So, how long can we postpone this Kimmy?

[scheelimama]

I feel like you now, since Tuesday night I've had strong, but irregular contractions, a killer backache, and some intense crampiness going on. I've been drinking water by the gallons and hanging out in bed as much as possible. When I went to pick up dd1 from school today (about a half hour round trip) I had contractions almost non-stop and I had to breathe through them. I was really having trouble driving. The kids didn't even get fed lunch, we went straight to bed when I got home. I admitted to my doula that I'm in early labor, but that I know it can go on for days if you're fearful or in the wrong mental state. DH should have been here by tonight, but alas, this is the military we're talking about and he's been held up quite a bit. Won't be here for *at least* another 2 days. If I'm still pregnant when he gets here, I'll indulge him in some homecoming sex, and I'm pretty sure I'll go straight into hard active labor and we'll be off to the birth center (after he showers of course, because he told me today he hasn't been able to shower for 2 days now and won't until he gets home. Ack!) So, do you think I can do it, can I hold this off a bit longer. I'm feeling uncertain, but I've been telling everyone it's mind over matter and that she's not coming out until he gets here. I've also had the 11th in mind for quite some time, which would be about right if he does come in Saturday night or Sunday. I'm so crampy and miserable and I'm pretty sure this baby would have come yesterday if I had been okay with it mentally.

[chubbycheeks]

Just letting you know I am thinking of you Mama and sending hugs your way!

[Kontessa]

I am actually relaxed and at peace with it all. Nor saying I am still not fighting to keep baby in, just that I am enjoying bed and napping and comfy thanks to all the time I spend in the shower and bath tub. Really helps with the pains. Been at this for almost a week now and I am really annoying some of my friends. Hubby keeps calling and asking how I am, really he is asking, is baby coming yet..... He knows I am stuborn though.

Other mamas seem sure talking to baby helps baby to come or not come. I keep telling baby that it is ok to come as long as the labor is real and will not make mama nuts. LOL So maybe tell your little one that it is time to rest up now and be ready in a few days when Daddy gets there.

The military is making me some nuts as well. They gace us dates for next month but then changed it to mean those are the days they head to Kuwait, not actually get home. So I had this nice number in my head and poof, it is gone. I know better then to hold on to a date but still, I did, and am bothered it is not to be.

It all could be far far worse though!

On a funny note, my friend fowarded me an e-mail sh wanted my opinion about, what she did not do was deleate her part in it and it reads like this: "I hope you are doing well. Things here are crazy as normal. Kimmy still has not had her baby. It is getting frustrating."

Some how that is just so dang funny to me. I am not even due yet! Clearly she is not the one that has to look forward to newborn alone! It will happen when it is supposed to but that does not mean I have to help it along with gravity and such. LOL

You know I am wishing you the very best and will be so thrilled if you get hubby to there with you. Some how it makes me feel better that one of us gets that.

Blessings,
Kimmy

[scheelimama]

Kimmy, I'm glad you're finding some peace about this. I'm not really sure that I have peace about birthing without my husband. Really, I think this baby would be here by now if I did.

I'm feeling much better tonight, no where near the discomfort I had for the last 36 hours before this evening. The backache is mostly gone (back to par anyway, no more early labor type backache). The crampiness is mostly gone. Went out with 2 friends tonight (no kids!) and we got pedicures and I got my eyebrows waxed. I've gained 30 lbs. while dh has been away, so this is the least I can do to look good when he gets here. And I'm expecting this baby to come while my pedicure still looks good (but not before Sunday!) I usually pluck my eyebrows, but I know that won't happen for a solid month after baby is born, so I figured I better get a good wax now, so I won't have to worry about it for awhile. Then we went to Texas Roadhouse and indulged in cheesy fries and dessert! It was a nice relaxing evening. Now I'm having a glass of wine (figure it won't hurt to do everything possible to stave off labor for awhile.) This is the first drink of alcohol I've had this pregnancy, but my mom suggested wine and a bath to keep baby baking a bit longer. The wine is very yummy! Too yummy probably.

Kimmy, I'm glad that it somehow makes you feel better that I will hopefully have dh here with me. Sometimes I feel bad whining when I know I have the hope/possibility that he will be here and you don't have that at all. I can't imagine doing this all alone. I'm so sorry the dates you were given were not accurate. Will he at least be home for Christmas? That just really sucks.

[Kontessa]

At the same time though, even though it still does not feel real to me, when my hubby does get home, it should be for the next year. I have to do the first while alone, but not months. That helps me, specially mentally as I just can not see keeping up with homeschooling and a toddler and a newborn all by myself.

My hubby is so supportive of me trying to keep baby in as long as he can. He said this way I will have less nights up alone with an infant and more he will get to share with me.

As for return dates, the one I had was a single digit actually.... LOL Not as like now but boy was I holding on to it. I want it back. LOL So yes, before Christmas. Enough time to decorate even! Just not soon enough. Just not possible even if I can convince baby to stay in 2 weeks past due!

I am happy you are feeling better. Not too long now. I am feeling some ouchy but nothing I am worried about. I did manage to be helpful tonight and am set to lead the last service of the year. Thinking I should be ok by then. Hubby gets to be the speaker for a service in January about the deployment and how it effects him spiritually. hehehehehe He really does want to share though so not like it will shock him. LOL Either way, a productive meeting, happy I braved it. Now more relaxing bed for me and baby and my kids to cuddle with.

[MamaHippo]

Just want to let you BOTH know that I am sending you good 'baby stay-in' vibes. Dh was in the Army for 7 years and I remember firsthand the frustration the Army can bring with their particular time schedule.


You are such strong women - I can't imagine going through pregnancy without Dh here. We've been saying prayers for our soldiers every night with DS and I've included your Dhs in those. Please keep us posted on your labors and on their arrivals, so we can all breathe some relief along with you.

Big hugs to you both!