I'm still pregnant, still

[aylaanne]

hey ladies, I got a PM from Gina begging me to update y'all, so I thought I'd drop in and tell you what's going on.

Today I'm technically 42 weeks. Yesterday I did a round of castor oil in the hopes that would get things moving, but all I got was a burning bum (and I'm still pooping, it's horrible). I woke up this morning and called my midwife, and we decided that it's ridiculous for me to keep trying to get this baby out when s/he is obviously not ready.

I had a very reactive NST on Monday, and tomorrow I have a BPP, and as long as the BPP looks good (and I think it will) I'm done with actively trying to get this baby out. I got my zen back this morning, after freaking out for a week, and I decided to let go of the outcome here. My body is not broken. I will go into labor eventually, this baby will come out. We have the technology to determine whether or not the baby is in danger, but my feeling, and my midwives' feeling, is that nothing is wrong with the baby.

We played with my cervix for about five minutes on Monday, stretching things out a bit, and one of my midwives is checking with her apprentice to see if she's available today to come over and play with it a little more. Until then, I'm taking it easy, waiting it out, and trusting my body and my baby that things will happen when they're supposed to. I have some crampy stuff, but I'm ignoring it until I can't ignore it anymore. Anything else is ridiculous.

Love you all!

[mommybytheWord]

I hope this helps!


I delivered our 1st at about 43wks. I tried everything too! But that birth was my BEST and easiest! Your body knows what to do and the baby Will come out at the Perfect time!



Good Luck!

[GinaRae]

I keep holding on to that too - Baby will come when ready and my body will probably be MUCH more prepared.

Was I really begging?!

[aylaanne]

You weren't outright begging, but enough that I felt compelled to respond. It's a good thing.

[renaissanceed]

My first was 42 wks 3 days late and yeah, I decided at 42 weeks that there wasn't much we could do to get her to arrive earlier than she wanted. Our NSTs were fine and aside from some walking and a try at castor oil (did nothing), we just waited and voila! she arrived!

All the best to you as you await your first.

[Elena'sMami]

I'm almost at the 42 week mark, and like you, my NSTs are fine, the fluid level is good, and baby seems to be doing well. My sister had two 43 week pregnancies, as did my mom, so we are really trying to avoid the interventions, too. Unfortunately, after 42 weeks (this Saturday), I can't use the birth center (and we don't feel comfy enough to do a UC at home), so it would be a hospital birth, attended by one of our midwives. At 43 weeks, however, the Hospital won't let the midwives attend me, even in a hospital setting, and we know they'll begin screaming for me to agree to induction...sigh. So the dilemma is, how much "intervention" do we try in our attempts to avoid having to go to the hospital?

Yikes. I don't mean to hijack your thread...I was just so relieved to find someone in a similar position... good for you for sticking to your gut feeling, and for your patience

Rebekah

[isosmom]

I'm glad you're staying so positive. And I would say that it'll be worth the wait, no?

[Bonawich]

Sending lots of good vibes your way beautiful women! I'm impressed that both of you are doing so well!

[De-lovely]

You are a strong mama.....good for you for getting your zen back...its so incredibly important.Big big hugs....love and light.

[aylaanne]

Originally Posted by Elena'sMami

I'm almost at the 42 week mark, and like you, my NSTs are fine, the fluid level is good, and baby seems to be doing well. My sister had two 43 week pregnancies, as did my mom, so we are really trying to avoid the interventions, too. Unfortunately, after 42 weeks (this Saturday), I can't use the birth center (and we don't feel comfy enough to do a UC at home), so it would be a hospital birth, attended by one of our midwives. At 43 weeks, however, the Hospital won't let the midwives attend me, even in a hospital setting, and we know they'll begin screaming for me to agree to induction...sigh. So the dilemma is, how much "intervention" do we try in our attempts to avoid having to go to the hospital?

Yikes. I don't mean to hijack your thread...I was just so relieved to find someone in a similar position... good for you for sticking to your gut feeling, and for your patience

Rebekah

Feel free to hijack away, mama. The key to deal with people screaming at you is to maintain a quiet, firm resolve. So when they say "induce!" you say, "is there something wrong with my baby?" and when they say "no, but...." you say "everything after but is bulls***, as long as my baby is fine and I'm fine I'm content to wait, thank you." Make it clear that you're willing to do interventions, but only if you or your baby are at a definitive risk. So, if they do a BPP and your fluid is low, make sure you know how low, and what the range of "normal" is. Insist on not making any decisions until you and your partner have a chance to talk about it without anyone else in the room. And see about getting a doula. And above all, maintain your composure as best you can, and remember that this is YOUR body and YOUR baby, and in the end, no one is responsible for your choices but YOU.

You're going to do great!

[chrysalis]

that is VERY cool that your MW is fine w/ going past the 42 wk mark. many aren't ok w/ it...i notice especially the LM's...mine probably wouldn't let me go past...i'll have to talk w/ her about that JIC!

Ommmmmmmmmmmmmmmm...

[Da WIC Lady]

I'm glad DH is going to be home this weekend. If I don't pop by Monday, we start talking interventions... I'm hoping to get enough natrual prostoglandins out of him to make the synthetic ones pale in comparison! Even if I have to tie him to the bed.

Anna

[Isaac'sMa]

Thanks for the update! These LOs are really on their own timeline right from the beginning, aren't they? I'll bet s/he has a very independent personality