My experience with a male OB was this:
He was VISBILY delighted to hear me say these things:
"I want a labor without pain medications of any kind, if that is possible."
"I want to breastfeed my child as long as I can, and start right away."
"I want to have as few interventions as possible in my labor."
He supported my choice to have my son room-in with me, and supported the lack of pain meds in my labor. He did not episiotomy me. He is a great doctor, with an excellent manner, and I was sorry to see him move.
However, this OB had moved to his wife's rural, not especially lucrative to practice in, hometown to make sure that they were available to her parents, so that they were not alone in their old age. Once her mom passed on, and her family had all moved away, they moved their extended family back to his family's home area so her dad would have a larger extended family network to depend on. Thus I think his practice method simply reflects his overall attitudes to life, family, and people in general.
I think if we look at all the excellent practitioners of any sort of medicine, we will find that those practitioners who are compassionate and loving in all aspects of their lives are the same ones.
My two pennies, and of course YMMV