Wanted to echo khrisday's response. I just completed a parenting communication workshop at the preschool I am trying to get dd into. They did teach that when a toddler is going bananas and stop or no doesn't work that it is ok to gently stop them by wrapping them in your arms, taking them down to the floor level, and just holding them there - immobilising them basically. If they start kicking and flailing then you increase the hold and also get their legs immobilised with your own legs - gently. While they are freaking out you say things like "I can see you are very upset" or "I know you really wanted to: (insert item) go to the beach, stay out playing, eat more candy, etc.." Acknowledging their upset without using the authoritarian model or threatening or bribing. It's just acknowledgin their feeling but enforcing the boundaries that going crazy physically is not ok.
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8/23/03 at 5:07pm
