I am a dad of two 7 month old girls, and I try to be as "attached" as possible.
My wife needs a lot of help to get out of the house as we live on the second floor of an apartment building with no elevator. The subway stations we are close to are not baby-friendly. And of course, it's just hard to have twins anyway. She has them all day and is exclusively breastfeeding, which tires her out. So I am in charge of most of whatever I can be. Dinner, laundry, grocery shopping, changing diapers, getting my wife snacks and drinks, and so forth. I go out with them multiple times a week, either after work or on my days off.
I'm not complaining about all that I need to do to make things work around here. I know she has it more difficult than I do. And frankly, I adore my little girls and want to spend all that time and energy on them. The big problem is, I don't really have much expendable time and I need to find a new job, soon.
I'm already feeling a little guilty because I should be in bed. Especially lately, the girls have not been sleeping well through the night, as they've been sick. So every minute counts. I can't stay up all night to find a job when that would leave me absolutely wretched for work and my family. Sometimes I already feel that way anyway based on the time I try to grab as it is.
Anyway, my wife's mat leave will end in February and she will have some pay for a few months after that. But she has no job to go back to. I am working a low-paying, going-nowhere job for a large retail company. My income will not cover what we need now to support everyone. But we'll need more money anyway as we'll need a bigger place in hopefully a better location (easier access for my wife to get out with the girls).
I'm not really looking for help as far as the resume stuff goes. I've played that game and I just don't have the time to make that my prime method of looking for a job. I know the statistics of that route and given how many resumes and cover-letters I can actually complete and send out each week, it's just not that optimistic.
Part of the difficulty is that I don't have have a practical degree that shows off what I'm capable of. I have a BA in philosophy, with some experience doing a couple of freelance copy writing jobs and as a cash supervisor. I'd like to continue either writing or at least do an administrative assistant job that pays more than the near minimum wage I'm making now. And it's just not in the cards for me to go back to school at this point.
Mostly, I'm wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation in which they needed more time, or least, needed to do much more with the little bit of time and energy that had, in order to find another job or pursue a new career. But worried about doing so because it would take much needed time away from helping your family get by. And if so, if you had any tips or advice.
We're working so hard right now just to stay afloat emotionally that it's hard to imagine me dedicating much time anywhere else.
My wife needs a lot of help to get out of the house as we live on the second floor of an apartment building with no elevator. The subway stations we are close to are not baby-friendly. And of course, it's just hard to have twins anyway. She has them all day and is exclusively breastfeeding, which tires her out. So I am in charge of most of whatever I can be. Dinner, laundry, grocery shopping, changing diapers, getting my wife snacks and drinks, and so forth. I go out with them multiple times a week, either after work or on my days off.
I'm not complaining about all that I need to do to make things work around here. I know she has it more difficult than I do. And frankly, I adore my little girls and want to spend all that time and energy on them. The big problem is, I don't really have much expendable time and I need to find a new job, soon.
I'm already feeling a little guilty because I should be in bed. Especially lately, the girls have not been sleeping well through the night, as they've been sick. So every minute counts. I can't stay up all night to find a job when that would leave me absolutely wretched for work and my family. Sometimes I already feel that way anyway based on the time I try to grab as it is.
Anyway, my wife's mat leave will end in February and she will have some pay for a few months after that. But she has no job to go back to. I am working a low-paying, going-nowhere job for a large retail company. My income will not cover what we need now to support everyone. But we'll need more money anyway as we'll need a bigger place in hopefully a better location (easier access for my wife to get out with the girls).
I'm not really looking for help as far as the resume stuff goes. I've played that game and I just don't have the time to make that my prime method of looking for a job. I know the statistics of that route and given how many resumes and cover-letters I can actually complete and send out each week, it's just not that optimistic.
Part of the difficulty is that I don't have have a practical degree that shows off what I'm capable of. I have a BA in philosophy, with some experience doing a couple of freelance copy writing jobs and as a cash supervisor. I'd like to continue either writing or at least do an administrative assistant job that pays more than the near minimum wage I'm making now. And it's just not in the cards for me to go back to school at this point.
Mostly, I'm wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation in which they needed more time, or least, needed to do much more with the little bit of time and energy that had, in order to find another job or pursue a new career. But worried about doing so because it would take much needed time away from helping your family get by. And if so, if you had any tips or advice.
We're working so hard right now just to stay afloat emotionally that it's hard to imagine me dedicating much time anywhere else.
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