Seriously who looks like that....

[BabyBump]

So I thought I would check out a few sites for nursing bras. Why can't they have models who actually look like they may have been recently pregnant!! As if I wasn't feeling about as attractive as a big toe already. Seriously. No more bra shopping for me tonight.:

[salt_phoenix]

lol seriously...

i shopped for and bought a couple of nursing bras over the weekend... the women on the packages? I felt the exact same way...

Not to mention how I felt standing in the store with my maternity support band in hand waiting to pay when I glimpsed the saleswoman showing/offering one to another customer (very young, very thin, tiny pregnant belly) who made a face and said: "oh no, i'd never wear THAT thing!"

Boy did I feel extra attractive and savory.

[trizzle]

maybe she wouldn't wear it now...but I am willing to bet she doesn't really know what is in store for her body. She might be more flexible with her fashion in a few months...
and I am convinced that those models have never nursed anything bigger than a hangover...

[skirsten]

I walked through Victoria's Secret today- BIG mistake. As if the giant posters with near naked, glittered supermodels weren't enough, the manquin's waists were the size of my thigh. I left feeling fat and like my youth/ sexy days are over. And if I have one more female friend tell me how droopy & stretched out I'll be "down there" later... I don't know what Victoria's secret is but I'm realizing a few too many dirty secrets of the Real Woman.

[nolonger]

Just a friendly reminder: those sterile, airbrushed models are ugly. These women are beautiful:

http://www.theshapeofamother.com/

[Dea]

I'm at a point where I refuse to walk into walk into any more maternity store. The last one I walked into was horrid. I was greeted by this woman who hated her job, sneered at me and told me everything they had was designer. (this was in a mall!) Ohhhh I wanted to drag her out of the store by her hair and smear some designer all over her face.
I think I was just too hormonal, but the way she looked at me. Sigh. Granted I wasn't looking all high fashion, but I've done and grown out of all of my mat. clothes! (I suddenly look pregnant) anyhow I've decided I hate shopping for mat. clothes anyhow. I'm short and I have enough troubles finding anything to fit me when I'm not pregnant, now it's doubly hard!
Sigh.
Rant off.

oh on the other hand, bras are the only thing I've been lucky with, odd. And I love the shape of a mother website. I've been reading it since it started just over a year ago. It's great!

[LoveChild421]

Originally Posted by skirsten

And if I have one more female friend tell me how droopy & stretched out I'll be "down there" later...

well I'll tell ya right now that is NOT the case! I was terrified by the stories I had heard (my own mother told me "it looked like a bomb had gone off down there") but I'm being 100% honest when I tell you that everything completely went back to normal down there after I had ds- I really attribute that to not having an episiotomy and pushing slowly (none of that crazy "push as hard as you can to the count of 10" like most drs have you do)- the female body is made to give birth and then go back to normal if we just respect it enough to listen to it and not let anyone cut us.

[Teenytoona]

WRT Maternity bras, I've been looking online, due to my size. I can't remember where, but there's one picture of a woman actually holidng the baby up to nurse, and it's looking at her like "what the hell is going on here?" it's so funny! I will have to find the link!

But yeah, what the OP said!

[flapjack]

I get my bras from the NCT: nice lady comes to my house, measures me up, sells me a bra, I write a cheque, no pretty pictures of skinny wenches involved. Someone in the US (LLL, maybe, or NiNO?) REALLY needs to get into the "properly fitting maternity bras as fundraiser" racket, you'd make a fortune.

[salt_phoenix]

Originally Posted by flapjack

Someone in the US (LLL, maybe, or NiNO?) REALLY needs to get into the "properly fitting maternity bras as fundraiser" racket, you'd make a fortune.

WERD to that sista!



also: funny you mention Victoria's Secret... the same day I was at the maternity store, dh walked me into VS... hoping to find "a pretty bra that would do until you actually NURSE"
the whole time I'm telling him: "honey, they are NOT going to have anything even REMOTELY in the catagory of what I'm looking for."

His idea was, he wanted me to feel BETTER, so he wanted to buy me something NICE... that MAN part of him doesn't understand that taking me to VS while very much too large to fit into any of it was doing just the opposite. Total time in store? 8 seconds.

I hate the mall. :

[smokeylo]

UGH, the bra hunt is such a drag right now. I'm too big for any of the retail stores to carry my size and so far the ones I've ordered fit weird or look weird and I'm wearing this crappy "sleep" bra all the time which has NO SUPPORT whatsoever. My boobs are taking over my body.

[homemademomma]

www.decentexposures.com
i buy all my bras from this company.

[FelixMom]

My PUPPPS rash is again preventing me from wearing any type of bra. Luckily, I'm the type that loves pregnancy and the early months of nursing, if only because it gives me cleavage when I usually have none

As for VS, no stores here in Canada, but we do occasionally order via their catalogue. Mainly for nice panties and the occasional piece of clothing, as I usually don't have the qualifications to wear any of their bras.

Went into Motherhood maternity today and bought a few tops. The sales lady must have been plus size, so no intimidation factor for me there :

[BabyBump]

You all are great!

[applecore]

I wanted to pick up a couple of bras, and the only ones I could wear were.....
Just My Size! Waaaaaahhhhhh! They are so big and ugly! It is really hard to find 38DD. I had to settle for a 40DD, and they only had two in the whole store.

I just don't get how society likes big breasts, but there aren't pretty bras for those of us who actually have them. All the pretty ones are for women with little breasts who want to MAKE them look big! : Mine had just gotten smaller and then I got pregnant. Boo hoo.

[BabyBump]

Applecore-You and I are in the same boat. Mine had gotten smaller finally thanks to a weight loss 4 years ago. Not now.... I need to go bra shopping and I'm going to have to go up to at least a D cup if not more. Yikes.......

[nausicaamom]

You think you have problems - try finding nice bras in a 46DDD. I'm pretty sure I'll probably be jumping up to at least a G if not an H cup when the Bean arrives. Tankfully it'll still be sweater weather so I can hide in my Bravado underneath all those layers.

[nolonger]

I feel you, but have you ever tried finding ANY bra (doesn't have to be nice) in a 34F? It just ain't gonna happen except on eBay. I couldn't find anything without underwires that made me miserably uncomfortable and were bound to cause plugged ducts when my milk comes in.

Finally, I went back to jogging/sports type bras. I gave them up in favour of the eBay hardware because my old ones were choking me, were way too small, and didn't give me enough support, but just on a whim I tried on a higher end model from a sporting goods store (still much cheaper than the hardware model on eBay) and it totally WORKED for me!

IIRC, four babies and 20 years ago I got through Phoenix's pregnancy with sports bras and then just lifted them up for nursing and did FINE until my mother marched in with an excessive quantity of "proper" nursing bras which I had to wear even though it was such a nuisance to keep fastening and unfastening them that I usually walked around with one or both flaps down. At least intellectually, I think the sports bras will be easier, i mean, just yank 'em up and pull 'em down again.

Anyway, that's what I'm doing for now. I'm gigantic and tiny at the same time and I'm pretty sure I'm actually up to a G cup now, but no way am I bigger around the ribcage than a 36 tops, probably still 34.

[the elyse]

Originally Posted by applecore

I just don't get how society likes big breasts, but there aren't pretty bras for those of us who actually have them. All the pretty ones are for women with little breasts who want to MAKE them look big! : Mine had just gotten smaller and then I got pregnant. Boo hoo.

:

i've already bought and outgrown three bras this pregnancy...i didn't think i'd get much bigger than i did with dd. WRONG. i saw a playtex commercial and the bras looked comfy AND supportive for big boobs. i may have to try one and see if it makes me feel like a granny. i have a sleep nursing bra..but i don't feel comfortable with them just ... laying there. i'm only 24 and i want my boobs higher than my elbows thank you very much! obviously i'm exaggerating...i'm pretty sure my uterus is almost to my throat...and my boobs rest on that.

[smokeylo]

Originally Posted by noordinaryspider

I feel you, but have you ever tried finding ANY bra (doesn't have to be nice) in a 34F? It just ain't gonna happen except on eBay. I couldn't find anything without underwires that made me miserably uncomfortable and were bound to cause plugged ducts when my milk comes in.

Finally, I went back to jogging/sports type bras. I gave them up in favour of the eBay hardware because my old ones were choking me, were way too small, and didn't give me enough support, but just on a whim I tried on a higher end model from a sporting goods store (still much cheaper than the hardware model on eBay) and it totally WORKED for me!

IIRC, four babies and 20 years ago I got through Phoenix's pregnancy with sports bras and then just lifted them up for nursing and did FINE until my mother marched in with an excessive quantity of "proper" nursing bras which I had to wear even though it was such a nuisance to keep fastening and unfastening them that I usually walked around with one or both flaps down. At least intellectually, I think the sports bras will be easier, i mean, just yank 'em up and pull 'em down again.

Anyway, that's what I'm doing for now. I'm gigantic and tiny at the same time and I'm pretty sure I'm actually up to a G cup now, but no way am I bigger around the ribcage than a 36 tops, probably still 34.

I'm currently 38 F and probably growing. The website Birth and Baby has HUGE bras available in tons of styles, MANY of them non-underwire. I'm just having trouble finding a style that works well for me. Plus I hate waiting for them to arrive!