, :

Arg, we just got back from our last round of happy fun family times (my DH's family, that is--mine is even MORE fun, if that's possible). : DH has chosen to keep his father out of his life as much as possible, but we had dinner with him yesterday, and I hate to watch my DH cringe after every word his father says to him. Father-in-law also called me "Katie" and insisted that people we know call me that (?!?!). Awkward!

And DH's youngest brother's wife is newly pregnant. If only I didn't dislike her so much! She and BIL have been married for about a year, and they are very, very young--ok, she is just terribly immature and drives me crazy. I feel so guilty about it, but I haven't been able to overcome the feelings yet. So she spent the entire weekend blah blahing about her pregnancy and showing everyone the ultrasound pictures. I don't begrudge her the pregnancy, and I wouldn't want to be living her life under any circumstances . . . . In fact, I would be fine with it if I never had to spend any time with her. Unfortunately, 'tis the season for fun family gatherings. I could go on and on about it, but I'll spare you all!
post #48 of 224
to everyone dealing with AF.

Vegan- I'm sorry you had less than positive family interactions. I hope you make it through the next month and a half with a minimum of family-induced stress.

Kiya and Laura- I hope you're both feeling better.

Well, I did my inseminations this weekend, and they went really well. My friend who normally does them was out of town, so this great homebirth midwife came to my house and did them for me. She was really awesome - very positive and gentle and just full of good energy. I did one on Saturday and one on Sunday, and then this morning my temperature had gone up, so I think our timing was good. I'm using a new donor this time with a much higher sperm count, and am hopeful that that will make a difference. I also noticed on the vials that this batch of sperm was donated on November 10, 2006 - exactly a year before I used it. Kind of a nice coincidence.

Anyway, hope everyone is feeling better, and is off to a great week!
post #49 of 224
Hi Everyone,

Sorry to hear that AF has shown up for some of you - together with cramps for some and the flu for others - ick!

I didn't read back far enough to see if Jem is the only one in the 2ww -: to you Jem and everyone else waiting!

I guess I am waiting too. I have promised myself no heartwrenching BFNs this month. Of course that means that I have bought no sticks, because I have no self control! If AF arrives I will know I am not pregnant. I hate to watch that control line develop and squint at the stick and hold it up to the light and wait and wait and not see anything.

Strangely, I feel empowered by not testing! If this month doesn't work out off to the fertility clinic I will go. And I guess if AF doesn't show up on time, then I will test. I have my plan - and for me, plans are good!

VeganCupcake - sorry to hear about your 'family fun' gatherings! Don't you just love the fact that as the days get darker and chillier and as it gets harder to 'escape' from the house, 'family fun' season begins!! Just remember that you are not alone in your 'fun'!

Finally, thanks to you all for being so welcoming! I have felt really alone in this TTC thing since no family or friends know (trying to avoid the monthly questioning and attempts at advice, such as "relax"!) I'm going to try to check in with you all more oftena nd embrace your positive TTC vibes!
post #50 of 224
Kemaji - sorry AF showed!! May this be the start of a healthy & happy 40(+/-) weeks!!

Ugggh, Catherine - I'm so not looking forward to happy family fun time. At least it only happens once a year.

That looks like GREAT timing, Angela - here's hoping!!!

Patio - I totally know what you mean about not testing - it's much more restful I think - and it's so much easier somehow to see blood than it is to see that stark white test.... *sigh*

I'm still 2ww'ing it, though FF moved my ovulation date (I actually agree with the new date more), and now my test date in on the 24th....
I'm trying to figure out if it's a bad sign or a good sign that I was arguing in my head with DH about driving to see his family with a baby next year.
post #51 of 224
Kemaji and Laura - Sorry AF came to town... Big hugs to you both.

Vegan - hugs to you too. I think I know how you feel about your SIL... it's natural to feel that way - YOU know YOU are ready and it's not fair that she might not be ready (at least in the way you feel you are) but she's PG and you're not... NOT FAIR! You can be upset about it if you want! We understand here.

Angela - I've got my fingers crossed! Glad you found someone to help with the insemination who was kind and gentle.

Laura and Kiya - sorry you're sick! Hopefully, it won't be one of those 3 week cold/flu's....

Michelle - glad you are getting some bloodwork to try to figure out what is going on. Keep us posted.

Well, I'm in the ttw with Jem and Kiya!... I have about another week to go. I was fantasizing about announcing on Thanksgiving to our friends that I'm PG! Silly... I'm not letting my mind get too carried away with it... The alternative situation might be that I'm on my period and taking clomid which might make for a very moody Jen! Hopefully, I won't be crying over the poor dead turkey and getting verchlemp (sp?) over all the wonderful family we'll be with (our friend's family, not that ours aren't wonderful, we just won't be with them!)

Anyhoo... question for you all. What kind (if any) of lubricant do you use on a regular basis (outside of preseed)? I like the feel of Astroglide but it's kinda sticky on my hand (tmi?) and kinda drippy (can get on the sheets)... I was thinking of trying ky jelly (in the tube) but thought I'd rather find something more healthy and environmentally friendly (not hydrocarbon based). I know there are lubes you can buy online that fit that description. Anyone try and like any of them? Any recommendations would be appreciated!

Happy Monday! Hope you have the day off (I'm supposed to but have to work 11-7 at the local fire assistance center - should be a good day anyway - helping people.)

Jen
post #52 of 224
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Anyhoo... question for you all. What kind (if any) of lubricant do you use on a regular basis (outside of preseed)? I like the feel of Astroglide but it's kinda sticky on my hand (tmi?) and kinda drippy (can get on the sheets)... I was thinking of trying ky jelly (in the tube) but thought I'd rather find something more healthy and environmentally friendly (not hydrocarbon based). I know there are lubes you can buy online that fit that description. Anyone try and like any of them? Any recommendations would be appreciated!
Hey Jen, nice to hear from you!

Lube-wise, I'm a big fan of Slippery Stuff, which is indeed slippery without being too goopy. I'm really sensitive and react to a lot of lubes, and this one seems to have the fewest irritants and toxins. Not sure how it rates enviromentally...

But also, I've heard that aside from preseed, almost every lube on the market will kill sperm. I'm sure you're more up on this than I am, just wanted to throw it out there.
post #53 of 224
Jencat, I've heard that lots of people like coconut oil as a lube. It sounds a little sketchy to me, because I don't know if it's water soluble, but I have heard that people like it. We also like sweet almond oil, though mostly externally. Smells yummy, too.

I've resigned myself to just changing the sheets constantly. It helps keep the bedroom stink to a minimum, also: I find that my DH's superfast metabolism makes the bed a little stinky after a couple of nights. There are few things more disgusting to me than a ripe old stinky bedroom! (Not that I'm saying other people, particularly you, Jencat, have a stinky bedroom--this is strictly my problem. And I also have a super-sensitive nose.)

Angela, it was so nice to hear about the good spirit in your inseminations! I hope the swimmers caught the egg!

To everyone else, I hereby promise to spend the rest of the week being very positive!
post #54 of 224
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Hello Ladies!

I'm back from our mini vacation to VA to visit family and go to this wedding banquet. In a word, it was a very wonderful trip. DH and I had a great time with our family and friends and also had good food and fun. Just being there really brought home why we moved in the first place. No, not family because we're both close to them. It was the crappy traffic and the overcrowded environment that comes with living in the DC metro area. It took us 3 1/2 hours to get from a restaurant in Fairfax to my parent's house in Stafford. The roads were parking lots and let me tell you after living in New England for a year and loving the traffic situation, I was not too pleased sitting in traffic. We just kept talking about how the DC area was a nice place to visit.

Kemaji and Laura: for AF coming. I know how it can be frustrating. Just keep the faith...

Vegan: for your craptacular family gathering. It is very difficult when you don't get along with or really respect your SIL. Believe me I know. I'm 7 years older than my SIL and I think that she makes the craziest decisions with her children. She can't really take them anywhere because they don't know how to act and that isn't their fault. But hey when I see things that aren't exactly the way I would do them I just say, "That's not me. Those aren't my children and those wouldn't be my children" and let it go.

Jencat: I'm sorry that I can't find another lubricant besides Preseed that I use. Preseed is the very first lubricant that I've ever used and that was last month. So really I don't know what else you could use. I have also heard good things about coconut oil. You could probably start there....

Oh yeah, I wanted to thank everybody who has been very supportive of me these past few days. It has been very difficult to face all of the scary possibilities that I just never entertained before. Like IUI or even more invasive, IVF. The best thing is that I'm not the source of the fertility problems and I think that we may be able to naturally resolve these issues. I'm keeping my fingers crossed on that one. But if this is more serious than we would expect we will go on to IUI as the next step to pregnancy and I'm okay with that. So I hope that things are going well for everyone else. I apologize if I'm not be specific enough in my personals. I'll talk to you all later.
post #55 of 224
Hi there, I'll try to catch up a bit, although I have another crankin' headache right now, probably cause I O'd Sat., estrogen down, progest. up? I hate to take excedrin in the 2WW, so I just got a migrastick, which is nice so far...kind of looks like a mini-vibrator tho, keeps cracking me up to look at it. Well I really noted no EWCM this month and in keeping with our "not vigorously trying plan", we used no fertility aids this month. I did wake up Thurs. with lots of O pain and woke DH up and he was fine with it. I had to. After seeing those follicles on the ultrasound last week I couldn't stop thinking about them, esp. that one big one the OB said would probably be my O. Then Sat. we did again but totally in the spirit of "let's have the best sex of our life" vs. let's make a baby, so I think a lot of sperm spilled out and stuff, but it sure was nice...and my temp did rise Sun. There's a possibility...letting go a little has been good to me.

So Kiya, you and I have a similar 2WW. GL!! I checked out your chart and boy you did bleed a long time. So glad you had that weekend to catch up BDing!

Kemi, glad you are feeling more at peace with "the next steps" if they are there to take. I share this feeling as well and feel VERY confident it will happen, and soon.

Laura, so sorry you got sick to boot. I really hope you got a day or two off and you are feeling better. Take good care.

Angela, I am loving the timing of your insem, the high-powered mega sperm and the lovely IUI guide!!! Yeah! Happy 2WW. I hope hope hope this is your month girl!

Oh Cupcake, I so sympathize with your family fun. Sorry. Sounds rather dreadful. My fun begins this Sat. and lasts a week. Well, you got through it...do something extra good to YOU and acknowledge all the choices you've made along the way that make you and your DH live the life you believe in. Sorry about the SIL too. So justified to feel as you described. It's really hard to be held "hostage" listening to someone go on and on about being pregnant esp. when they have no idea you've been trying, their preg. came easy AND you don't like them to boot! :

Jem, GL!!

Kemaji, Sorry about AF. Hugs to you and a ripe new cycle ahead.

Patio, Yeppers, I too am anti-poas, find it utterly grueling.

Jencat, Happy 2WW to you too! I hear you on hoping it's this month, then we don't have to do the whole clomid thing at all. GL to you and if turkey day is not the magic day, I'm happy to be your Clomid bud.

Hugs to anyone I missed! Have a great week!
post #56 of 224
Hello Everyone

So for this cycle, i tried to stay positive and not obsess too much about the TTC. I am 13 dpo. My temp is going down and i have the AF cramps. I expect to get AF tomorrow. :

I have a question though. I have scheduled my HSG for next Wednesday. But i am very nervous about it. I heard that it is a painful procedure. Have any of you gone through the procedure before? Was it painful? ANd i am so scared that they might find out that the tubes are blocked!
Thanks
post #57 of 224
Heya Jen!! We rarely use lube, and when we do, I like palm oil or coconut oil - both are also edible/can be used on baby skin, so I don't worry about washing it out. I figure it people put yogurt up their yoni, a lil oil won't do any harm.

Glad you had a good time with your family, Kemi! Yeah, that DC traffic is INSANE. It's the one reason I won't live in DC, Philly, or Atlanta. I know myself. Hopefully, you will be able to get your DH's swimmers to ''beef up" without having to go to the more techy ways of getting them there. Have you read up on adjusting your vaginal pH to make things as friendly as possible/increasing CM?

See, Poet, I NEEDED that break!! (is there a vaugely naughty wiggling eyebrows smilie here? ) When's your test date? We didn't use any fertility aids this month either - no Preseed, no OPKs, just sex.

Magsen!! I have no idea - I think one of the ladies here did have it done, and she said it wasn't too bad. I've heard that you should pop a couple of painkillers ahead of time to make it a little easier on yourself.


I'm still coasting along, though I have a mild backache - feels kinda throbby and warm. I've got all sorts of 'ing going on, hoping it's implantation. We shall see if my temps go up tomorrow, or continue their slide downward.....
post #58 of 224
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Glad you had a good time with your family, Kemi! Yeah, that DC traffic is INSANE. It's the one reason I won't live in DC, Philly, or Atlanta. I know myself. Hopefully, you will be able to get your DH's swimmers to ''beef up" without having to go to the more techy ways of getting them there. Have you read up on adjusting your vaginal pH to make things as friendly as possible/increasing CM?
Hi Kiya!

I didn't know that there was a way to adjust my vaginal pH. We're doing Preseed for the second month, but is there anything else I could be doing?

And, yes the traffic was just horrible! I'm so happy that I live in the Portland, Maine area where traffic isn't even an issue. There are some people who complain about it though and I just don't know what they're talking about.

Also, all the best on your tww. I have a question, you bleed an awful lot when you have your period. I used to have that too when I had a fibroid the size of an orange in my uterus. That just may be normal for you too so I just wanted to know how you're doing with that.
post #59 of 224
It's been - less than normal for about the last two months - esp. the one AFTER my ovulatory cycle - after annovulatory cycles, I'm always 'blessed' with an extended bleed.
However, I still feel - okay - with it, and I strongly, strongly suspect that it's the herbs I've been taking, and the accupunture and my body possibly returning to an actual 'norm' - as this month chart (despite the fovever and a day bleed) is the most - stable - one I've had.
So - while I've been keeping suchlike in my mind, I feel - okay. And my periods are totally painfree, and..... murr. I think it's okay.
The size of an orange! Is that palpatatable? Though, with all this love around my waist, I still might not notice.

Okay, the pH stuff that I was initally reading about was based on trying to select a sex - but there are various food you can eat/shouldn't eat, depending on whether you want the pH to be more acidic/more alkaline. The majority of sperm to 'best' in a certain range, then there is a more acidic range where female sperm do best, and a more alkaline range where male sperm seem to thrive.
If you are already dealing with male issues, getting your pH in that 'middle' range gives more of them a chance to make it - of course, using the PreSeed helps with that, but everybit counts, eh?

*think* I MIGHT have made notes of the foods in my journal - let me check. And I think if you googlefu vaginal pH, you might find some more interesting (and detailed) information.

ETA: I did, but these are mostly rough notes, and slanted towards concieving a girl.
post #60 of 224
Kemi, wow, a fibroid the size of an orange! That's something!

: OPKs! All my other signs are pointing toward ovulation tomorrow or Friday, at the latest, and they still have no sign of a second line--nothing! I have never in the history of Catherine held my pee or refrained from drinking for so long as I did this afternoon, and still nothing! I wonder if I got a bad batch. They're internet cheapies.

Anyway, DH has a couple of jobs that may get back to him with offers this week, though it's not a great time to start, with Thanksgiving next week. Ugh, if he could just get a job--it would be such a relief.
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