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post #61 of 221
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Originally Posted by dealic View Post
Quite honestly, I wouldn't. I'd have selectively reduced.
That.

I'm a pro-life Christian, but if it ever happened to me (unlikely) I'd have to selectively reduce...if anything because of MY health and the health of the babies.

With higher order multiples (anything more than twins, IMO) I guess I'd do the best I could. I'd try to bf...but have to give formula I know...co sleeping...possibly...probably not since they'd be premie and have all sorts of wires and monitors...:::
post #62 of 221
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Originally Posted by Heavenly View Post
No, that is not accurate. The doctors only saw 3 or 4 eggs when they were monitoring her. They don't know how it ended up being 7 but they did NOT have their IUI cancelled or go against their doctors wishes.
I swore I remembered Bobbi McCaughey saying this on some interview. I guess not, though - it's been 10 years now, so I guess my memory is fuzzy.
post #63 of 221
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Originally Posted by momoftworedheads View Post
Having 6 is not even a possiblity for me since I do not believe in IVF.
This is just all my opinion. It is not meant to offend.
As someone else already said, almost all HOM are IUI or fertility drugs with sex, not IVF. Also I just wanted to say (just FYI - not to be snarky) that unless you are also infertile (and your kids are all adopted) it IS offensive to say you don't 'believe' in IVF. It would be like a healthy person telling a cancer patient they don't "BELIEVE" in chemo or radiation and that they should just accept their diagnosis.

I mean, how can you not 'believe' in it? Suffering women and men desperate to have the ONE thing that even crack addicts and child abusers can easily obtain. DO you know what it's like to walk into a TARGET (or a million other places) and see baby bucket isle after isle and pregnant bellies at every turn? It's like a nightmare. To have doctors out there willing to HELP you have a child ... how can you "NOT BELIEVE" in that? Maybe you could help me understand how someone could "not believe in IVF"?
post #64 of 221
Oh it would be SO non ap, sadly. Probably hardly any breastfeeding, no cloth diapering, no co-sleeping, hardly any babywearing, probably CIO (on accident cause you can't hold 6 babies at once). We lost a lot of AP just by having triplets with a toddler.
post #65 of 221
I would run away from home.

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DH and I have talked about having a large family, but not all at once! :
post #66 of 221
I would do the best I could, and never let myself 'second guess' if I was doing it 'right'
post #67 of 221
I could not be AP with that many kids. I am aped out with two. I would do it no other way with the family I have but plus 6, no way. For me it would be more important for me to be sane then AP.

Although I would still not spank, and would probably discipline in the same way I do now.
post #68 of 221
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Originally Posted by JavaFinch View Post
Also I just wanted to say (just FYI - not to be snarky) that unless you are also infertile (and your kids are all adopted) it IS offensive to say you don't 'believe' in IVF. It would be like a healthy person telling a cancer patient they don't "BELIEVE" in chemo or radiation and that they should just accept their diagnosis.

I'm not the person you are addressing, but I "don't believe in" hormonal birth control. But, I would never try to force my belief on anyone because it is a personal conviction that I have (and my husband shares it.)

IRL, when it comes up, I usually tell people that I can't take the pill because I have a family history of high blood pressure, clotting, and stroke (which is true, but not the only reason I won't use it). It is not all birth control we are opposed to - just hormonal (we use FAM and condoms, and my husband will be getting the snip when we are done having kids).

That being said, I also would not choose to use IVF, IUI, or any other "artificial" means of getting pregnant. Not because of anything the church I belong to states (it is actually silent on this), but because of my personal conviction that infertility is God telling me to go find motherless children to bring into my home.

I have many friends who did IVF/IUI (some successful, some not) and I would stand by them, because I know they came to their decisions to use the processes available to them after much prayer and contemplation. (But selfishly, in one case I am glad they were not successful, because then I would have never got to meet their little adopted munchkins who I ADORE! )
post #69 of 221
Running away seems like a good option. *g* I told DH that I was running away if we had twins, never mind 6!!!

At my church, we've recently had a family with triplets, which is a lot easier than sextuplets, but they do have help from family. I would be recruiting family, friends, church members and still probably hire a nanny.

I doubt I could nurse all six, I'd be nursing basically all day. Pumping and supplementing would be the way to go. No cloth diapers, I'd need sleep, actually co-sleeping with us is pretty dangerous since DH is an extremely heavy sleeper and we don't have the room for a large bed. Wrapping would be cool should I have enough hands on deck, they can be rotated. I think I'd really be scared as to how I would manage and keep my son who is 2 feeling a part of the family. I think I'd be really sad to be honest because my time with him would be reduced so greatly. I'm already worried with the onset of another baby, but fortunately, we have a lot of parental help. With six, I'd probably go PPD.

As far as AP goes, they'd definitely have emotional needs met, but some of the more tangible things, would probably have to be put aside.
post #70 of 221
I would do my best to AP. I don't know what all I'd give up. Cosleeping for sure!

I would never reduce. God will never give me more than I can handle.
post #71 of 221
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Originally Posted by JavaFinch View Post
To have doctors out there willing to HELP you have a child ... how can you "NOT BELIEVE" in that? Maybe you could help me understand how someone could "not believe in IVF"?

I think what people mean to say is "I wouldn't choose that." Or "I don't think that's a good choice." I agree though, that the phrasing "I don't believe in <insert real thing>" is annoying.

"I don't believe in Santa Claus" doesn't bug me.

"I don't believe in bananas" is kind of dumb. Whether you like it or not, bananas exist. You might think they're disgusting, or you'd never eat one even if your life depended on it, you might be throwing all your money into scientific endeavors that will create the perfect bananacide and then you will rid the earth of what you perceive to be a pestilence...but sorry dude, bananas are here and now.

Now, how's that for an off-topic rant?
post #72 of 221
I remember telling my husband after my son was born that "If I had sextuplets, I would give five away." The Vanhouten six shared his same due date but born much, much earlier, and I remember following that family when they were in the news.

I feel like the practical and smart thing to do is to selectively reduce, but it would break my heart to do that.

I guess I'd just try and get all the help I could find, family, paid, or volunteer... Talk about no privacy!

I'd be awful with multiples. I'm not a schedule or organization person at all. I definitely like the idea of making some very, very safe rooms in the house.

Since I already have two children (well, almost two), I don't think fertility treatments are in my future--I personally don't think I'd want a third child that bad!
post #73 of 221
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post #74 of 221
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Originally Posted by llamalluv View Post
... but because of my personal conviction that infertility is God telling me to go find motherless children to bring into my home.
And since you're not infertile, those poor motherless orphans can rot in foster care because god never sent you a personal message?
post #75 of 221
and on that note...

I would join (or form) a commune that puts it's money and mouth in the same sentence with regards to "it takes a village". I'd find other nursing moms who always wanted to try tandem. I'd make a house full of beds and invite friends over to take turns co-sleeping. I'd round up great hurds of underappreciated grandparents and teach them how to wear a baby. I'd move to a warmer climate, let all six go naked, waterproof everything and become the queen of ec. I'd surround myself with mammas so that a baby would never go without.

...or run away.
post #76 of 221
i would cry... omg i would cry...
i would never sleep again and im thinking i could potentially wear 4 at once... my oldest would be old enough to help some but i imagine my head would still explode...
i imagine we would all be eating cereal and i would be utilizing all of my resources.
i would use all parenting meetings as opportunities to pass around the litter
i will keep tequila in the kitchen
i will make friends with everyone.
id completely mattress a room for sleeping. i dont know about you guys but i cant imagine having the time for formula and cribs! im thinking i can sleep on my back with one latched on each side and one asleep on my chest. then id have two more on either side.... id probably still cling to some ec, but that was really easy for me with a newborn whereas diapers gave me heck.
id get one of these things i saw once thats a babybath/diaper changing station thing that goes over your sink so you can drain it in the sink and it comes with a spray attachment. i could potty two at once! and ill more than likely get alot of poop and pee on me too...
id have to get a bus and a farm... and a herding dog...
i agree once theyre toddlers id be very popular on youtube!
hey at least the local ap group would bring me alot of meals
silver lining people!
post #77 of 221
oh yes and id be finding some moms who are cool nursing other peoples kids!
post #78 of 221
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Originally Posted by Starr View Post
Again, you do NOT implant (IVF) six embryos, IVF does not lead to high numbers. If your going to go down that road, questioning fertility treatments, please try to get things straight.

Sorry if I appear bitchy but we are starting fertility treatments and you can not imagine the number of people that tell me, just don't implant 6 babies. Thats not how it works...
Actually, one of my best friend's is on her second IVF pregnancy and her doctor was very, very specific about how many zygotes she wanted implanted so I'm not quite sure what you're talking about.
post #79 of 221
If I somehow managed to conceive sextuplets, I would try to be as loving and kind to all of them as I could. I would not be AP in the conventional sense when they were babies. I would avoid CIO, but still try for a schedule. I would nurse as often as I could, whichever babies would do it and bottlefeed the ones who couldn't. I would wear all of them at different times.

I would have a mother's helper for every day of the week and have dh take all three months of his FMLA leave from work. I'd beg my mil to move in with us or at least have her come stay for days at a time.
post #80 of 221
Honestly? I would probably abort. My body couldn't handle carrying 6 babies. Possible health risks to myself isn't worth it to me. In addition to the fact that I can't financially support 8 kids.
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