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post #21 of 27
Yeah, some days I fear I am headed down that road again. My ppd was pretty bad with Sofia, and I have been praying and hoping that it would be better this time. It has, a little. Ellen is a much easier baby than Sofia was, and that definitely helps. But I am still dealing with grief/loss issues over Amalie, wondering what she would have looked like, and what our lives would be like right now had she lived. All normal, I know, but still hard. And made harder by the fact that Sofia keeps asking when Amalie will "get out of heaven" and come join our family. Sigh.

I looked up some advice on dealing with/preventing ppd without meds. One of the biggest factors seemed to be to get enough rest. They advocated shelving housework or hiring help, as well as hiring help with childcare. Uh, yeah. Obviously written by someone who either does not have children, does not mind living in a pigsty (for me, it only adds to my depression) or who has unlimited funds or doesn't mind going way into debt for this stuff. Good grief.

Mine is better when dh is home too, which I have heard is pretty usual for ppd. As when Sofia was a baby, I find myself almost sitting on my hands some days to keep myself from calling and asking him to come home early. He has been trying to be a little extra helpful and kind to me since one morning when we got into a horrible fight and I was pretty explicit with him about what I am going through. I try not to talk to him too much about it, though as I have in the past been accused of whining or wallowing. He seems to handle it much better if he sees me struggling but doesn't hear me talk about it. Weird. Maybe its a guy thing...

(((Hugs))) to all of us. I too wish we all lived closer! How awesome would it be to be able to meet and let our older dcs run wild while we sat and relaxed and commiserated!
post #22 of 27
*hugs* mamas

I had baby blues bad, it seems to be passing. I spent so long planning my birth I really felt let down when it was all over, I just sort of crashed.

I agree with PP, letting the housework go makes it worse for me. theoretically I am "resting" on the couch surfing the net but really, getting up and cleaning up the mess really helps me feel like a) I've accomplished something and b) I don't live in a pit!

I have been trying to get out EVERY day, because DD1 is super high needs and staying at home drives her (and therefore, me) insane.

the time change hasn't helped, it gets dark so early I feel like the early evening until DH gets home just draaaaaags on.
post #23 of 27
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Dena, I've been thinking about you and Amalie... how the joy we've all felt for our births must be interspersed with grief in your case. How hard for you. I think you're very brave.

I said a prayer today for you.
post #24 of 27
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the time change hasn't helped, it gets dark so early I feel like the early evening until DH gets home just draaaaaags on.
I was thinking the same thing. I hate daylight savings time!! And since in my case DH doesn't usually come home at night, it's dreadful. I actually went to the park today, in the rain and gloom. Better than sitting at home, and Thomas had fun.

My mom, dad, and one of my brothers are all on call if it gets bad to visit in the 5-7 period before bedtime. That helps too.
post #25 of 27
Daylight savings can kiss my butt! My baby seems to have some gas issues too. I think I have over active letdown. I read the article on Kellymom and we have a lot of the signs. I have tried some of the positions, but none of them were really successful for us. Lucky for me, the gas/fussy time is during the day..usually the evening. It makes it a lot harder when it is in the middle of the night. At least for me it does!

I try to get out of the house too. It is hard though, the baby seems to hate his car seat! DS1 gets really stressed by the crying too. I can't really go for much of a walk yet, still bleeding pretty badly. I have a stinking toothache that has kept us home this week. I see the dentist tomorrow and that butthead better help me!

Since we can't live in a commune unfortunately, maybe we can offer online support. I have google talk and would love to chat online. I usually sit here alone after 8m (central time). PM me if you want to chat!
post #26 of 27
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lol. Bonnie, I am in BED by 7:30!! It's the only way I can make it through the night!! But if that changes, you'll be hearing from me.

So tonight I tried something my friend recommended: I gave James gas drops *before* I did his first night nursing. And he went back to sleep after some grunting and squirming. No two hours of torture. Wow. Normally, I use homeopathic carbo veg with both boys, but it doesn't seem to work with James. So I'll stick with the mylacon for a while.

James hates the car seat too. Though I ordered him a mirror and I hope that it helps for the horrid car rides. Thomas is stressed by the crying too... he keeps saying, "It Ok, baby, it ok, baby!" So sad.

Well, both my kids are sleeping well tonight and I can't sleep. Figures. I'm going to go raid the fridge now...
post #27 of 27
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Originally Posted by bygones75 View Post
Dena, I've been thinking about you and Amalie... how the joy we've all felt for our births must be interspersed with grief in your case. How hard for you. I think you're very brave.

I said a prayer today for you.
Thank you. It is hard, but I keep reminding myself that had she lived she would be going through surgeries and a lot of pain right now, and so maybe this is better. I know her spirit is still around, watching over us, and waiting until the time is right for her to join our family in bodily form, whenever that may be.

I am so glad you got a break with both kids sleeping last night! That must have been nice - even if you were wide awake. I hate when that happens! :

I agree with everyone about the time change. Darkness coming earlier just SUCKS! I walked out of the store last night at 4 freaking 30 in the afternoon and it was almost dark already. Our neighbors whose son was born in December told me it was a hard time of the year to have a newborn. Guess I should have believed her! Oh, well, given the spike in Sofia's spirited behaviors a couple of months after I got pg, if we had waited any longer, she probably would have been an only child!
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