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post #61 of 206
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Well, the good, the bad, and the ugly. The good - I felt instinctually yesterday that the baby needed to be born, so consented to go to the induction today if I didn't have him last night. While I was working all that out, I went back in to labor - this time hard. I was indeed walking around at 8 or 9 cm yesterday. I labored fairly easily to get rid of the anterior lip that was all that was left of my cervix. A very fast transistion with the shakes - then I was pushing. OK, pushing out little babies is a blast. Pushing out big babies is NOT - ouch! I tried my birth stool - forget it. Got in the tiny little apartment tub and birthed him in the water. I felt alot of urgency about getting him out and had to make the choice of protecting front or back, so I picked front. Have a small tear in the back, but don't need stitches. A big boy for me - 8 lbs 5 oz, 21 1/4 inches long - not interested in ever birthing anything bigger than that again!!! So transition and pushing painful this time, but the rest easy.

OK, the bad - he was covered with mec stained vernix and did not breath or try. I DID end up calling the midwife, and she arrived as I was crowning. It was a good thing we had her. I'm very glad I trusted my instincts when we arrived here and hired her even though I didn't want a midwife. EMTs had to come and take him to the hospital where he is on O2. Afterwards I had some bleeding trouble and I lost quite a bit of blood - we tried wombstring and it didn't work - we think the Shepherd's Purse caused me to clot and the big clots prevented my uterus from clamping down at the bottom. She gave me pit - got a little scary then cause I'm phobic of needles and started to pass out - EMTs came again to make sure I was going to be ok, but I held it together. I'm pretty weak now.

The ugly - there is no NICU in our town and they are sending him away. I haven't held him since he was born (11/19, 12:40am), and I'm not going to get to see him before the transport and I'm probably not going to be able to follow him for at least a couple days until I can get some strength back. We're still working out the details. That's another thing - I really feel that instinctually I felt the need to disconnect from him - hence all the weird talk I did about death, etc - because I needed to be able to let go of control in order to get our family through this. It SUCKS - we so just wanted to have our baby at home post partum, and here with #3 we still cannot have that. But I feel good that we did everything we could to give him a good safe birth - and I think he had the best he could have got. I think his cord not being cut prematurely was probably a huge asset. They said he did not appear to have signs of post maturity. They talk about mec aspiration, but it doesn't make any sense, cause he never breathed after birth. His X-rays and tests look good. So I'm still wondering why he had fluid in his lungs and what went wrong. Maybe it was just one of those fluke things.

I thought girl all along, and he's a boy. He looks like a "Joseph" which means "God will add". I wish I didn't have to share all this yucky stuff, but it was a good birth, and I feel so thankful that my husband was able to stand by me and listen to my instincts.
post #62 of 206
*hugs* Glad your little man is here. Praying he'll be back home soon!!
post #63 of 206
I'm glad this part of the journey is complete for you and that you're recovering well. I'm so sorry to hear things did not go as smoothly as you'd planned. Sounds like you did a great job of following your instincts through to the end, though.

It must be hard not to have your baby in your arms right now, but I know you're doing what's best for him as you have all along. Will be keeping you in my thoughts and watching for updates.
post #64 of 206
Hope he is home soon and in your arms.
post #65 of 206
: that all goes as it should.
post #66 of 206
bluefish:

thank you for sharing every aspect of your journey--the good, the bad, and the ugly.

i'm glad that your little guy had a good, safe birth, and that you feel confident in all of your decisions. i'm glad that he's getting good care as well.

i hope/pray that he is home with you soon!

congratulations!
post #67 of 206
I am so glad that you followed your instinct and got the help you all needed. I know that must have been very hard especially given that your mw has been less then trustworthy lately. I hope your baby boy will be back in your arms again soon and that you regain your strength quickly.
post #68 of 206
Good to hear from you. I hope you get to hold your son soon.
post #69 of 206
Congratulations and Welcome baby boy!!!!

Many healing vibes to you and many many healthy vibes to Joseph. I hope he's home soon!! I'll keep both of you in my thoughts.

Thank you for sharing your journey (I have quietly been following it).
post #70 of 206
Welcome to the World, Little One! I am praying for you that you are well enough to hold him sooner rather than later, and that he is well enough to come home VERY soon!
post #71 of 206
congrat! I'm sorry to hear of your bad and ugly but he's alive and will be in your arms again shortly enough.
post #72 of 206
How is Joseph, now? Your last post doesn't mention if the EMTs got him breathing while you & the midwife were dealing with your bleeding. Is your dh with the baby in the NICU?
post #73 of 206
Congratulations, 2bluefish. I hope he is home and in your arms soon.
post #74 of 206
Welcome EarthSide, Joseph!

I hope you regain strength quickly, mama.
post #75 of 206
Wowee Kazowee! This next chapter in your journey is starting off w/quite a bang!
So glad to hear you got to birth him at home. Lots of love and hugs to you as you and your sweet boy heal and wait to reunite.
Chelsie
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post #77 of 206
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Originally Posted by Shulammite View Post
How is Joseph, now? Your last post doesn't mention if the EMTs got him breathing while you & the midwife were dealing with your bleeding. Is your dh with the baby in the NICU?
Thank you everyone for the support!

Thankfully, I didn't start having the bleeding trouble until after the EMTs had carted him away. So while he was in our home, I was holding him and helping encourage him along. He was breathing when he left but barely. Last update he is breathing on his own with an O2 mask in the nursery of the local hospital. They are getting ready to transport him out of town to the NICU as I type this. We are still figuring things out, but I think family is going to stay with me, and dh is going to go be with him - me following whenever I'm strong enough.

Can't stay on the computer long cause I get dizy and have to stay down, but thank you so much for all your prayers, vibes and support!
post #78 of 206


Thank you for updating us, 2bluefish. My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours
post #79 of 206
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Originally Posted by 2bluefish View Post
Thank you everyone for the support!

Thankfully, I didn't start having the bleeding trouble until after the EMTs had carted him away. So while he was in our home, I was holding him and helping encourage him along. He was breathing when he left but barely. Last update he is breathing on his own with an O2 mask in the nursery of the local hospital. They are getting ready to transport him out of town to the NICU as I type this. We are still figuring things out, but I think family is going to stay with me, and dh is going to go be with him - me following whenever I'm strong enough.

Can't stay on the computer long cause I get dizy and have to stay down, but thank you so much for all your prayers, vibes and support!
Please take good care of yourself mama. I had a PPH with my DD and I felt like I was hit by a truck. Try to rest as much as you can, and drink lots of water to help replenish your blood volume.

I hope your baby comes home soon. Love and healing vibes coming your way.
post #80 of 206
Oh my goodness what a story! Its been so awesome to be a part of it! Welcome baby and healing and strength vibes coming your way.
Do you have someone to help you if there are troubles breastfeeding? If it were me I would call someone soon just in case and so they know your story and will be better equipt to help if you need it. What an inspiring journey you have been through!
Angela
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