just as an intact partner does not automatically guarentee a great sex life.
There is so much more involved then just the foreskin when it comes to good and bad sex.
I also find it strange that I read posts on here about how awful parents who circ are for caring about what their childs penis looks like. How it's awful to care about those things (perverted even), yet it's okay to think about your toddlers and newborns future sex life as connected to whether they find a partner with a foreskin. I've quite honostly never considerd my 4 year olds future sex life.
Also, I find it funny that everyone here seems to be agreeing that she'll probably run into circ'd partners, yet at the same time are posting statistics that show the circ rate really low (especially if she lives or ends up living on the west coast). Personally I think those rates are overblown and that the circ rate is higher then being posted here and in reality she probably will end up with a circ'd partner. Just found it funny that no one seemed to assume she had a good chance of finding an intact parter.
I will attempt to address the bolded parts in order:
1) First, this is a total red herring. But, beyond that, many here do not think its perverted, though sometimes if relatives or friends are badgering a mother or father about choosingnot to circumcise, we will tell them that their choices are none of their business. I stay away from telling people "my kid's penis is none of your business" because it is ambiguous when you look at our goal to stop circumcision.
We aren't constantly focused on these boys' penises, we are focused on stopping mutilation of said body part; but the two are so closely linked it can sometimes become confusing to people. It's not the penis that is our business, it is the action of circumcision, of mutilation, of skinning of said penis that is our business.
I think worrying about a future sexual experience of one's daughter as it relates to circumcision is just a projection of how we think about the greater problem. I worry the rates will not continue to fall, but I am confident they will. But there is that confliction and worry. There is nothing wrong or perverted about that worry...that circumcision rates will remain high in this country (leading to further circumcised adults....the cycle continues)
Also, worrying about a daughter marrying a circumcised man can be very real because, as we see time and time again, circumcised men often push hard to have the child done as well.
2) Living in the USA, I know how it feels to embrace the numbers falling but also to fear their rise. It is a conflict inside of me...much of it depends on how the AAP rules...they are currently rethinking their circumcision stance and are due to release the new stance in a few months time.
In threads like this that fear is going to be more apparent. Sometimes it is just like that. that doesn't mean there isn't a ton of hope on this board-- or even within myself-- but when we talk of fears, as this OP is, it brings out the thought of fears in all of us.
3) obviously even you have those fears according to your comment here. But the numbers dont lie. On the west coast, not many boys are being cut anymore. The numbers are falling everywhere...and while there are bris's not being counted in many of those numbers, there are also homebirths and birth centers not being counted.
So we continue to hope and work hard for our goal.