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This occurred to me today: My son will enjoy a normal sex life because he is intact. My daughter is not guaranteed a normal sex life because her husband may be circumcised.
post #2 of 141
I have thought about this too. I wonder what are the odds my daughter will find and fall in love with an intact man (although I do not assume to know her sexual orientation).
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Originally Posted by janellesmommy View Post
This occurred to me today: My son will enjoy a normal sex life because he is intact. My daughter is not guaranteed a normal sex life because her husband may be circumcised.

ummm..definition check on "normal"???
post #4 of 141
I know, I was thinking the same thing. : Okay, well, don't have a daughter yet, but I hope to someday. I'm going to discuss it with her though, when she's a teen.

On a lighter note, I was thinking of shipping this hypothetical future daughter off to Europe. I'll make sure she can speak French or Italian or something first. : Is that wrong? :
post #5 of 141
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Originally Posted by SierraJ View Post
ummm..definition check on "normal"???
Natural? Not painful? The way God and nature intended? Although circ'ed sex may be the norm in the US, in the span of mankind's years on earth it is not normal.
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Originally Posted by LionTigerBear View Post
Natural? Not painful? The way God and nature intended? Although circ'ed sex may be the norm in the US, in the span of mankind's years on earth it is not normal.

ahhh....definately makes sense. gracias.
post #7 of 141
I can't honestly say I've thought that far ahead...FWIW my DH is circumcised and our sex life is just fine. Of course neither one of us knows the alternative...but I hope no one feels sorry for me.

I'm NOT FOR circumcison...I'm just saying. Any future sons we have will NOT be getting circumcised.
post #8 of 141
I don't have a daughter so that thought hadn't occured to me, but sometimes I do worry about the women ds will meet. What if one of them really does pressure him about getting cut? I mean I know only a really shallow woman would do it, but I still don't want him feeling baddly about himself, or worse yet making a decision he would later regret for a girl. It would be so much better if circ wasn't the norm in the US. THen we wouldn't have to worry about these things.
post #9 of 141
janellesmommy,

Sad, and mostly true except it assumes our children will be heterosexual.

Jen

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Some good resources explaining how circumcision drastically impacts normal sex, here are some resources for anyone who's interested:

How Male Circumcision May Be Affecting Your Love Life
by Dr. Christine Northrup


The Prepuce, Part 1:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r9DoCn3gATE

The Prepuce, Part 2:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ps1dkbcOKfA

The Lost List:
http://www.norm.org/lost.html

The Three Zones of Penile Skin:
http://www.foreskin.org/3zones-c.htm
post #10 of 141
This is a really weird thread! I would just support your daughter to have a healthy sex life with whoever she falls in love with - man, woman, circ'ed or not. Sheesh.
post #11 of 141
I never thought about that...
post #12 of 141
But your ds might be gay, and might have a circumcised partner. Just a thought.

If he is heterosexual, his female partner might have had an episiotomy, which is genital cutting, too.
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Originally Posted by phreedom View Post
I can't honestly say I've thought that far ahead...FWIW my DH is circumcised and our sex life is just fine. Of course neither one of us knows the alternative...but I hope no one feels sorry for me.

I'm NOT FOR circumcison...I'm just saying. Any future sons we have will NOT be getting circumcised.
But see...that's the "just fine" thing that many people use to justify it (and luckily you are not). People will circ their boys and say they're "just fine" or choose not to bf and say they turned out "just fine" but lots of times they DON'T turn out "just fine"...they just don't know that the child has decreased sexual sensitivity, they think it's normal and "just fine"...they don't know that their child getting sick 6 times a year is not normal and is really not "just fine" (btw, not saying ALL babies not bf get sick that often...you know what I mean lol). Therea re a lot of "just fine" excuses in parenting, but what they think is "just fine" is actually NOT "just fine" in comparison.

But I am glad if the two fo you are happy - clearly you cannot change the past, only the future, and make the best of the present.
post #14 of 141
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Originally Posted by janellesmommy View Post
This occurred to me today: My son will enjoy a normal sex life because he is intact. My daughter is not guaranteed a normal sex life because her husband may be circumcised.
It never occurred yo me that there was a big difference(for the woman) when it comes to sex with an intact versus Circ'd man, care to enlighten me? Dh is intact btw so I may just be clueless since it's been so long since I was with a circ man.
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Originally Posted by jeca View Post
It never occurred yo me that there was a big difference(for the woman) when it comes to sex with an intact versus Circ'd man, care to enlighten me? Dh is intact btw so I may just be clueless since it's been so long since I was with a circ man.
More lubrication, there's the whole gliding effect of the foreskin. In my experience, the one intact guy I was with was REALLY good and now taht I think back, I think it was the foreskin....but I haven't been with enough guys intact and circ'd to really be able to compare it. lol
post #16 of 141
I wouldn't worry about it. I mean, one doesn't even need to have a penis involved at all to have a normal sex life let alone a foreskin. I think there are plenty of people out here with perfectly fulfilling fantastic sex lives without foreskins involved.


ETA: There is just so much more to fulfilling sex than any sort of physical characteristic.
post #17 of 141
ooooh, the creeps come out at night.
post #18 of 141
I thought about that yesterday. I had only had very comfortable sex once. It has always been rough feeling. That one time was with a half circed male. Don't know what the story was, but just the tip was gone. He had plenty of skin left to retract. I wish dh was intact.
post #19 of 141
DH not having a foreskin brought our sex life to a halt after I birthed an 11 lb baby! Sex was always uncomfortable & made me sore for a day or so, but it was unbearably painful after baby. Now that he is restoring, it is 100x better! Interesting thread...
post #20 of 141
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ooooh, the creeps come out at night.
huh?

I think its a huge leap to say that you (general) might be having uncomfortable sex and therefore it's something to worry about for your daughter! There are just so many other variables that could come into play.
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