Originally Posted by JavaFinch
Also I just wanted to say (just FYI - not to be snarky) that unless you are also infertile (and your kids are all adopted) it IS offensive to say you don't 'believe' in IVF. It would be like a healthy person telling a cancer patient they don't "BELIEVE" in chemo or radiation and that they should just accept their diagnosis.
I'm not the person you are addressing, but I "don't believe in" hormonal birth control. But, I would never try to force my belief on anyone because it is a personal
conviction that I have (and my husband shares it.)
IRL, when it comes up, I usually tell people that I can't take the pill because I have a family history of high blood pressure, clotting, and stroke (which is true, but not the only reason I won't use it). It is not all birth control we are opposed to - just hormonal (we use FAM and condoms, and my husband will be getting the snip when we are done having kids).
That being said, I also would not choose to use IVF, IUI, or any other "artificial" means of getting pregnant. Not because of anything the church I belong to states (it is actually silent on this), but because of my personal
conviction that infertility is God telling me to go find motherless children to bring into my home.
I have many friends who did IVF/IUI (some successful, some not) and I would stand by them, because I know they came to their decisions to use the processes available to them after much prayer and contemplation. (But selfishly, in one case I am glad they were not successful, because then I would have never got to meet their little adopted munchkins who I ADORE!