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Originally Posted by mamaMAMAma 
I too would love to hear how you accomplish more of a communal ownership vs individual ownership of things. I tell the children the toys are for the children of the family, but sometimes it backfires and make them want to their own things more.
I keep holiday presents very simple. The girls each get a handmade gift from me and something from dad. DD#1 appreciates these the most. She said before that these gifts "feel warm". Then something thats just fun and books.
The girls are sharing a room now and I thought it might be nice to get a little tree for their room and make an advent calendar with little ornaments to hang on their little tree.
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As far as the communal ownership goes, our family uses common space to make things communal...if it's super-special to you, it goes on your bunk, in your hammock, or in your top dresser drawer (and only one drawer is for non-clothing items).
For instance, my 6yo is very fond of a certain set of books on tape...he loves to share, but doesn't want others to have free access to these tapes, so they go in his top drawer. My 4yo is attached at the hip

to his (still very new) Buzz Lightyear costume, and so this costume lives at the end of his bed (and we do have rules about having only one or two things "live" on your bed with you).
One of the ways we've helped move them into communal sharing is to turn our sunroom into a "dollhouse/computer/lego" room. This way, even though both boys (4 and 6) get a LOT of Legos as gifts, they share them all once the Legos hit the sunroom. It's just a family area, and nothing in there belongs, in practice, to any one person, even though certain sets were given as gifts. Same with the dollhouse...furniture and people and accessories may come into the house as gifts, but they become community property because of where they "live."
....sorry if I rambled...
Our kids are getting books (all 6), and then it varies...the older two are getting personal things (like a carrying case for an MP3, etc.)...
the 12yo is getting a tabletop art easel with lots of different paints and papers...
the 6yo is getting a gorgeous knight costume (which will eventually end up in the communal dress-up box), and a Lego chess set.
the 4 yo is getting Batman Legos and a wooden birthday cake set.
the 2yo is getting a wooden kitchen with accessories (which will be very communal

).
love, penelope
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