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post #201 of 221
1. Buy a bigger house.
2. Move my mother in.
3. Move my MIL in.
4. Get a bigger washer
5. Inform all helpers that my job is to BF as many as possible and they get to bottle feed, bathe, and change the rest because while not BF I will be eating or sleeping. Actually, I will be eating while BF and sleeping at all other times.
6. Wrangle volunteers from local mom's group and church
7. tell husband he needs to magically triple his income.
post #202 of 221
Oh goodness, I don't know.

I think I would probably have to reduce as well... Which would be so hard for me, because I really don't believe in that sort of thing for myself... I didn't terminate with DS though, even after my doctors pretty much begged me too -- that was because he had a birth defect though, and that's not something I'm willing to terminate for. But since being pregnant with 6 would put all of the babies lives in danger (and my own), I think I could do it. Plus, having 6 would put one in the hospital for MONTHS. There's no way we could swing that with a 3yo with SN at home.

That being said, if I did have 6...

First of all, I would need help. Probably at least 3 caregivers and at least 2 housekeepers, round the clock.

I would still BF as much as possible and I would be on MDC begging local moms to donate milk. Most humans can produce enough for 3, so I'd just nurse them all as much as possible and get the other half or so from donations. I'd start "collecting" milk well before I gave birth though and store it in a huge deep freeze.

As far as sleeping arrangements, I would probably turn my bedroom into one big bed. But I'd probably still have a crib in the room for the ones that need some space, because that's always possible. Not every baby loves co-sleeping.

I'd still BW, and have plenty of extra slings on hand for my helpers.

I'd still cloth diaper as well. No way could I handle that much garbage, it would give me a freakin panic attack. My housekeepers can take care of the laundry. LOL

All of that is in theory, anyway. Those no telling what I'd really do if that really happened to me. o.O
post #203 of 221
if i were to spontaniously have 6 babies i would first off freak out then i would

  • freeze as many meals as i could before the birth.
  • pair the babies up in cots and co-sleep with whom ever needs it the most at any given time.
  • work in shifts with DH if needed, he takes them for 3 hours, then i take then for three hours while he gets some sleep
  • BF the sickest baby as much as possible, rotate the rest, pump in between source donated BM/milk banks/possibley even a wet nurse/use formula if i have too.
  • hire a cleaner to come in once a day to hoover, wash dishes, make beds, do laundry.
  • hire a diaper serivce and use cloth diapers
  • rope in some family to help
  • carry 2 each between me and DH or two myself and the others in some sort of pushchair, facing me, not facing out. when they were a bit older if i thought it was safe i would have my eldest carry a baby every so offten.
while i would love to have twins, 6 im not so sure, but no matter how many babies i have i will try to keep the kind of schedule we have already. i would put in a lot of forward planning, freezing meals, getting enought clothes, nappies, checking out milk banks, formula, bottles, double breastpumps, etc. each baby would be colour coded simply so we know who has been fed, what, when, how long, how much if bottle fed, when they were changed, what was in the nappy, who napped, how long, who was in the wrap last, who's turn it is next.

post #204 of 221
If I naturally became pregnant with 6 babies I would still reduce. It would be a heartbreaking choice to make but one I feel would be best.

If some reason I was handed 6 babies tomorrow I would go rent a hospital grade pump and start pumping like mad (I'd feel very lucky I was lactating already), I would try to find as much help as I could and do my very best to care for all the babies and my children as best I could. I would definitely have to get on whatever finacial assitance I could as well because we are poor and 6 more babies would more than break us.
post #205 of 221
I'd have to divide and conquer. Seriously. There are things I'm sure I could give up with Baby A that Baby B would need and so on.

I would not make myself crazy trying to BF and pump. I pumped for 27.5 mos for a singleton, and still had to supp. No way would I put myself through that hell for 2.5oz/baby/day. I'd do it for however long they were in NICU, and a month or so after that, and that's it. If my defective breasts somehow made more, I'd consider it for longer, but, I'd still have to supp. I would be willing to nurse for quite a while, but it would be mostly non-nutritive.

My DD slept better in a crib for the first 9 mos. I'd put whichever Babies could sleep well in a crib(s) together in pairs. I'd take whichever really needed me there into bed. And I realize that might vary by day.

I'd definitely baby-wear. It made life so much easier with DD in general. I'd obviously have to switch out babies, but, I'd probably have a baby on me every waking hour.

I *would* try to get them on a schedule, at least for sleeping - or, probably, 2-3 schedules. Just so I *could* have some individual time with each baby. If I could get Babies A/B to nap from 12-2, and babies C/D from 1-3,and E/F 2-4, I'd have some indi. time with each.

I'd hire some sort of outside help to do housework. Whether that's a local teen, a housekeeper, even paying a friend, etc.

We used sposies with DD, but, with six babies, I'd invest in a lot of cloth diapers.

I would MANDATE Mommy-alone time. Even if it were only an hour or two a week. I'd hire a couple of baby-sitters, and GET OUT for a coffee, or to go to the library, or something. And time alone with my older DD.

However, we plan for DD to be an only, so, hopefully, I won't ever have to face this issue.
post #206 of 221
I'd be more worried about DH running away. We used clomid (only, no triggers or IUI) and did ultrasound monitoring to be super careful. Planned to cancel the cycle if we got more than one egg. Even so, DH was so freaked out that we'd have more than one. I think he watched a few minutes of the John and Kate show and it scarred him. The midwife was sure it was only one at my 10wk visit, but he was still worried until I had a 20wk u/s. I'm going to laugh so hard if more than one pops out.

And fyi, it's not IUI that would cause HOM either. Some people do IUI because of a male factor, but have a perfectly normal cycle and produce one egg. They might do a trigger shot so they can time the IUI better, but that doesn't make more eggs, just releases it at the best time. It's those injectables that'll get you.

Out of curiosity... For those against IF treatments, what do you think about a woman getting treatment for a hormonal imbalance that doesn't cause any problems for her physically other than lack of a cycle? I don't ovulate, but I assume taking clomid after every period would create a cycle if I wanted one. That wouldn't technically be infertility treatment but a hormone imbalance treatment. IF usually has a medical cause behind it. Is that ok?
post #207 of 221
The reduction question is so tricky-- because it's not just about what it would be like to have 6 babies-- it's whether having those 6 babies (rather than reducing) endangers them all. Even with *just* triplets, there's a 25% chance of spontaneously losing all 3 of them midway through the pregnancy (vs. a 5% chance of losing all 3 if you reduce down to two). I can't even imagine what the numbers/odds must be for a sextuplet pregnancy. Luckily it's rare, but from what I understand the majority of people who choose to keep "all" of the babies in such very-high order multiples actually lose all of them as a result.

I'm very grateful that this is a choice I haven't had to make.

Like dachshund, I cannot ovulate on my own due to hypothalamus problems, so never would have gotten pregnant (currently with twins) without a lot of help.
post #208 of 221
Originally Posted by mamamolly1 View Post
The reduction question is so tricky-- because it's not just about what it would be like to have 6 babies-- it's whether having those 6 babies (rather than reducing) endangers them all.
With out a doubt it does and it's a risk to the mother's life as well. I have three other children that need their mother very much and I couldn't personally take that risk. I doubt thankgoodness I'll ever be in that situation and have to make that tough choice.
post #209 of 221
Honestly, I wouldn't choose a fertility treatment that could result in six children in the first place. It sounds pretty expensive to begin with, and would be even more so if I ended up with 4-5 more kids than planned. I'd sooner adopt.

If I became pregnant (naturally) with 6 kids, I'd probably make the very painful decision to reduce down to twins. It'd be one of the few times I'd ever think of doing something like that, but I'd consider it a huge medical risk.

Of course, it's really difficult to answer these questions. Until you are actually in those shoes, you probably have no idea what you'd do.
post #210 of 221
I ever became pregnant with high-order multiples, I would selectively reduce to twins. While I love John and Kate Plus 8, and I've seen a lot of healthy, happy kids from multiple pregnancies.. there are a lot of sad stories out there. Anything over two would be too risky for both me and babies. It would be very hard and sad to do so, of course, but I doubt it will ever happen..

I can't imagine having two babies at once, much less 3 or more. I hope I never have twins!

I think most of the multiple pregnancies today are the result of fertility treatments, but they did happen before any of that was invented. And still do - quite common in some areas of Africa, especially. I heard of one woman who has had 7 out of her nine pregnancies multiple - twins, triplets, and quads. Sadly she didn't have access to good medical care, and most of the babies died.
post #211 of 221
The only thing they did to "put themselves in that position" was have sex.
Well sheesh, they should have known better.
post #212 of 221
Originally Posted by meowee View Post
Would you breastfeed? Cosleep? Do scheduled naps? Scheduled meals? What would you be able to maintain and what would you sacrifice?
Just touching on the breastfeeding aspect! I only make milk, at all, in my left breast...that has never been an issue, I even nursed both Kincaid and Janelle for almost 2 years... but that's 2 kids! Assuming I could even make enough milk for 6 (I really have no clue!), I just can't even imagine how much time it would take to breastfeed 6 babies exclusively one at a time... Janelle and Travis each nursed for at least 30 minutes at a time every 2-3 hours (after the nursing constantly newborn stage was past)... so I would literally have to breast feed constantly all day every day, and it would be very likely one or more kid would have to wait a full hour before they got fed...and who knows where I'd fit in pumping for a possible bottle if they got hungry again before I had finished feeding their siblings! Just, wow...I don't think I could do it!

I do think we would co-sleep, at least, for awhile...3 babies could easily fit in an arms reach co-sleeper, or a side carred crib, so 2 side carred cribs, each with 3 babies in it, then as needed each dh and could hold one...

I'd guess you'd either have to hire a house keeper or do scheduled naps...I mean, if they all napped when they wanted to, which is what Janelle and Travis did (Kincaid, our middle kid, set a VERY rigid schedule from the very begining, and if we didn't follow it, he let us know), you'd always have at least one kid awake...

I'd like to say I'd never let them CIO still, but I'm not sure with 2 parents and only 2 arms a piece, that would even be possible, and obviously, dh would have to return to work!

Meals are already scheduled here...we went through nearly 3 years of feeding therapy to get Kincaid to eat at all, and scheduled meal times are a big part of that...him eating is way more important (he was literally days away from a feeding tube, and needed rehydrated more than once due to not eating at ALL)! So that wouldn't change at all.

I am 100% certain I still would never use physical discipline of any sort...

But, more so than all of this, I wouldn't even be able to carry twins, I'm on bedrest right now at 14 weeks due to my cervyx funneling, and it's only one baby... I would never do fertility treatments at all, but if naturally I ended up pregnant with high order multiples, we'd either end up losing them all before viability due to pre term labor, or we would have to selectively reduce (which I'm not sure I agree with, it would be a hard decision to make, for sure).
post #213 of 221
I wouldn't have sextuplets, but I think the same problems you are describing can arise with triplets or even twins.
post #214 of 221
I would be very hard pressed not to drink myself into oblivion. I have 2 kids, a 5.5 y/o and an 18 month old and I am already crazy.
post #215 of 221
I couldn't reduce. Other than that I really can't say I wouldn't even begin to pretend to know what having a large number of multiples means I'd love to say I'd at least partly breastfeed ect but honestly I don't know.

post #216 of 221
omg i cant even fathom having that many. :
post #217 of 221
I think I would reduce and then be haunted for the rest of my life.
post #218 of 221
What a fascinating thread. I hadn’t realized at first that it had started over a year ago as it seemed like one of those “Did I start that thread in my sleep” things.

My DH and started TTC over 10 years ago. We have one wonderful daughter through adoption (Her birth mother is a force of nature; I have trouble imagining anyone coercing her to do anything.) We are currently undergoing fertility treatment with clomid and IUI. I personally do not plan to ever do IVF or injectables because of some family history.
We have discussed multiples. Almost a year ago a friend miscarried triplets so the dangers of multiples are not a distant imaginary thing to us. I don’t think I could selectively reduce. It would be very difficult for my DH to contemplate that.

What would I do if I found myself with 6 babies.
Between friends and church I’d recruit lots of volunteers to just hold a baby.
I would try to like heck to get them breastmilk for as long as possible. I had a difficult struggle with trying to lactate for my daughter and I know that some of the things I tried had a side effect of depression. If I were not producing enough milk I would not let myself get that far gone. I can’t imagine how icky it would get with PPD and even less sleep. I would certainly love to have wetnurses if I could find any to help. That would be incredible.
Diaper service!!!!!!
I’d build a nest where everything was within arm’s reach so we could cuddle.
I would so do a commercial for a company who would give me a babyproof wireless device so that I could visit MDC from my nest and not feel so disconnected from the world. Bonus if it take video and photos as well. I’d hang it from the ceiling on a stretchy cord so that it doesn’t get lost in the fray. (Leave it to a geeky momma to have THIS part so well though out.)
I’m not sure what I would do if TLC came knocking. I guess I’d do a one off special but not a series. My DH and I probably aren’t cute enough for that. I’d make a point of giving my older DD gum on camera.
We’ve discussed adopting a sibling group too. We certainly wouldn’t be approved for 6 in our current home. It just seems to wrong to break up sibling groups but that’s another thread.
In any case I’d make note of everyone who says “Let me know if you need anything” and not feel at all weird for taking them up on that.
post #219 of 221
Originally Posted by Red_Lil_Mamma View Post
Honestly, I wouldn't choose a fertility treatment that could result in six children in the first place. It sounds pretty expensive to begin with, and would be even more so if I ended up with 4-5 more kids than planned. I'd sooner adopt.

If I became pregnant (naturally) with 6 kids, I'd probably make the very painful decision to reduce down to twins. It'd be one of the few times I'd ever think of doing something like that, but I'd consider it a huge medical risk.

Of course, it's really difficult to answer these questions. Until you are actually in those shoes, you probably have no idea what you'd do.
IUI only costs about $500.
post #220 of 221
When the children got older, like around 2 or so, I would try to have one-on-one mommy time with them - like take them to get an ice cream or to the playground.

Probably is, my hubby would be stuck with the rest of them at home!
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