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post #1 of 107
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Do you ever read a post and notice that someone has a boy, then read their siggy and notice that it says nothing about being anti-circ, and then just wonder how they feel about it? I do that all the time. I'm talking only about members who I'm confident are not Jewish or Muslim, like there are clues in the post such as they celebrate Christmas or go to Church, etc.

Anyone else do that, then just feel sort of "funny" when there is no anti-circ message in the siggy?
post #2 of 107
Honestly, I find that line of thinking offensive. I don't use my signature to promote my personal beliefs or convictions. I celebrate Christmas, go to church regularly, and my son is intact (the first male in several generations on both sides of the family).

It really isn't my place to make assumptions and judgements about others' decisions based on signatures. If you want yours to proclaim your beliefs to the MDC community - great!

My signature is there b/c my DS likes the animated smilies and I picked ones that were cute. We don't even have a dog but he loves that one so I leave it on there.
post #3 of 107
Yea, I don't really put that in my sig either, and doubt I ever will. We UC and breastfeed, but I don't have that in there either...
post #4 of 107
I am very anti-circ and my son is intact. I don't find the need to use the anti-circ, homebirth, UC, breastfeeding, etc, etc, etc smilies in my signature. Really I think you are reading more into it than there is!
post #5 of 107
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Originally Posted by celestialdreamer View Post
Really I think you are reading more into it than there is!

Well that's sensible. I was just wondering.

Geez, Natsuki, take a chill pill .
post #6 of 107
This is what I was saying on another thread...

I don't feel any need at all to espouse my parenting beliefs in my siggie. I'm here on MDC for pete's sake! Everyone can feel safe in knowing that I believe in all the silly siggie smilies here, or at least I'm sensitive to them...I'm not on some other mainstream board where I would have to defend my choices and advocate for them. I'll tell you one thing: if I did believe in circ I sure as hell would never come around here at all! I'd be way too defensive...
post #7 of 107
I definatly do. I cant help it anti circ is a huge part of my life and I do wonder when I dont see any no circ in someones siggy. I do NOT automaticly assume that the person did circ but I do wonder. Nothing wrong with that at all.

The OP question in no way said she thought the boy was circed if it wasnt there she said:
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Originally Posted by AntoninBeGonin
and then just wonder how they feel about it?
I think a few of the responces were a bit overkill.

When you know about circ, at least for me, I wonder how others feel about it as well. Just like I wonder if they bfed when no bfing is mentioned. It is human nature.
post #8 of 107
she didnt say you had to, or were awful if you didnt, she asked if anyone else saw a sig and wondered. yikes!

and to answer yeah i wonder, i just tell myself since they are on mdc at all there is a big chance their son is intact and move on. but i do wonder, and i dont at all see whats so offensive about wondering about anything, its not like we make a list and say "oh ill not reply to that poster because they dont proudly display "insert whatever parenting philosophy or whatever" in their sig"
post #9 of 107
Another thing having the anti circ smiley in siggys has made many a new member research circ and it has changed their mind about it so to me it is important to have it there. But if you dont want it there then by all means dont put it. But keep in mind people do read the siggy's and they do make people think sometimes.


IMO Circ is miles away from being a "parenting belief". It is a human rights issue. Some things are just wrong no matter how you look at them. Very few issues in life are black and white but circ is definatly one that is.
post #10 of 107
Yes, I do briefly wonder.
post #11 of 107
I don't have a son, but even if I did I doubt I would use the nocirc icon. Simply because circ is, to me, such an odd concept and far removed from my world. It's not like I would feel the need to include an icon against cutting off hands either

But I understand Americans have a different reality.
post #12 of 107
I don't have it in my sig, but I have 3 intact boys. So now you don't have to wonder. I usually change my sig around, and put what I am thinking about the most at the moment. I think if that is something that you are very passionate about, that it is something very normal to wonder about. I don't think that the OP was saying that anyone who doesn't have an intact smiley in their sig is bad or pro-circ, she just wonders. I wonder a lot of things about a lot of people on MDC! :
post #13 of 107
I don't think about it on MDC. I just assume the best. In fact I am happy to see them at all. Anywhere else it might offend people and we wouldn't want that!
post #14 of 107
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Originally Posted by race_kelly View Post
I don't think that the OP was saying that anyone who doesn't have an intact smiley in their sig is bad or pro-circ, she just wonders. I wonder a lot of things about a lot of people on MDC! :
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post #15 of 107
It's not in my siggie. If I had a smilie in my siggie for each of the natural parenting things I do/believe in, that's all I would have room for.

Also, I know it may seem an odd view but I feel that saying "no circ" is promoting circ in a way. ("No longer give your strength to that which you wish to be free from.") It's giving energy to the cause of circumcision, which is not what I want. If there were a smilie that said "intactness" or "genital integrity" (yeah, try fitting that on a smilie!) then I'd be more likely to include it. But there isn't, and I don't want to take up half of my signature to address the issue, at least, not right now. I would consider it.

I really respect those of you who do use half or all of your signatures to promote genital integrity. THANK YOU.
post #16 of 107
two intact kids here . I just find that the smilies are kinda limiting. Circumcision is just not a huge issue to us and there's so many other things I would say about my kids besides what their body's look like yk?
post #17 of 107
It's on my mind a lot becuase I'm so active in the issue, so lots of things make me wonder!
post #18 of 107
Okay, I caved-- new siggie. Cute quote from DS gone.
post #19 of 107
Never really thought about it that much, to tell you the truth. I put mine on my sig's because maybe others on this website might see it and look into it more.
post #20 of 107
It's not in my siggy either and my son is intact.
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