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post #1 of 12
Thread Starter 
Just wondering how do I handle this in my home. We live in apartments and my DD is for ever playing with our neighbor. Right now shes got a pretty bad case of lice her moms treating it as far as I know. However is it a good idea to allow her into our home do I allow my DD to play with her or take a break for a bit. I NOT trying to be mean or anything I honestly have no idea how to deal with this. BTW ny DD 5 if that matters. I'm keeping an eye on her scalp so far nothing.
post #2 of 12
I would keep her out of your apartment & your dd away from her until you know for sure the mom is treating her & their apartment & it has been more than 10 days with her being treated at least twice(natural or chemical methods) & there are no signs of any more nits or lice.
post #3 of 12
Wow I think that is a little harsh, it's not the plague:
I would talk to the mom and make sure she is treating it. I would also take this opertunity to talk to you DD about the importance of not sharing things like brushes, hair accesories and hats. Keep checking your DD, lice is not the end of the world it is just a pest. Think about if the situation was reversed and it was your DD with the lice. I would think that that would make her feel pretty aweful. Lice is not a dirty thing and they actually like clean hair better.
I can see reacting like that if the mom is not treating it.
post #4 of 12
Thread Starter 
still want some more opnions. BTW I know its not the end of the world and that is not some sign of neglect. I just have no idea how to deal with it. How to avoid having it in my home (as in having to deal with treating my apartment).
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Think about if the situation was reversed and it was your DD with the lice.
My question would be the same I'd want to know how to treat and how to protect others. Thats not shameful. Having the flus not horrible eaither but it would mean I'd keep her away till it passed. Thats all I'm asking when is it safe?
post #5 of 12
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Originally Posted by mommy2two babes View Post
Wow I think that is a little harsh, it's not the plague:
I would talk to the mom and make sure she is treating it. I would also take this opertunity to talk to you DD about the importance of not sharing things like brushes, hair accesories and hats. Keep checking your DD, lice is not the end of the world it is just a pest. Think about if the situation was reversed and it was your DD with the lice. I would think that that would make her feel pretty aweful. Lice is not a dirty thing and they actually like clean hair better.
I can see reacting like that if the mom is not treating it.
Did you read my whole post? Specicifically that part about keeping her away UNTIL she knew the freinds was being treated. If she treats her & her dd goes back to play the next day after treatment there is still a good chance her dd could come back with Lice. If the friend comes into her place it is more likely that they'll get Lice. This is even more likely if the mom uses the pesticides from the store as Lice are becomming immune to them & not dying after treatment.

I know it isn't the plague & that they are just bugs, but they are bugs that can be hard to get rid of.

If my kids had lice you bet they'd be kept away from their friends & their friends houses until I knew for sure the lice were gone. 10 days is not going to destroy a child.

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Thats all I'm asking when is it safe?
10 days as it can take that long for nits that were not seen/removed to hatch.

For your apartment, wash bedding, pillows, playclothes on as hot as possible. If they were playing with stuffed animals or dolls wash what you can, the rest put in garbage bags for at least 48 hours to kill anything off. Vacuum the floors & such, if you have a bagger in your vacuum throw it away once you're done.

For your dd as a preventative measure wash her hair in vinegar, it will loosen the glue they use to attach to the hair. Wash her hair with mayonaise, it makes it easier to get them out with a lice comb. You can use Tea Tree Oil in a water bottle & spray on her hair, they don't like the scent.
post #6 of 12
we just went through this whole thing and i WISH i'd kept my ds away from hs friend who had lice. the mom let me know that her son had it but they had treated it a few days before and she didn't think there would be a problem. i didn't want to cancel the playdate so we went over there and lo and behold, a little over a week later, ds was scratching his head and i looked and sure enough - he had 'em....and so did i.

no, it's not the end of the world and it has nothing to do with cleanliness but it is a huge PITA. missing school, multiple treatments (teatree & perppermint oil shampoo, conditioner & baking powder), nit combs, checking hair by hair, washing all linens and clothing, sequestering stuffed animals, hats, pillows, vacuuming furniture. no fun for anyone.

so if i were you, i'd keep them apart until 10 days after the friend is "nit-free" and even then, be vigilant about checking your dc's hair for a week.


good luck!
post #7 of 12
I'd keep the kids seperated until you are sure the lice are gone.

Speaking from experience, lice sure can feel like the end of the world! We struggled with them for OVER A YEAR in my house. We spent sooo much $$, had many missed days of school, tried every home remedy we ever heard of, tried the over the counter stuff, even got the horrible poison perscription stuff from the doctor out of desperation, washed everything in the house multiple time, spent countless hours picking nits- NONE OF IT WORKED, the little @*^#ers just kept coming back.

What finally worked for us is the RobiComb. I can't recommend it enough! It's a battery operated comb that shocks and kills the lice, totally painless to use, you have to put your fingers directly on the teeth of the comb to feel the shock and then it only feels like static electricity. No chemicals, and you can use it daily for however long you need to, washing sheets and bagging up stuffed animals and all is not necessary. We've been lice-free for 6 months now!

I'd recommend getting and using the RobiComb if there is the slightest chance your DC has come in contact with lice.

Good luck!
post #8 of 12
Thread Starter 
Thank you for the advice ladies thats what I needed . Any other advice will be appreciated as well.
post #9 of 12
I would absolutely keep them separated until I was sure the lice are truly gone. If it were my kid who was infested, I would keep her from being around other kids.
post #10 of 12
We went through this in my neighborhood and we all kept our kids away from each other for two weeks just to be on the safe side. We didn't want to reinfect each others houses if they were at different stages. (And noone was offended.)(Well, the kids were pretty mad about it!!) I wish I would of had that electric comb!
post #11 of 12
Definitely talk to the other Mum.... but if you do decide to keep them separated on a temporary basis, it's important for your little one not to feel denied/punished in anyway. It's NOT a punishment, but sometimes, when we're little, it's difficult to rationalise why we can't play with our friends, even if there is a good reason.

Keep checking your little ones hair on a regular basis just to be sure though. My younger sister had a head lice problem for such a loooooooong time, I felt that we would never be able to combat them. But we just conditioned and conditioned and combed through night after night to rid them all. Nightmare!


Peace
post #12 of 12
Lice is a plague! I wouldn't let my child play with another child with lice until I knew it was all gone - 2-3 weeks at least. The LAST thing I need is to fight that little bug - the expense, the stress, the missed school, the extra laundry - OMG!!!
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