I'm sorry Christine. That must have been so hard.
I will not be getting an u/s or any tests. The only reason I would want to get an u/s is to make sure there is a baby in there and growing. But I just want to believe I will grow a healthy baby and think positive.
Last time I started at an OB and had one at 8 wks and one at 12 wks when they couldn't find the HB with a doppler. This time I might ask my midwife not to even try to find the hb until 14 or 16 wks because I don't want to go through that fear again (especially since I want to avoid u/s). I refused a 20 wk u/s because by that time I had done some research and wanted to avoid having anymore.
The main reason I don't want to have any u/s this time is because I have heard SO MANY stories about women being needlessly freaked out by u/s (things like wrong measurements for kidneys, wholes in the brain, heart anatomy, size of baby-- too big or too small, signs of down's syndrome, etc.) And ALL of these stories turned out to be that the women were worried for NO reason at all and their babies turned out to be fine.
Conversely, I know a women who had all the tests and ultrasounds and they were all fine--- she turned out to have a baby with a severe genetic disorder and died at 4 wks old
For these reasons I have decided not to put myself (or the baby) through an u/s. I really hope everything goes well and I don't have to have any-- or any tests at all.
Last pg I also had a quad screen. I went through a hellish month or 2 deciding whether to have it. With all the false positives that occur, I decided not to have one this time. I feel relieved about it.
I am so glad that I am with a group of ladies who are open about the prospect of not getting tests or u/s. With my last pg I didn't know about MDC and I was part of a mainstream DDC-- everyone thought I was a total weirdo for not wanting a 20 wk u/s
:. Most women wanted as many u/s as they could get. Some even went to shopping malls to get u/s.
Thanks for listening.