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post #141 of 221
okay so ive been thinking about this and i think i could totally wear sextuplet newborns... im thinking... first you put on a ring sling or pouch...not putting in babies... then swaddle three of the babies... youd need help for this step...
with the three babies tightly swaddled in thier blankets have helpers hold them on your back while you put on a wide blanket podegi in the traditional torso carry... you should know how to do this one beforehand... adjust as needed and then situate the pouch or rs...im thinking a rs would work better... stack in the babies froggy and upright in a modified tummy to tummy position. tighten rs and go!

im thinking a wrap or sarong tied around the whole thing would help with any weight issues...

im really tempted to borrow some newborns and try this now
post #142 of 221
Gosh, some of the things in this thread are pretty mean, especially since we are all MDC friends with at least 2 triplet moms on here. Some of the stuff said could certainly apply to them as well - more than twins, etc.

I think I would be terrified if I found out I was pregnant with 6 babies. That would bring up a lot of my fears, like prematurity, disability, the loss of my attractiveness, the inability to parent well, the loss of my previous life with my dh, financial fears, etc. And all that in one neat tidy package!

I think I'd start with the financials - medical care, etc. I might want to start a volunteer list for people to help out, I think I'd childproof everything I could. Perhaps a storage unit for all those things I don't really need?
post #143 of 221
You'd still be attractive, Apricot.
post #144 of 221
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You'd still be attractive, Apricot.
I'd make sure to put a fresh coat of paint on the wheelbarrow that would hold up my belly.
post #145 of 221
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I think screaming tantrums are kind of cute. And if you got one of those kid harness things (like they sell in school catalogs), and a pair of roller skates, you'd never have to walk uphill again! And the sibling-enhanced childproofing testing team would be like having the Cirque du Soleil in your own living room. If two kids can boost each other over the gate, think what 6 could accomplish! You could be extremely popular on YouTube.
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I like your style of parenting.

I'd be more . But I think anything that can/should be done with one can/should be done with 2, or 6, or 43. You just might have to prioritize more. So, do everything as much as you can, and fill in the gaps just to get by. Of course I would PLAN to breastfeed, and try cosleeping, but wherever everyone gets the most sleep and the best fed is how things would happen.

PS - I am actually naturally inclined towards multiples (I have multiple ripening of eggs every month, and one or two twin splits would make it sextuplets) and I really don't think I could selectively reduce. Ever.
post #146 of 221
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Just for the record, it's not IVF that produces sextuplets. IVF transfers back 2-3 embryos the vast majority of the time (occasionally four in an "older" woman with many failures.) Never six.

Injectables + IUI gives you sextuplets, if poorly monitored.
That was my thought... If you are doing injectables and IUI they are supposed to cancel if you have more than three eggs.

My second son is an IVF baby. We had two embryos, transferred both, but only one implanted.

Honestly, I can't imagine what I would do, mostly because I could never be so irresponsible with fertility treatments to end up with such a high order multiple.
post #147 of 221
I would selectively reduce to twins. If that wasn't an option, I would probably shift into survival mode. I would hire or recruit as many helpers as possible and turn our basement into a big bedroom with futons on the floor. I would try to give each sextuplet one or two sessions of nursing a day, and pump between times as much as I could.
post #148 of 221
I would never do fertility treatments, but *if* I was someone who did, I would just accept my fate, as the Gosselins did and do the best I could every day. I *LOVE* watching that show, btw, and think they are doing a great job given their situation.
post #149 of 221
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I'd be more . But I think anything that can/should be done with one can/should be done with 2, or 6, or 43. You just might have to prioritize more.
You may believe that but the reality is for many, it just isn't possible. One child vs two or more is vastly different. It's a helluva lot harder too.

I'm a twin mom. I'm AP, co-sleeping, baby wearing, nonvaxing, etc... All the things I did with my singletons went out the window with twins.

I put them on the same feeding schedule from birth. If one nursed, I put the other to the breast as well. I taught them to eat at the same time.

I planned on co-sleeping in bed with dh and the twins. I could not figure out how to nurse them both in my bed, prop all the pillows, not wake up dh who has to be up for work at 4:30. So I ended up sleeping upstairs on the couch - recliners on each end - with the twins for about 14 months.

I planned on wearing both babies. My stepmom bought me a lovely twin carrier that I'd researched and wanted. I couldn't even figure out how to put it on so I never used it. I couldn't sling as I didn't have any and no money to buy any.

I had never used bouncy chairs or saucers or baby Einstein. I did with the twins so that I could cook dinner and shower.

Things were very different for me in terms of parenting. My twins fussed/cried more than my other kids simply because there was not enough of me to go around.

I started solids early so that they'd go a bit longer between night feeds so I could get more than 2.5 - 3 hours of sleep a night.

I had little to no help. I had a baby with colic. My dh works rotating shifts day or night and is gone for nearly 15 hours on a work day. I had 4 other kids to take care of.

All the kids were in weekly therapy appointments to help them deal with their sister's suicide only 8 months before the twins were born.

I did the best I could.

Even without all those stressful things, doing for multiples what you would do with one isn't very realistic. Mom is only capable of so much. She has to eat, shower, sleep, take care of herself too or else there won't be much left of mom and she will be worthless to her family and herself. You can't run off of idealism.

It's easy to say what you think you would do in any given situation, but until you are there, in the trenches, you just don't know.
post #150 of 221
Dragonfly, thanks for weighing in. I was hoping a twin mum would come and contribute.

I've only looked after other people's twins, but it was enough to show me that as you said, almost everything you can do with one goes out the window with two. And you have two breasts and two arms. I cannot see how you could physically and logistically co-sleep with six newborns without someone getting smothered when you try and figure out who just cried out at three AM.

And as for a homebirth with sextuplets - do you think the hospital would call for an injunction as you disconnected the terbutaline pump and all the monitors and attempted to go home when it was clear labour was going to not be stopped today? And then calling the ambulances to transport the six babies beck to the NICU?
post #151 of 221
If i had Sextuplets plus all the kids i have now?! Man i think i'd have to find a few good nannies, maybe some drinks....hehe
post #152 of 221
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I'm not the person whose comment you replied to, but I am opposed to adoption. I don't feel that it's ethically handled, for one thing -- it's the commodification of children. Infant adoption in the United States is entirely corrupt, coercive tactics are used to procure babies for waiting adopters, and the effect on children (and surrendering parents) is very, very negative.

Here's an article that I wrote on the subject: The Case Against Adoption: Research and Alternatives for Concerned Citizens

I've been involved in the anti-adoption movement for ten years now, I literally wrote a book on the subject, and I'm happy to answer any questions you have (though it's probably better to do it via PM since it's OT for this thread).
How sad. I know 2 families who chose adoption over fertility treatments. They now have healthy, happy children. One family adopted an American child and another family adopted a child from China. Both adoptions were legal. My friends who adopted from China - their story is heartbreaking. Their baby girl was found in a basket on the side of the road. They didn't even know for sure how old she was.
post #153 of 221
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I've only looked after other people's twins, but it was enough to show me that as you said, almost everything you can do with one goes out the window with two. And you have two breasts and two arms. I cannot see how you could physically and logistically co-sleep with six newborns without someone getting smothered when you try and figure out who just cried out at three AM.

And as for a homebirth with sextuplets - do you think the hospital would call for an injunction as you disconnected the terbutaline pump and all the monitors and attempted to go home when it was clear labour was going to not be stopped today? And then calling the ambulances to transport the six babies beck to the NICU?
Yeah, I can't imagine co-sleeping with six. We did it for 2 months with the triplets and it got too overwhelming for us. We used a sidecar crib for two of them, kept one in the bed until 4 months. Then two went in the crib at the end of our room and the other went in the sidecarred crib. Now, the boys are in their own cribs (they refuse to sleep with each other, they fight too much) and Lily sleeps with us (as does dakota). I can't even imagine trying to juggle 6 infants, sleep deprived beyond imagination, in a giant bed safely. Someone would get hurt, most likely.
post #154 of 221
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After checking out costs online, I'd get an au pair. About the same cost as a nanny, but they live with you (and are cheaper than a live-in nanny).


OT: Just saying, you never get an au pair to work for you. Okay, maybe not never, really unlikely. As an au pair you are paid really poorly and it is supposed to be cultural exchange (with the au pair attending language classes). I highly doubt a reputable agency would even look at you for an au pair placement since you would obviously be looking for a nanny. It is a big difference between a nanny and an au pair. I don't think enough people understand that.:
post #155 of 221
Ok, a nanny then.
post #156 of 221
The first thing I would do is buy another washer and dryer... But serious I have thought about multiples....it runs in dp's family. I think I would bf on turns...2 at time, next feeding different 2 etc. You would have to schedule naps and feedings I think. Our bed room would just turn into one giant bed. I would ask for help....from everyone I know. It would be crazy.
post #157 of 221
As an aside, it is only a maternal history of multiples that increases one's chance of having multiples.
post #158 of 221
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Ok, a nanny then.
Me too.
post #159 of 221
Six would TERRIFY me! Twins would be alright, anything beyond that I don't think I would be able to handle. With 6 I would for SURE have to get some help. But I would accept it & do my best.
post #160 of 221
If I was pregnant with six I don't know what I would do. I don't think I could reduce and I don't think I could take care of that many. I think I would plan on having a nervous breakdown.
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