Happily, DH has pulled his head out of his rear

[GinaRae]

I did use Erica's primal thing on him last night but it wasn't to necessary ("It's all totally primitive and animal, feeling like I should be scraping out my birth burrow somewhere and wanting my mate around to protect me from wild animals.")

He's doing well now. SUDDENLY I am pregnant (like this is a new thing!) and, in his eyes, about to give birth. He's even buying cute bibs and Baby's First Christmas hats and what-not on his own accord.

He's answering when I call or texting me immediately if he cannot answer. He's buying supplies. He's spending some time with me as he can get time. He paid extra (against my better judgment) to get the pool here by Friday. He's being understanding and funny and talkative and sweet.

He's gone from 6am to 9pm most days which STINKS, but at least he's being attentive and trying. Feels like I have the old hubby back (the one I liked!) and he's replaced the grumpy puss one I've had for 9 months. Yay! Hope it sticks!

[DeChRi]

That is awesome! I think phrasing it like Curlita did really puts something on their level. It's almost that, I Need You, that really kicks them into gear. Biological I reckon. Somewhere, probably the same place we get that urge at this point to be protected, they also have some urge to protect us. Or something like that.

Regardless, glad DH pulled his head out.

[Curlita]

Hey, glad I could help out and glad that he's getting with the program! Sometimes they just need clear direction. Very clear, very simplistic direction.

Another one I use as an example a lot is this... we had a golden retriever named Blossom who was terrified of thunder, crows, the waffle maker... and he would comfort her without (of course) trying to explain to her that the waffle maker would not hurt her. I've told him more than once that when I'm upset, I don't want him to convince me that there is nothing to be upset about, but to just comfort me.

Might be harder to use on a spouse who has not comforted a waffle-maker-phobic golden retriever, but... find your own weird metaphor.

[GinaRae]

I didn't use exactly Erica's words but I did tell him last night I was having a few bad days with his work schedule and feeling the primal need to have my man home to protect and hunt, etc.. (read: I need comfort and someone to feed the kids).

He understands. Luckily he's working from home today and tomorrow and this morning he spent a few hours running around with me, buying my breakfast, etc..

[adon]

Originally Posted by GinaRae

I did use Erica's primal thing on him last night but it wasn't to necessary ("It's all totally primitive and animal, feeling like I should be scraping out my birth burrow somewhere and wanting my mate around to protect me from wild animals.")

He's doing well now. SUDDENLY I am pregnant (like this is a new thing!) and, in his eyes, about to give birth. He's even buying cute bibs and Baby's First Christmas hats and what-not on his own accord.

He's answering when I call or texting me immediately if he cannot answer. He's buying supplies. He's spending some time with me as he can get time. He paid extra (against my better judgment) to get the pool here by Friday. He's being understanding and funny and talkative and sweet.

He's gone from 6am to 9pm most days which STINKS, but at least he's being attentive and trying. Feels like I have the old hubby back (the one I liked!) and he's replaced the grumpy puss one I've had for 9 months. Yay! Hope it sticks!

that's so odd..i was having the same prob with DH. i said something to him the other day in a non confrontational way....that he was being a little selfish:. he's been complaining about this and that at work and EVERYTHING else. i also pointed out that i have been very good about it, and listening to it, but that i was getting ready to birth a baby and day now and he doesn't seem to notice. well........he's turned around too. now all of a sudden he's answering his phone when i call, or calling me back right away. he even nested this weekend around the house and office to get things ready.

sooooo congrats on getting your hubby back!!!! it's a great feeling!!:

[Momma Aimee]

scott always clickis in at the last minute too-- makes me sad for how cool it could be if he was that in tune all the time -- but at the same time it makes each birth more special for the difference, i think, or so i tell myself

Aimee

[JamesMama]

Josh doesn't 'click' till RIGHT at crunch time. He *finally* clicked...after my water broke.

And he was GREAT the week he had off from work, cleaned, waited on me, helped me, did for James, etc. Wish he would help more often but I guess I'll take what I can get...

[GinaRae]

I've even heard him discussing the baby with guys from work on the phone. He sounds excited. And a friend of his (girl) told me when she spoke with him recently he was sounding excited.

He even apologized for going to work today instead of working from home as planned. Don't know what's gotten into him, but I will take it and run with it!

Okay, painfully waddle with it...