Where is the old thread we did this to death on already? (I am catching up & just caught the first & last pages. The last one I mentioned my adult dd & wondering for her sake & recieved the same 'eek! you shouldn't think of such things!' response, though there was much valuable discussion as well.)
So here's my update:
Dd (20) has since gotten her first bf, & he is Puerto Rican (from Puerto Rico), & I haven't asked, but she has been walking about 3 ft off the ground since they began a physical relationship
. I think she got the message.
I am separating from my dh, & a primary cause is suck-ass sex (but if he wasn't being a turd otherwise, I wouldn't have left over it). So hello, pro-circ relatives having spasms over our divorce? (I don't know why, since I won't keep the kids from seeing anyone, & in fact moved 800 miles closer to an inlaw, but the fact remains that they are very freaked.) Great sex might
have kept me around. Just a thought. You even screwed up his ability to masturbate properly without lube or rubbing himself raw, won't being single be just a blast for him?
If (when!) I date, I will be happy to enjoy 'normal' sex (with a man
) if that is who I am attracted to & we hook up (and where I moved, my odds are a lot better
), & I am certainly not looking for anything but FWB after this
, but if a guy I like ends up to be circ'd, I will be sad it happened to him (and educate him why- the bumper sticker is going to elicit some conversation, I imagine!), but of course I would still like him, enjoy the sex (since it isn't mandatory for newly divorced ladies
- unenjoyable sex isn't going to be a frequent thing in my new life), & not 'reduce people to their genitals'.
I am glad my dd is educated & knows what she wanted, & had the ability to make an informed choice in lovers. I can't see anything weird or wrong about that (and if anyone thinks she somehow got intactively brainwashed & picked a bf to please Mum, puhLEEZE. But even with teenagers determined to rebel, there are some things so self-evidently destructive even they won't condone them.
There is no friend of my dd's that doesn't know the function of the foreskin or think that circ is revolting, cruel, inhuman. These are today's young adult women, a different American generation. One that won't HAVE to settle, for lack of choice, if they decide normal (hetero or homo) sexuality with whole genitals is something they would prefer to live with. If pro-cutters think the girls their sons will date won't find out and know, they are wrong. If pro-cutters think their sons won't figure it out, they are mistaken.
(PS If it is 'creepy' to speak of the masturbation habits of grown offspring, then why advocate sticking your proboscis in their sex lives enough to consider removing a functional sex organ from them & their partners for the rest of their lives? Now that's creepy!)