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post #21 of 67
OMG if I had to confess every time one of my kids bonked their heads or rolled out of the family bed or off the couch...I'd be here all day. Just the other day I was sitting at the computer and DD was crawling on the floor near the desk. She sat back on her knees and I looked down at her and thought "I'd better move her cuz if she falls forward her head is going to hit the corner of the desk" and then suddenly she did exactly that and I felt so horrible and she ended up with a line of a bruise right down the middle of her forehead. I picked her up and cried more than she did.

I totally know that feeling "OMG I am such an awful mom, if only I'd done x, y, z that wouldn't have happened" but really unless you wrap them in bubble wrap you can't protect them from an accident all the time.

Babies will forgive us. I think they know we don't mean for them to get bumps and bonks. It's just a part of childhood.
post #22 of 67
Be gentle with yourself.
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post #24 of 67
the floor should not have been wet. it wasn't your fault, at all.

if you can bear another story, DH slammed DD's head into an overhead moulding in my grandfather's house when she was 9 months old, and then I recently kicked her in the face so hard that she fell to the ground with a bloody nose. Both of us wanted to kill ourselves both times. I understand the feeling of replaying the incident over and over again in your mind, crying about it and thinking about all the terrible things that could've happened. Who knows, maybe these things happen to make us more cautious to prevent something worse in the future. I know that after the last accident, I bought a playpen (horror!) for occasional use in the kitchen to prevent the type of accident that happened last time. And DH doesn't carry DD on his shoulders anymore after she hit her head. Accidents will always still happen. I hope you feel better about it tomorrow. Don't be too hard on yourself.
post #25 of 67
Thread Starter 
Your stories have me laughing out loud and crying at the same time. Thanks for the boost everyone!
post #26 of 67
When my dd was little, although a bit older than yours, I was carrying her and walking down a marble staircase in stiff patent shoes with no tread. Yeah, recipe for disaster.

I slipped on the 2nd stair from the bottom, completely lost my footing, like a character in a cartoon, and from my perspective dd *flew* out of my arms. I screamed. She actually sort of tumbled out like you describe, I think, b/c although she landed on the ground sort of on her side and - slid - she was totally OK, just crying because she was startled.

I felt the same way you do - how could I let go of my child?? The sense of powerlessness, the "what ifs", haunted me for days. It was very scary.

I just wanted to share that with you because I know how you feel.
post #27 of 67
I really think this is exactly why babies are born with softer, more pliable bones than adults have. They are incredibly durable and bounce pretty well.
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post #29 of 67
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OMG it almost happened again! This is weird ... I just got back from the grocery store. As I was walking along pushing my cart in the bakery section, I stepped on a piece of paper (the thin kind you use to get a cookie or muffin out of the case), my foot slipped out from under me and I almost FELL AGAIN! I screamed out -- OMG -- GIVE ME A BREAK! What is wrong with me?????

The babe was in her car seat, safe down inside the cart, thank goodness.

I think I need to just go to bed -- unfortunately, I need to get my house ready to have 15 people over for dinner tonight
post #30 of 67

Falls . . .

My DS managed to flip himself backwards off of the changing table when he was only six weeks old!! I was standing right there, but had reached down to get a diaper. I would never have guessed he had the ability to be so mobile at that age . . . Poor thing landed in the most horrible position, wedged between the changing table and the bathtub, on ceramic tiles! (I still cringe when I think about it . . . (shudder)) I freaked out, of course, and took him to the ER, but after a few minutes of crying, he acted like it had never happened . . . No bruises, nothing. I think small babies are fairly resilient (not that I would ever try to test this theory again!!)

It happens . . . fagettaboudit.

(hug)
post #31 of 67


It was an accident. Don't beat yourself up over it.
post #32 of 67
every mom has at least one story.
post #33 of 67
On September 10,2001 I tripped and fell with my ds. He was 4 wks old: I rushed him to the ER, his femur was broken. My weight was just too much for his little body. We were investigated for child abuse. I wasn't allowed to be alone with him for 4 days. Though I was able to still be his primary I just always had to be with someone else. We stayed at my parents house until I was cleared. That was absolute hell. The case workers were all very nice to me though. The reporting doctor called me at home and apologized for calling DHS. It's law in Iowa when an infant has a broken bone that there be an investigation.

My ds is now 6 and hasn't had any long term affects.
post #34 of 67
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Originally Posted by Christi View Post
On September 10,2001 I tripped and fell with my ds. He was 4 wks old: I rushed him to the ER, his femur was broken. My weight was just too much for his little body. We were investigated for child abuse. I wasn't allowed to be alone with him for 4 days. Though I was able to still be his primary I just always had to be with someone else. We stayed at my parents house until I was cleared. That was absolute hell. The case workers were all very nice to me though. The reporting doctor called me at home and apologized for calling DHS. It's law in Iowa when an infant has a broken bone that there be an investigation.

My ds is now 6 and hasn't had any long term affects.


What a nightmare. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Thanks for sharing it -- helps me put my experience into perspective.
post #35 of 67
Okay, this one is really comical, but it made me feel so bad. DD was standing holding onto the couch near me and she started to fall. I reached out to catch her and didn't realize how close she was to me until I caught her in the face with my hand. And scraped her cheek with my ring. OMG! I totally beat myself over this. I was trying to save her and instead practically punched her in the face. Bad mommy! Oh the guilt..
post #36 of 67


When dd was 4 mos old, I tripped and just managed to hold onto her. I ended up breaking a finger. It's scary to think how quickly and without warning these things can happen, but it was an accident and she's okay so please don't beat yourself up.
post #37 of 67
Well, I have one that made me feel like a mom failure. Just about a week ago, I was trying to put DS2 (6 months) on my back. For some reason, my brain stopped working I guess, I let go of Ds while trying to put the straps up on my shoulders. He slid off my back, straight to the floor. It was really upsetting to both of us. He cried for awhile (thank God we are BFing!), and finally settled down.

I've fallen with 3 of my DC. All have fallen off the bed more than once as infants. It is distressing, to be sure, but thankfully, they are all quite healthy. I do suggest, however, a trip to the chiropractor. I know that always helps put everything back where it should be (including my sense of well-being!).
post #38 of 67
Oh dear! I'm so sorry that happened to you and your little one. It's great that she was asleep actually. Their little bodies are so limber and relaxed and even more so when they are asleep.

As long as we are telling stories...
I was a nanny for about 13 years before I married and had my own littles...a darn good one, too.
One day I was walking down the back stairs with my "charge", then around 3-4 mos. old. The mother had left a newspaper article for me at the bottom of the carpeted stairs. The house was 100 years old and the back stairs were enclosed and curved slightly...they used to be servant stairs.
You know how when you are carrying a little baby, you can't really watch your feet when you walk. Well, I stepped right on the newspaper about 5 steps up from the bottom. The baby flew out of my arms and hit the wall at the bottom of the stairs. I can still see it in my mind. The mother worked at home. I started screaming. It was awful. Really awful. The baby was fine, and I was her nanny until she started kindergarten.
To this day though, I get really freaky about having anything on the stairs.
post #39 of 67
Yesterday I gave my two year old a black eye. I was moving a bin that we had emptied while we were playing. She zigged, I zagged and WHAM, I hit her right in the face. She's got a nice bruise. When ds was a baby I stepped off the deck and into a hole, I flipped so I wouldn't land on him and landed on my back. Ds crawled away, just fine. Ds and I were screwing around this morning and I punched him in the face. I've got a million stories. Life is rough when you have a clumsy mom

Don't be so hard on yourself, it won't be the last time you accidentally hurt him. His revenge is coming soon anyway, wait until you step on a Matchbox car or a Lego:
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