when i was pregnant with my second child and interviewing homebiirth MWs, i was asked to describe my first birth, the birth of my daughter. i explained she was born at 33 1/2 weeks in a hospital, and that it was a natural birth. she was adamant that i did NOT have a natural birth, there was no way possible, even after i explained that we fought like hell to proceed with the same plans for labor and delivery as we had when we planned on delivering at home, much to the dismay of the hospital staff. i had intermittent external monitoring as she was premature, but no IVs, no medication, and labored and delivered on my own with my partner "catching" her, and we were both prepared for the consequences of our decision. thankfully, all's well that end's well, and after a brief stay in the NICU, my daughter was and continues to be fine, great. for someone, anyone to tell me that her birth, while not my ideal, wasn't natural seems insulting, and double-y so from a birth professional who is supposed to honor the spectrum of women who are bucking the system of inductions, epidurals, c-sections, etcetera. i know it's not intended as a "judgement" but it really feels that way when a woman works so hard to have some semblance of control over something that should be entirely in her control, but with the intervention of insurance companies and malpractice attorneys has become anything but.
oh, and we decided after that meeting to go with another MW.