I shouldn't be this disappointed!

[BarefootinBrooklyn]

At my 39 week check up today, the dr. checked my cervix---

20% effaced
soft
but still CLOSED

I don't know why I thought she might say, "Wow, you're 4 centimeters! How did you do it??" and be so impressed by my amazing body.

I guess it's time to pick the walking back up
eat a pineapple
make the trek to Studio City for this salad???
start "gettin' it on" a little more?
Mother-To-Be Tea?

Part of my frustration is that my mom has a plane ticket for the 18th, I'm due the 20th, and she can pretty much only stay 2 weeks...I wonder if I should tell her to postpone her trip a week...

I shouldn't be this disappointed. :Baby will be here when she's ready! I hate that I'm getting sucked into the impatience, but I'm really thinking about having my membranes sweeped/stripped next week, just to help things along.

I just want to meet my baby...

[Valerieg]

You're not alone...honestly I don't think I've ever talked to any PG woman that wasn't at least a little impatient near the end. Even people who are content with being PG and feeling good still start to get impatient.

But remember that dilation and effacement mean nothing. You could wake up in labor tonight! Heck, you could have been the full 4 cm dilated and still go two weeks. So try not to think too much about that.

Hearing this gave me the strength to say no to a cervical check tomorrow. I've been holding strong but got curious and was going to give in tomorrow. But I know if they tell me I'm closed I'll feel just as you do.

Just keep up the natural birth induction stuff you've been doing. This baby will come when it is ready.

[Da WIC Lady]

I know it's so hard not to be disappointed. I'll be 41 weeks Wednesday and I'm so wanting the OB to strip/sweep membranes if possible. And I don't want to see the PA again... she's such a servile twit sometimes the way she mindlessly spews lawyerisms at me. I'm also thinking about trying to get in to seeing the acupuncturist tomorrow since Thursday is going to be right out. I'm starting to get impatient and I know the doc is with the way I was shuttled over for a NST last week immediately after my check up. Then again, I'm kinda wanting to wait until Friday night to have the baby because that's when DH will be here.

Anna

[BarefootinBrooklyn]

My alternate title for this was going to be "NOW I understand why people decline the cervical checks..."

I had friends that were surprised I hadn't been checked yet at 36 weeks, but I was glad my Dr. at least waited this long to offer it.

Thank goodness for that natural induction methods list sticky at the top of our board...I'm going to do something each day!

Most of all though, I need to relax. I have a feeling the baby will wait for me to get some good quality ME time in before she shows up. She seems sort of polite that way. I've had a great pregnancy so far, and I should meditate on that, and meditate on the birth of my dreams, and I'm sure that relaxation will make things a lot easier when the time comes.

[maisiedotes]

I feel your pain. I was 25% effaced but completely closed 2 weeks ago an I think it will be the same at my next appointment. I am getting quite impatient. And anxious. I am going to start dressing our dog up in diapers and baby clothes to satisfy my urge to play with the baby stuff...

: I am ready. Bring on the babies!

[pixiedust]

that's why I've been to scared to get checked this time around.. I'm terrified she'll tell me I haven't dilated any yet! I know that doesn't really mean much but in MY head it does LOL

[MandarijnOrange]

I can SO relate to this. I had one cervical check at 36 weeks which was 1cm and soft. Since then I've avoided them because a) they aren't exactly fun and b) I figured not knowing was easier to deal with. Now I'm coming up on 41 weeks this Friday. My appointment on Wednesday will be with an NST and ultrasound (because I have GD).

I freaked myself out last night with the statistics on the occurance of stillbirths increasing at 42 weeks and doubling by 44 weeks. :

Now, I'm thinking I should let her do the membrane sweep which doesn't even always work. /sigh I don't want to be induced, but I don't want to risk the health of my baby either just for the sake of being 'patient' or 'strong'.

I'm really starting to feel confused about the whole thing.

[adon]

i'm 40w today (by my second EDD) and i have finally asked MW to check me tonight. it will be my first internal. i am going to get "sweeped". i know it may do nothing, but it may help too.

i posted not to long ago about being depressed when it came past my first EDD.. DS was 3.5 w "late", and i was so certain this one was going to come sooner!! so i had to get past the disappointment of babe NOT coming "on time". does that make any sense?

so i just wanted to offer , and let you know the babe will come sooner than later!! and that you are not alone!

[Izzy's Mom]

I am feeling the frustration and disappointment too - and I am dilated 3-4cm and 75% effaced!!! Of course I've been that way for over 2 weeks which is proof dilation means nothing!

[MamaHippo]

Feeling your pain.. had y first internal check ( on my request) at 38 weeks and was 2 cm and 30% effaced. We were pretty happy at that.. but the next week when she checked me again ( and after I'd had a whole night and day of contractions when I was sure I was in labor), I was..... 2 cm and only slightly more effaced. I will have her check me again on Wednesday at our 40w check, but I know how far I will be.. I'm betting on 2 cm :.

I'm SO ready for this baby to come, and so is my whole family. I know I should not be complaining...but I'm impatient! With DS, I had a 2 week old baby by this point!

[JulieK]

I have an appt today (39w tomorrow) and plan on refusing the check. I was two weeks "late" with ds and felt so aggravated by the checks, probably since I was zero anything every single time and ended up getting induced twice (once at 41w and again at 42w). I don't want to find out that I'm nothing and I don't want to find out that I'm dilated b/c I know it doesn't necessarily mean anything and I don't want to get my hopes up.