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post #21 of 25
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Originally Posted by ~Purity♥Lake~ View Post
Why wouldn't 10 yr olds dress themselves?
Maybe because it is Sun morning and they go to church? I've haven't been to church in many years, but I do remember having to dress up for it as a kid. I think my mom still had veto power over church/school outfits at that age. She wanted us to wear things that were clean and matched, etc.

Hmmm. This is probably why I like the kids have cute, matching, clean clothes.

A few months back I remember explaining this issue to my mom, and how one outfit winds up at DSD's mom's house a week, which may or may not come back.

My mom, aghast: "How do you know that she will wash them right?"

Yep. This is where I get it.
post #22 of 25
i think the issue for me is that i also want the kids to look nice, clean and be treated well by adults at their schools. the fact is that people are judged based on their appearnaces, it may be sad but it is true, so i do feel frustrated when all dss's mom seems to be able to buy is army print fatigues from old navy, they just look baggy and messy on the kids who are at the age now where they could start dressing nicer.
post #23 of 25
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Originally Posted by arismama! View Post
i think the issue for me is that i also want the kids to look nice, clean and be treated well by adults at their schools. the fact is that people are judged based on their appearnaces, it may be sad but it is true,
post #24 of 25
I admit it has been a really long time since I was 10, but I know I dressed myself then.
I knew how to pick out nice clothes for church or other fancy get-togethers.
I didn't need help figuring out what was a nice outfit and what was a day-to-day outfit.
And I was quite the tomboy, hated dresses (still do) and preferred jeans and t-shirt.
So, I really hated dressing up nice and girly. Yet, I still was able to dress myself.

My bonus son is 10. He is home schooled, so going along with the current fashion of his school to fit in and be popular is irrelevant for him.
His mom always sends him over for the weekend in these ugly black or red sweatpants and horribly ugly t-shirts that do not match. I used to care (a couple years ago) and would suggest he change into something we bought him, something nicer like jeans or khakis. He somehow tore the crotch out of those nice khakis and ripped holes in all the knees of the jeans. So, I see why his mom puts him in cheap sweats for the weekends. I have no idea what he wears during the week. I just don't care anymore. If he doesn't care, then what does it matter? It's his body, after all, and his choice to wear what he wants.
post #25 of 25
I try not to care, but it is hard. It is hard for me to see dss come home in pants that are 3 inches too short. It's hard for me when my ds pickes out orange and black Halloween spider shirt and his light blue wolf-print pants (I look cool-- he announced, totally pleased with himself). I try not to care. But I kinda do. I just try not to show it.
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