it's funny... while preg it sort of occurred to me... the lo was going to lkook more like my husband (who is mixed) than me (i'm white). and what sort of issues would he face, as a brown kidm that i wouldn't understyand as a middle-class white woman? then he was born white! which surprised me, and makes me wonder what other issues he'll have to deal with.
but he's only 10 months... he may get colour later. my husband and his sibs were born white and only got their colour later. (my mil told me that when her eldest was born, she was the only black mama on the maternity ward, and one of the nurses thought she was taking someone else's baby!
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how much time do you spend with your in-laws? maybe spending more time with that half of the family would help them see themselves as part of that culture? are there any ethnic foods/traditions from that side of the family that you could try to incorporate in your daily life?
it's funny how the concept of "white" changes depending on where you are... when we were in africa my mil told me that one of neighbours asked her "who that white guy is staying with you" - meaning my husband, whom no one here would ever call white!
but he's only 10 months... he may get colour later. my husband and his sibs were born white and only got their colour later. (my mil told me that when her eldest was born, she was the only black mama on the maternity ward, and one of the nurses thought she was taking someone else's baby!
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Originally Posted by meowee
 It also bothers me a little that my kids have no real identity or understanding of being any race other than white (except for my one daughter who does look ethnic-- she calls herself "medium dark"). When in fact they have at least 2 races/ cultures in them and I wish they understood this better. They definitely see their dad as "other" and "not like them" because his skin color is so different from theirs. (This despite all our explaining!)
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Originally Posted by Alathia
My son is half viet, half caucasian. All the white people I know say he looks totally like me, whereas all the asian people I've ever encountered take one glance at him and know he's got caucasian in him.
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