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post #41 of 67
11/11/07 at 9:19pm
at home with dh, dd (if she so desires and i'm feeling it), midwife and hopefully my mom. she was there for dd's birth and was wonderful. she lives quite a journey away, though, so timing is everything. midwife is all about being there for safety, but letting the family have/catch/etc the baby, so i'm excited about dh getting more involved this time, too.

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post #42 of 67
11/12/07 at 2:00pm
We're planning a Home Birth with our Midwife, her assistant (Doula), my husband, my mother and my best friend. I figure a few hands to keep things in order and supportive people who can handle it.
We're studying the Bradley method of Natural Child Birth, of which my friend already worked with.
GOD, it's SO SOON!
post #43 of 67
11/12/07 at 2:41pm
Right now it looks like I'll be in the hospital.

As much as I'd love a UC (or even a MW assisted HB) I just don't feel like I'm strong enough emotionally to attempt it with this pregnancy. I know that my mom and step-mom will for sure be with me and hopefully Chance will be there to see his son's birth as well.
post #44 of 67
11/12/07 at 3:12pm
In a hospital with a midwife whom I adore.

Unless its icy/snowy/or I delay then it will be at home with dh. My next door neighbors are perfect for this, one is an L&D nurse and her dh is a firefighter. Plus I have a firestation on the corner. If we are iced or snowed in it will be a neighborhood homebirth.
post #45 of 67
11/12/07 at 4:06pm
At a free-standing birth center with a mw. They have 3 in the practice and it will just depend who is on call. I like them all though so its not a problem. Its about an hour from our house though so I am a bit worried about having a baby in the car! My last birth was 2.5 hours.
post #46 of 67
11/12/07 at 4:21pm
In the hospital birthing center with DH, midwives, and doula. Also my laptop and DVDs of old musicals (Singin' in the Rain, Sound of Music, etc.).
post #47 of 67
11/12/07 at 10:16pm

At home..

At home with my hubby, puppy, midwife and assistant I'm so excited.
post #48 of 67
11/13/07 at 10:36am
At home with my midwife, mw assistant (who is also a really good friend of mine) Dh, my two other children, my mother and maybe my sister. There will be a lot of people in my small house
post #49 of 67
11/13/07 at 2:07pm
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Originally Posted by Free Thinker View Post
Mine sounds the worst so far
It doesn't sound better or worse to me. It sounds like you have made decisions that fit your situation and make you the most comfortable. With my first, I had an emergency c-section (I labored unmedicated and was 10cm and pushing when it was discovered she was breech). I refused to be put under and got a "last minute" epidural. Of course it was **a little** uncomfortable laying on my side with my legs closed with a babies bottom coming out out of my cervix BUT>>> it can be done.

As for me, I have a vision of laboring for as long as possible at home then to a nearby beautiful (dare I say: upscale) hospital. My MIL will babysit my daughter at her home. The hospital has gorgeous accommodations for not only myself and the baby but DH and family as well. Birthing tubs, large showers, special "beds" that you can adjust to squat (add a bar) or "doggie style" or whatever is most comfortable, terrific food and an open minded staff. Not to mention a Riley Children's Hospital in house. My husband and I will labor together with no medication but a hep lock (mostly to put my DH at ease), minimal fetal monitoring and interruption by hospital staff. My OB (who had her own last child via Bradley Method) will help deliver my little VBAC man in a gentle manner in whichever position I feel is most comfortable and productive to me. He will not receive eye goop, vit K, PKU heel slice, bilirubin blood checks, hep B, circumcision or anything else that I deem unnecessary and/or harmful. I have decided that the hearing test is ok if they offer. I guess that is about it...

I love reading about everyone's birth plans.
post #50 of 67
11/13/07 at 3:15pm
Chavaleh: I'm definitely with you! I also feel a need to be defensive on why I'm going to the hospital, rather than stay at home.

My baby's birth will be at the local hospital, which is walking distance away from my home. It's the closing thing we have to a birthing center in my state. I will be with my MW (who is awesome and is very hands-off, do what you want + she actively questions hospital policies!), my doula, dp, some random nurse...and that's it. My parents will come in after the birth.

I'm planning a water birth since my MW specializes in those. She advised me to labor at home as long as I can, so that's what I'll do.

I have been getting a sense that hospital mw's aren't as good as lay mw's. If this is true, my mw is pretty exceptional. My doula says she's cut maybe 6 episiotomies in her life and has a c-section rate of 2%. I think she's driven to change the system from the inside.
post #51 of 67
11/13/07 at 3:29pm
I don't think that they are not as good...I think a lot of the hesitation to use them is because they are working under and OB and sometimes the OB can force the midwifes hand on certain issues. The midwifes that deliver at home do not work for an OB/GYN. Hence the difference.

That said, I just did not connect with anyone the way I connect with my midwife. I have never trusted a medical professional as much as I trust her. This midwifery practice is a little different than most and I don't feel the constant looming pressure of an observing OB there. I did meet with the chief of obstetrics for the hospital (because of my thyroid issue) and was absolutely blown away by her respect for the midwives and total respect for a mothers wishes...as long as the mother is informed the chief gives her total blessing with the mother's choices regarding prenatal care, birth, etc. I was shocked. In FL it was a much different atmosphere. I had a midwife with my second but she was working under the OB's and basically had to answer to them. Luckily I had an OB who was fairly sane to help me out when they got all induction happy.
post #52 of 67
11/16/07 at 5:06pm
What a great question. I haven't been online in a few weeks so I'm just now getting to this. I've loved reading everyone's thoughts and plans for this huge transition in our lives. My birth place is a little different so I thought I'd chime in too.
I am very committed to having a natural, calm, drug free, fear free birth but I live an hour from the hospital and it's my first. My midwife owns cabins (about 5 minutes from the hospital) so our plan is to labor and deliver at one of the cabins. There is a nice big jacuzzi tub I can labor and/or deliver in and it's like home without being an hour away (should I need a hospital) and no dirty dishes, laundry, animals, or other "chores" to preoccupy myself with.
At the birth we're planning on having my DH, of course, my midwife and her assistant. We're sharing the experience with my mom, mil, and my brother will be around too (we have wood heat and animals so my bro is going to be taking care of all of the other things we don't want to think about-he's also a huge part of my life!).
My main insist with who's at the birth is the total and complete elimination of the fear factor. It's my first but I've spoken with so many mama's who have talked about how fear (and their mental state in general) influenced/effected their natural birth experiences. Just something I thought I'd throw out there for other first timers to consider. My agreement with anyone who's at the birth is that if they have any questions/concerns they take the midwife outside of the cabin and talk with her about it. That includes my DH.
I'm personally soooo excited about labor. I've had a wide range of emotions throughout my pregnancy but the two things I've been thrilled about is experiencing labor and meeting this spirit who's coming to spend their life with us. Yippie!!!!
Katimae
post #53 of 67
11/18/07 at 7:10pm
At home with a MW, and my DH and DSs. And I'm hoping a dear friend of mine who is a veteran HBer can magically get here somehow from TX
post #54 of 67
11/21/07 at 10:17pm
At home with DH, MW and possibly the MW's assistant. DS will be there so everyone will kind of juggle and help where needed. That is why I am thinking of going with the MW's assistant. Hopefully that will keep everything more intimate.
post #55 of 67
11/22/07 at 3:37am
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Originally Posted by BeanyMama View Post
At home with a MW, and my DH and DSs. And I'm hoping a dear friend of mine who is a veteran HBer can magically get here somehow from TX
Come home ! You can birth in my house
I miss you, and your little boys too :
post #56 of 67
11/22/07 at 5:04am
This is my first, and i will be at a hospital, but wih a midwife, my boyfriend and sister. I wanted my mom and mry othe sister to be there too (if she made it from California in time) but the hospital has a strict 2 person limit
post #57 of 67
11/22/07 at 12:35pm
At the birth center with midwife. We're not inviting anyone extra. DH, of course, and perhaps the midwife's appprentice who I adore.

I wish we could have DD there but there isn't anyone around that we feel comfortable asking to accompany her. That would mean inviting someone else to the birth, and there's no one else I would be comfortable having there.

So, Here's the plan: going into labout at 7am. Have baby by noon. Home in time to order pizza for supper. Then we all get to go to bed and rest peacefully.

Sounds possible, right??

g.
post #58 of 67
11/23/07 at 10:39am
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Originally Posted by aishy View Post
Come home ! You can birth in my house
I miss you, and your little boys too :
Heehee. that would be nice. then I'd have 3 Texans!

BTW, Mom's graduation is May 20, she wants us to come then. So if you could plan your birth around that it would be awesome :

I am hijacking threads all over the place today...
post #59 of 67
11/23/07 at 1:21pm
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Originally Posted by BeanyMama View Post
Heehee. that would be nice. then I'd have 3 Texans!

BTW, Mom's graduation is May 20, she wants us to come then. So if you could plan your birth around that it would be awesome :

I am hijacking threads all over the place today...
Actually Im hoping for May 19, so we'll see ; ) Not that I get to choose, I mean, really Marsha! Haven't you heard my complaints about planning when babies are born without medical reason? LOL

Okay, i'm going to leave your jan board in peace now ... ; )
ais
post #60 of 67
11/23/07 at 2:24pm
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Originally Posted by aishy View Post
Actually Im hoping for May 19, so we'll see ; ) Not that I get to choose, I mean, really Marsha! Haven't you heard my complaints about planning when babies are born without medical reason? LOL

Okay, i'm going to leave your jan board in peace now ... ; )
ais
what? no scheduled c section?
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