Originally Posted by poxybat
My sentiments exactly! Thank you poxy!
Okay, to answer the question at hand:
I would be over the moon happy. You have no idea.
DH would probably be shocked speechless for about a week, and Not Happy after that, but he'd come round eventually.
Pregnancy: I would eat, eat, eat all the time. And rest. And take my vitamins. And try to find an OB/GYN who would continue having me as a patient knowing I would birth vaginally, even if any of the babies were breech or came early. No way would I consent to routine surgery. Worst coming to worst, and not having a care provider willing to take me on, I'd exercise my rights under EMTALA and birth vaginally anyway, with whatever care provider happened to be in the hospital at the time. I expect I would give birth in a hospital, only because I think it's pretty much a given that labor would commence unstoppably before 36 weeks. If by some miracle I did get past that point, I would birth at home. The Dionne sisters (spontaneous identical quintuplets) survived at home, with no birth injuries. I'd probably not find out that there were so many until fairly well along in the pregnancy due to UP (my complete molar pregnancy
wasn't diagnosed until 17.5 weeks for that reason, after weeks of abnormal size for dates - no regrets here, btw). After which, I would seek medical assistance, possibly cerclage, maybe pelvic elevation on one of those special tilt beds. I'd also get my breastfeeding support arsenal in line. Steel-cut oats, fenugreek, blessed thistle, alfalfa, liquid chlorophyll, Medela Classic, several Lact-Aid assemblies, shotglass for cup feeding, finger feeder, NO ARTIFICIAL NIPPLES, and as much frozen donor milk as possible from MilkShare or wherever else I could get it. With the exception of the extra Lact-Aids, these are measures I'm taking anyway
, since I'm determined to do everything I can to get breastfeeding going right. Oh, and with a singleton, I'd have the dom on hand but not take it unless we were having trouble. With multiples, I'd start taking it immediately after their birth and consider taking Reglan as well.
Birth: The usual plans would apply, minus the UC if the birth was premature, and minus the lotus birth if the hospital were involved. No immediate cord clamping: 5 minutes minimum, until cessation of pulsing if logistically feasible with more babies emerging. Resuscitation (if necessary) at the delivery table with cord intact. No Pit, no Cytotec, no other drugs including IV antibiotics, no routine IV, no routine heplock, no withholding fluids or food, no vacuum, no forceps, no episiotomy, no "delivery traction," no routine nuchal cord manipulation, no bright lights or shouting, no routine suctioning, no eye goop, no hep B shot, no vitamin K, and no circumcision or retraction. If at hospital, one DH plus 5 close friends/family to accompany each baby everywhere, assuming such transfer were medically needed. If NICU stays were needed... - that would be truly awful. We would try to have all the babies accompanied as much as possible and get them breastmilk and kangaroo care as much as possible.
- with help from as many friends as possible. I would also hire at least 1 or 2 helpers (preferably wetnurses, but they are hard to find; more likely teenagers), in addition to DH, to carry the babies and help with household stuff. I would wear and nurse 2 at a time, as much as possible. Maybe DH could figure out how to wear 3 (1 in mei tai on back, 2 in wrap on front?) I would have DH or the helpers log all feedings and weigh the babies regularly to make sure they were all getting fed enough. I would use as much donated breastmilk as we got, but unless we got a prescription for banked milk and insurance covered the cost, I would still expect to have to supplement with formula (though not artificial nipples. hate hate hate artificial nipples. lact-aid, sns, cup, syringe, spoon, dropper, in that order.). DH would still be the SAHD, I'd still go back to full-time WOHM after 3 months' leave; the upside is that the household income can support a full-time hired teen helper or two. I'd pump or direct-feed babies at my 3 scheduled breaks, and get 2 Classics so I didn't have to tote a 16lb object back and forth to work (which is my current plan
I would EC (and show the helpers how to EC) as much as it reduced our work in changing and washing diapers, rather than adding to it. As constant as EC would be with 6, I would expect it to way outshine changing diapers on six four-year-olds. I would mount a warm-water dish sprayer next to the toilet to rinse small bums directly into it. I would still use cloth diapers, probably AI2s. I would use a diaper service if there were one anywhere near me (there isn't). I would probably get 6 or so clothes processors (machines that wash and then dry with no transfer. We have one at the moment). I would put them next to the toilet so I could empty the poo into the toilet and put the diapers right into the clothes processor. No reason to keep a pail when you're generating laundry loads that fast. I probably would not dress the children in clothes, only their diapers, so no baby clothes to wash, except for special occasions. It's always warm here. And we won't have any carpets, either.
I would get a really big dishwasher to sanitize pump parts and take care of our dishes. I would babyproof a whole floor of the house so the babies wouldn't need to be penned or strapped into contraptions to be safe. I would sell our cars and get a (used) van.
I can't see feeding or putting the babies down for naps on a schedule. Schedules tend to add complexity to my life, not reduce it. I'd have enough to do caring for 6 babies without keeping after a schedule too. Records, yes, so I could keep track of who hasn't eaten in a while. Schedules, no.
I'd do a room in wall-to-wall mattress with waterproofing.
Or I might get 3 cosleepers to hold 2 each, or try out Amby beds. (I was considering all those options for a singleton, too.) We'd definitely family bed once they got to be toddlers (DH and I sleep like logs), but during infancy I'd first try other ways of helping them sleep without CIO, since I'd be concerned about keeping from overlying 6 infants at once. They would still definitely not sleep in a separate room.
Let's see.. what else? We'd still unschool. We'd still get lots of outdoor play equipment and cool indoor toys and invite neighbor kids to play. We already eat a lot of prepared (though whole) food from Costco and the health food store, spending 30 minutes or less on food prep each day, so I don't see that changing. We'd still do some American Sign Language in addition to speech, and read to our babies, and try to keep junk food and commercials out of their lives. We don't have a TV, and would not get one. There is no way I would ever allow non-gentle discipline, or CIO to sleep.
I guess the main things that would be different from one baby would be more equipment; planning to let babies hang out on the floor with toys when they're happy with that instead of constantly in arms; asking friends and family for much more daily help; hiring help; and a greatly increased level of constant activity caring for the babies. A much more drastic change would be if one or more of the babies had special needs. But I'm not covering that here. It's plenty long enough already.