Overdue/waiting mama thread - Page 2

[sibelius]

i'll join this club! i am only 3 days over, but all my kids have been 41 weekers. this pregnancy could easily extend through next week, which i am not too stoked about. anyone else feeling incredibly irritable?

[Undercover Hippie]

Okay, I am feeling better today. Not sad like yesterday. I feel kind of rested, actually, and I woke up with a lot of energy. Of course I want to think that it's a "sign" but I've got to stop playing those mind games with myself! I think that might be the worst part of this waiting... not the uncomfortableness or the moodiness, but all the second-guessing and nit-picking every little thing to see if it's a sign...

[MandarijnOrange]

I posted in a new thread about my experience the last two nights. Painful contractions when I'm laying in bed at night, but as soon as I get up, I feel the squeeze but it doesn't hurt. They are so regular though, it's bizarre. Every 5 minutes like clockwork and they really do hurt when I'm horizontal. I just don't get it. I'll kick myself for complaining though if I finally do go into real labor and show up at the hospital 6cm dilated. :

41 weeks today!

[FillingMyQuiver]

Still here, 41w 2d now. Had a MW appt yesterday. Everything looks good, no perceived problems. MW did an "unofficial" NST (moved the baby around and tracked the HB) and all was well. Just waiting still

I did tell her that with all this prodromal labor, I better be 7cm when I actually go into labor She said that's a tall order

DH and I DTD again last night and of course, it did nothing. I'm starting to really get frustrated b/c right now, sex is NOT enjoyable for me, it's a means to an end, and it's not working: DH is happy though

So, here I sit, waiting. Grumpy as all get out b/c I have a back ache, a waddle, and stiffness when I get up and down. I wish these ctx would stop sitting on the fence, and pick a side. Either stop OR become active labor, but for the love of all things holy, please stop this non-intense, annoying start and stop cr@@:

[MamaHippo]

I am officially overdue now - EDD was 11/15. I am feeling so frustrated and impatient waiting for labor to get going! We've been totally ready for this birth since 37 weeks ( my DS was 2 weeks early), and now we are just sitting around twiddling our thumbs. We have out of town relatives in town early 'to see the baby', and now THEY are sitting twiddling their thumbs waiting for me to do ANYTHING ( we told them not to come early cus she wasnt born yet, but here they are anyway). I feel so helpless that I can't get this labor started! I am dilated to 2 and have been stuck there for 3 weeks with no progress. I am SO READY to birth this baby and see my beautiful little girl.. and it feels like I will never go into labor.
My midwife had another mama due around thanksgiving who just delivered early, and now there's just me and her December mamas...I feel like the watched pot that refuses to boil. I feel defective, like I cannot give birth without horrid medical interventions.

I am cranky. I am irritable. I feel like the whole world is waiting on me to deliver. I feel like I am letting everyone down. I am afriad of never going into labor and instead having to go in for another c-section. I have a sore pelvis, a sore back, and tons of vaginal / cervical pressure from the baby's head laying so low for so long. My boobs ache, my head hurts off and on, and changing positions is painful as heck. And if ONE MORE PERSON asks me, "So are you EVER going to have that baby?", I am going to commit samurai seppuku. :
Everyone keeps telling me to have sex, and al I can say is that sex has ceased to feel good at all and instead is exhausting, awkward, and uncomfortable for me.


Wah, wah, wah. I feel like a big cranky crybaby. :

[mainesax]

I just wanted to pop in and say I feel (well, felt) your pain!

My dd2's EDD was April 25, and she arrived May 8. A day shy of 42 weeks, and I was a vbac'er, too.

Like some of you have said, if people are bugging you, be sure to tell them "I will call you when the baby comes. Please stop calling and 'checking' on me." Put a message on your answering machine or voice mail. Heck, even an autoreply on your email if you have to.

I hated the comment "Why don't you just get induced??" the most, especially being a vbac mom! Some people were asking me that at 38 weeks, so after a month it gets a little old, huh?

Lots of hugs and patience to you all. And if you don't feel up to getting a prostaglandin donation, a good ole DIY 'O' can help things along, too. And it might keep your mind off things for a few minutes.

[Rikki Jean]

I'm exactly an hour and a half "overdue". I'm excited, because I really wanted to go past 40 weeks, so it's so nice to finally be here.

The silly comments already started yesterday though. A woman at church asked me if I was going to be induced. She's in charge of the meals ministry (they'll be bringing us meals after the baby is born), so she also said to have DH call her the day before the baby is born to let her know, so they can start coordinating. Huh? :

[MandarijnOrange]

Still here. I went in to the hospital on Saturday for my second NST. It was early in the morning and we were running late so I didn't have a chance to eat breakfast beforehand. That was a bad idea. Baby was fast asleep, which she generally is in the morning. She moves a lot more at night. Anyhow, they buzzed her early on in the test and she spiked then went right back to sleep. Good baby! I want an easy sleeper. After that, I asked for some cold water because I knew that would get her moving. Sure enough, she got moving for their '15 second rule' above the baseline heartbeat and we were sent on our way.

The 'practice' contractions continue and seem more crampy toward the end of them, but still no major ones. Things are getting quite uncomfortable for me now as well. I'm in a lot of pain still when I sleep because the contractions are more painful when I lay down. And each day that goes by without any major labor signs is more frustrating. I always thought I would go overdue, but had no concept of the reality of what that would feel like. I am really shocked that I'm going to be delivering near or possibly after Thanksgiving. Since getting GD, I have made Thanksgiving the celebration dinner in my mind, but now I'm not sure I'll even be able to eat it on the holiday.

41 weeks, 3 days...

[rainbowsprite]

Still here.... today is my due day with no sign whatsoever that babe will be making an appearance any time soon... 9 hours to go beofre I'm "overdue"

[Undercover Hippie]

41 weeks today! I really hope it happens in the next few days... I never pictured going past Thanksgiving so I'm afraid I will have a huge melt-down that day if baby is still not here.

Still getting bits of blood-tinged mucus so I know my body is doing some of the work ahead of time... that keeps my hopes up I guess. MW said yesterday that baby is sooooo low that my body must be spending an enormous amount of energy keeping him in, but it wouldn't do it without a reason... he is still needs to be in there though we may never know why! I keep wondering why some of our bodies/babies take so much longer to cook than others?

DH started a new job today. Supposedly he'll be working 60 hours a week for the next 3 months. So, upside is that we won't be worrying about money for a while. Downside is that he's not going to be around much to help. Not sure if this relieves my stress or adds to it.

Hey, is everyone else getting tons of phone calls too? "Haven't heard anything... just checking in... been thinking about you..." etc. I'm not really bothered by them, but sheesh. Like we'd have the baby and not tell anyone???

[pixiedust]

I'll be 41 wks in 2 days. I'm like you.. NEVER thought I'd still be preggo at thanksgiving.. NEVER I have been losing tons of mucus yesterday and today so that gives me some hope.

[iloveoregon]

42 weeks today. Enough with the phone calls, the emails, and the unsolicited advice. I don't respond to anyone's question anymore "baby yet?". I don't know what to do- my body doesn not want to go into labor spontaneously. I tried two treatments of acupuncture and no results. Walking and sex don't work either. I really didn't want to try any "natural" induction methods because I wanted to see if my body would do this but I'm getting worried now. I have one week before my MW has to turn over care to the back up OB at the hospital. I'm so sad. I feel like I failed and now I'm going to let her stretch my cervix today. sigh.

[Undercover Hippie]

Originally Posted by iloveoregon

42 weeks today. Enough with the phone calls, the emails, and the unsolicited advice. I don't respond to anyone's question anymore "baby yet?". I don't know what to do- my body doesn not want to go into labor spontaneously. I tried two treatments of acupuncture and no results. Walking and sex don't work either. I really didn't want to try any "natural" induction methods because I wanted to see if my body would do this but I'm getting worried now. I have one week before my MW has to turn over care to the back up OB at the hospital. I'm so sad. I feel like I failed and now I'm going to let her stretch my cervix today. sigh.

Your body has not failed! It is like my MW said... there is a reason baby needs to keep cooking, though we may never know why... trust your body's wisdom! Thank goodness you have a full week before your MW has to turn over care... I'm sure that is more than enough time. Your body WILL go into labor spontaneously when it is ready, really it will. (((HUGS)))

[kgrfcharlton]

I can officially join this thread :. My EDD was only yesterday, but I am just so ready to have this baby this pregnancy! Oh, and my last was 3 weeks "overdue" so I kinda knew I'd be here. I think this is my biggest baby (1st 9-11 & 2nd 9-8) & I'd really like to have baby before it reaches 10 lbs.

I know baby will come when he or she is ready (may that be sooner than later).

[Undercover Hippie]

Okay, I woke up this morning and thought, "I'm going to be pregnant forever!" Which is utterly ridiculous of course. But anyway... How is everyone else today?

Most annoying comment so far (not really a bad comment, but it bugged me anyway) was someone who said "I bet you want to go on Wednesday or Friday, but not on Thanksgiving... I'd hate to miss Thanksgiving..." and I'm like, well, at this point, I just want to have a baby! If I have a new baby in my arms, I don't think I'm going to be all that upset about missing Thanksgiving dinner... we'll just cook it another day!

[Lizzie9984]

I'm 41 weeks 5 days.....Still waiting and still irritated.

A few days ago, both my mom AND hubby bet I wouldn't have the baby before the end of the month.


I wanted to strangle them both....DON'T JINX ME!!!

[MandarijnOrange]

I had my final NST appointment today. I had to schedule the induction for Friday at 6am. (42 weeks exactly) In fact, I even let her check my cervix in order to get an extra 12 hours from her. If I was 'favorable' for induction, then she'd let me come to the hospital later than if I wasn't. I am 3cm and very thin, baby's head is WAY down. I'm still having the regular contractions that aren't painful.

She thinks I will go into labor on Thursday and so does DH. I surely hope so because I'm now having to decide how I want the induction to start...breaking my bag of water or getting a low dose of Pitocin. Just reading about the cons to both of them is making my head spin. :

In the meantime, I'm going to post twice (once in DDC) and once in General thread to find out what everyone's opinions are on which way to be induced so I can be prepared mentally if it comes to that.

[rainbowsprite]

well i got checked by my MW yesterday, cervix only slightly soft and *not at all* effaced or dilated!!!!! and I'm overdue...... why oh why did i agree to get checked??? still at least i know now rather than just hoping all the time something might happen. luckily my mw having checked me is in no rush to hassle things along and has said I'm not having this babe before December.... i guess it is time to move DDC's.....

I was v late with my first DD so this isnt a surprise in anyway, but I'm still disapointed and a bit upset... hey ho, she'll come out when she is ready, I just need to stay postive and remember that this delay means at least there will be a bigger age gap between my DD's which hopefully will make things easier... DD1 might even be walking by the time DD2 shows up which would be great!

[Googy]

A "friend" called me this morning and started the conversation by saying:
"I'm assuming that you had the baby and just didn't bother to call me." : I was like, "Um, no, I'm still pregnant. We're obviously not going to foget about you. We'll call you when we have news. There's just nothing to report right now." I mean my goodness, why would you SAY something like that??? I hope she felt like cr*p when she found out I'm still pregnant!

[Undercover Hippie]

Ugh Googy, can't believe your "friend" said that. Just for that I think I'd drop her to the bottom of the phone list to call after baby does arrive.:

My mom was similarly insensitive this morning... she answered her phone with a breathless "Is anything happening??" and after I said no and told her a little about my night she said something like, "I have a pumpkin pie in the oven that needs another hour, so I was hoping you weren't in labor. But it sounds like the pie is no problem, even if it had days left." And when I protested she got this no-nonsense voice and was like, "well that's just how it is unless you want to go in and do something medical." I felt tears coming to my eyes and got off the phone as fast as I could. I am 9 days late. My DD came at 9 days late. Maybe I am a hormonal basketcase this morning, and not level-headed in the least, but reminding me that I could have many more days left is just fucking insensitive IMO and not helpful in the least.

So much for being positive about this. I want to crawl in a hole.