Wow, I can't imagine being mad at 32-26 weekers because they are "just feeder/growers". I also think this is so false. Many babies born in those weeks are coming early because they have chromosomal and or structural abnormalities that are life threatening, their mother's body is failing to support them and they have fallen way behind in growth or their brains are at risk, and often they can need risky surgery. Babies in this gestational range are STILL at risk for the dreaded and deadly NEC and other infections. Breastfeeding is NOT as simple as you make it out to be either. I don't even know from your post if I am allowed to think I had it truly rough because according to you only pre-28 weekers do. Since I fell in the 29-31 weeks category you don't mention whether or not I get to think I had it easy or hard:. I could just as easily say you had it easy cause you only had one baby in the NICU and I had two or your baby lived and one of mine died. Very harsh! I don't get 37+ week mamas calling their kids preemie because it is clinically wrong according to all medical definitions but any preemie can have issues and real serious ones at that. As for comparing weeks in the NICU, I found that the first two or three weeks were the worst. You are in an alien and scary place you don't understand with a sick child and feeling trauma and poor health recovering from birth. None of my months in the NICU were fun, but any parent who has been in there long or short gets the sheer terror of those confusing early days. I have found this list to be very helpful to women of all gestational preemie ages and found the parents of babies born before mine at 31 weeks to be as sensitive to the pain of our experience as we were to theirs.