Anyone with depression/anxiety?

[bygones75]

I do fine when DH is home, but when he leaves on another trip, I start to feel those nasty depressed/anxious feelings. A big part of it is fatigue; between the two boys, I'm hardly getting any sleep. And just as big a part of it is lonliness. When it was just Thomas, we got out all the time. Now, between the fact that James screams his head off in the car, and dealing with different nap times, I don't leave my house. And motherhood with little ones is very isolating on one's own.

Anyway, I can't stand feeling anxious. I was medicated for both depression and anxiety as a teenager, and don't want to go that route again. I'm hoping it will get easier as time passes. Right?? Tell me it will.

[candyapplez]

it will ! do you have anyone who could swing by? I've gtten my coffee fix the last couple weeks that way.

[HeatherB]

As I sit her swallowing my fish oil capsules, I figure it might be helpful to recommend them to you! My MW says fish oil can really help with mood and mental state issues like depression. There are many other things it can affect, too, including memory (I need help there!!). So it might be worth trying.

And, yes, I absolutely think it will get better! I also agree that having people come to you would be a great idea. Get the socialization you need without the stress of getting out of the house!

[DoomaYula]

Hugs. It will get better, and easier. It's a huge transition from 1 kid to 2 (so they tell me; as you know I had twins first. But I had a lot of trouble when we went from 2 kids to 3 kids. It got easier after a few months.)

[bygones75]

You all are making me feel better; thanks so much.

Heather, I take flax seed oil. Isn't that the same idea as the fish oil (EFA's) or is the fish oil in particular better for depression?

After I posted last night, my friend called and I shared with her how I was feeling (read: started crying hysterically) so she's coming with breakfast today. And I asked my brother to stop by during witching hour in the evening. So that's made Ryan's leaving easier to take.

[hammycakes]

Try getting outside a bit in the morning, too. That really improves my mood a lot.
Do you think James has reflux? Also, I wanted to mention that Hazel now hates the car, too. You're not alone!

[Aeress]

*hugs* I totally understand and I will admit I went back on zoloft. I hate feeling anxious and the zoloft really helps me and I use rescue remedy to help in the evening. I have set up dates with friends so I can get out and about, they are weekly, so I can get some adult chatting in while still taking care of the kids.

[bygones75]

Originally Posted by hammycakes

Do you think James has reflux?

I'm not positive, but he's certainly acting reflux-y. Thomas had it terribly, with the projectile vomiting, etc. James may be more the silent type. But I can't feed him without him writhing for a couple hours afterwards at night. Which means walking with him upright the whole time.

Sorry about Hazel and the car. It's very frustrating. I'm going to try to get to the post office today (2 miles down the road.) Baby steps, baby steps.

[bygones75]

Originally Posted by brendon

*hugs* I totally understand and I will admit I went back on zoloft. I hate feeling anxious and the zoloft really helps me and I use rescue remedy to help in the evening. I have set up dates with friends so I can get out and about, they are weekly, so I can get some adult chatting in while still taking care of the kids.

I'm glad the Zoloft helps, Karen. I've been thinking about it too, but waiting it out a bit. Rescue Remedy has been doing nothing for me. I think I'd have to down the whole bottle in one gulp. Glad you're getting out with friends. That's my goal for this week... DH is home on Thurs night, so I'm going to see if I can get a friend to go out with me for a bit.

[Stayseeliz]

Originally Posted by bygones75

I'm not positive, but he's certainly acting reflux-y. Thomas had it terribly, with the projectile vomiting, etc. James may be more the silent type. But I can't feed him without him writhing for a couple hours afterwards at night. Which means walking with him upright the whole time.

Sorry about Hazel and the car. It's very frustrating. I'm going to try to get to the post office today (2 miles down the road.) Baby steps, baby steps.

DD acts "refluxy" too..I cut out milk, cheese and caffeine and it's really helping!!

I have a bit of the blues. I'm just trying to get out of the house more and get as much sleep as possible. I'm going to get new prenatals today too! I did Zoloft for about a month after DD1 was born and never again. It made me feel AWFUL!!

Hang in there..It does get better!!

[kleines]

I wish we lived close by. My DH is gone a lot too, and I am alone a lot. I have depression issues too. I get so damn lonely, I just sit here and cry sometimes. I feel so embarrased to ask anyone to come over. Most of my friends don't have kids so they just aren't much comfort. I don't know many people in this town, and those I do know I am not on those terms with. The tv has been my only lifeline lately, that is so bad! DH was here all weekend it was so nice. He left this morning and I have been sad all day.

For the depression; I have tried all the natural remedies to no avail unfortunately. I had to go on Wellbutrin during my pregnancy, and will continue on it until at least this Spring. I will try to go off of it then. I won't try during the winter, because my issues get the worst then.

You aren't alone, we all have each other. I wish we could all live nearby. A giant commune type thing with families that have similar ideals, wouldn't that be cool?!

[mama_daba]

i am having a fair amount f depression and anxiety and my partner has not been away from me for more than a few hours since dmitri was born i am not sure what i would do if he was away more than he has been already.
right now i am kinda ok with him around and in some ways i do better when he is gone because i have to do better but it is so hard.

[bygones75]

Originally Posted by kleines

You aren't alone, we all have each other. I wish we could all live nearby. A giant commune type thing with families that have similar ideals, wouldn't that be cool?!

I think about that all the time. People look at me funny when I say it (unless they're a mom who's in the same situation!) We're not meant to do this alone.

I'm sorry you're feeling so sad. Wish we could hang out with a cup of tea right now. Kleines and Thomas could run around like little crazy men and we could just hold the babies and chat.

Hang in there. Sending you a big hug.

[bygones75]

Originally Posted by Stayseeliz

DD acts "refluxy" too..I cut out milk, cheese and caffeine and it's really helping!!

I cut them out too. No difference... but holding upright after his feedings for about ten minutes seems to help a bit. So maybe it is reflux. Hope he outgrows it!

[bygones75]

Originally Posted by moonfroggy

right now i am kinda ok with him around and in some ways i do better when he is gone because i have to do better but it is so hard.

I know what you mean.

[hammycakes]

Originally Posted by bygones75

I cut them out too. No difference... but holding upright after his feedings for about ten minutes seems to help a bit. So maybe it is reflux. Hope he outgrows it!

Hazel seems to be getting better than she was a few weeks ago. She isn't spitting up as much, even though the burps sound really "wet" (ew!) still.
Is James still grunting so much at night? She is not doing it as much now and I can tell that she is trying to get gas out when she does, so I'm not as worried.

[bygones75]

Originally Posted by hammycakes

Hazel seems to be getting better than she was a few weeks ago. She isn't spitting up as much, even though the burps sound really "wet" (ew!) still.
Is James still grunting so much at night? She is not doing it as much now and I can tell that she is trying to get gas out when she does, so I'm not as worried.

It's definitely better (in terms of the grunting.) Though he's still incredibly gassy. He is the stinkiest baby! I'm hoping his tummy troubles get better as his digestive system matures. The hours of being up after he eats at night are rough.

Though... the two year old is up more often at night than James. So I should give the poor baby credit where it's due to him.

[Hippiemommie]

I'm feeling on the edge of depression. DS 2 cries from about 8pm till DH gets home which is about 1am. I hate him working second shift. Plus he drives 1 hr to work and 1 hr home. I also wish that I lived in a communal type setting. I think life would be much easier. It would also be nice if DS2 didn't hate the car so bad and my house wasn't such a mess. to all the other Mamas out there.

I'm not going to jinx myself but I read a lot about block feeding and reflux and I believe our problem with DS2's crying and fussiness has been from overactive letdown and over supply. It's 10pm and he hasn't cried yet ::KNOCKING ON WOOD!!!::

[bygones75]

Originally Posted by Hippiemommie

I'm not going to jinx myself but I read a lot about block feeding and reflux and I believe our problem with DS2's crying and fussiness has been from overactive letdown and over supply. It's 10pm and he hasn't cried yet ::KNOCKING ON WOOD!!!::

Mama.

Last night, I could *feel* how strong the the milk was coming out. And then James was up for two hours after the feeding. So I guess I need to increase the blocks.

Hope your little guy had a much better night!

[Stayseeliz]

Originally Posted by Hippiemommie

I'm feeling on the edge of depression. DS 2 cries from about 8pm till DH gets home which is about 1am. I hate him working second shift. Plus he drives 1 hr to work and 1 hr home. I also wish that I lived in a communal type setting. I think life would be much easier. It would also be nice if DS2 didn't hate the car so bad and my house wasn't such a mess. to all the other Mamas out there.

I'm not going to jinx myself but I read a lot about block feeding and reflux and I believe our problem with DS2's crying and fussiness has been from overactive letdown and over supply. It's 10pm and he hasn't cried yet ::KNOCKING ON WOOD!!!::

DD has a fussy period at night too. Usually from around 10:30-2:00am or so. It is wearing me OUT! And DH has to be at work at 6am so he goes to bed at10 so I'm all alone to deal with it! He would help if I asked but I figure someone needs to be getting sleep around here! Last night I swaddled her as soon as she got fussy though and kept her in the swaddle and rocked her until she fell asleep. That really helped!! Hoping that works again!

I went and bought expensive prenatals yesterday and I hope they help! I agree that we're not meant to do this alone..It's really hard!