post #41 of 88
11/15/07 at 9:30pm
I also think we should pledge....as Non-Flamming Mommas, to
protect those who do get flamed,who are not necessarily ourselves or
those of us in the tribe. I think we might see some turn around here
if there were several mommas who spoke out, and reprimanded flaming.
Now, the job for us is to discern the line between truly warranted
flaming ( which I, so far have rarely seen here ) and someone who
is getting attacked undeservedly. It's also important to address
TRUE concern when it is apparent, but I can usually tell
true concern from blatant castigating.
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Also, we're coming close to crossing the line about discussing other threads negatively and discussing the behavior of other members, even though we're not naming them. That needs to stop, please. Thanks!
I do my best to not flame IRL, but sometimes i do get really pissy
The best thing to do ( and I know it can be hard for us women ) is
to apologize when we do this if it is unwarranted. Admit we were wrong
and do our best to prevent it next time. Be prepared for an awestruck
I am doing allot of glandular and hormone support so it doesn't happen
However there are times when you need to "chew" out someone. If
it's bad enough.
For example, my husband sometimes forgets to feed our daughter...
one night I came in and went to give her some crackers to snack
on and her little hands basically ripped the crackers from my hands
and shoved them into her mouth with her hands shaking horribly.
I almost cried and asked her if she was hungry and she answered
affirmative. That wasn't the first time that has happened. So yes
he got chewed out.
However if someone were to say , leave a dish on the table I don't
think that would be a warranted flame-fest.