we're not on same parenting page

[mariel0419]

I'm assuming there is already a thread somewhere related to this...any discussions about parents not seeing eye to eye on many many issues...I am trying to be more natural and holistic, while DH is very partial to meds and mainstream ideas.

Our communication isn't the best and after being married for almost 10 years and together for almost 13 yrs, I'm ready to admit that we need to really try and connect and communicate especially if we're going to make it in the long run. DS is only 1yo and we've butt heads on so many issues. As a SAHM, I'm starting to not feel like an equal partner. He wants another child some day soon, but I think that is ludicrous considering how our family of 3 is functioning now.

advice or hugs are more than welcome...

[mija y mijo]

Sorry to hear that you and your DH are having a hard time.
I think you may find the advice your looking for in the Parents as Partners forum. Good luck!

[Petronella]

No advice, just s

[mariel0419]

Thanks for the hugs mamas!

[MammaB21]

I am having a very similar situation as you. My DH is military, just back from Iraq about 4 months ago. He is pretty oposite me on many issues, but I can admit he is trying. I wrote a thread on this a while back and got some good advice. I have been working with him, and trying to have arguement free discussions regarding parenting. Stick to a couple main topics, and offer some reading material that supports your veiws. Hopefully he will be able to comprimise on the big things, but you will have to compromise some as well. Just let your DH know that your instincts and intuition are powerfull, and you feel strongly about these certain issues. Best of luck, and lots of

[WuWei]

I've heard a lot of helpful advice and reports about "Marriage Builders". http://www.marriagebuilders.com/

I also like the books "The Dance of Intimacy", "The Five Love Languages", and "How To Get The Love You Want". Each address value differences and communication tools. Also, NVC is helpful for expressing concerns and discussing alternatives when you have conflict over issues. http://www.cnvc.org/


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