Had a visceral Mother Bear reaction today

[GinaRae]

My friend was here and while I love this woman, she DRIVES ME NUTS.

She had brought her bassinet over for me since I hadn't finished the cradle pad yet. I honestly am not sure it will ever be used. Either one.

I guess i was like her 12 years ago, sticking my son in his swing, etc, to get photos and what-not. But I am so over it now and while my son 12 years ago was held A LOT, this baby is by far held even more.

I am sure I will need to put him down more when my helpers leave...

Anyway, she was holding Lachlan and she'd pulled the bassinet over to lay him in it and i felt myself wanting to claw her eyes out. I am surprised I held it together.

She was cooing over him in there and then went to basically push it back away from us because he was sleeping and happy in the bassinet. I wigged and said a little too forcefully that he did NOT need to be in there. That he should be held by my husband and learn to watch football.

I am such an ass. I couldn't think straight.

I don't have a clue why I reacted so primal about his being in her arms and then placed in the bassinet. Could be psychological because I have issues with her parenting AND she's been pushy during my pregnancy.

Anyway, just thinking out loud and processing...

[chrysalis]

i was very much like this w/ megh...for a lonnnnnnng time. i often wonder if i would be w/ sheamas...so far i don't feel like i would be but ya never know.........i figured it was a first born thang. but knowing me, probably not.

i can see why that would annoy the crap out of you!!! it would me too. i'd probably skirt around my anger towards the woman and say something similar like you did re. the football and dh comment. just to avoid conflict f2f.

ohhhhhhhhhhhhh how about THIS one....when megh was about 4 mos. old, around valentines day, my ex J and i went to have a nice family dinner at the moose where we used to go......ick. i know i know! so anyway, there is this woman and she meets megh (and i!!!) and kisses my dd on the lips!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i about died. i just smiled politely but wanted to kill this woman for daring to do such a disgusting rude thing to me and my baby girl. isn't that disgusting!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i think i took megh into the bathroom and nursed her to kill any cooties from that womans mouth as soon as i could get away. oh man...that was something else.

my mom is really annoying me lately w/ how she steps in and tells megh she'll take something away from her (like the pez at the checkout line today when i, her MOTHER was right there and could deal w/ her MY self. i wanted to tell my mother she is NOT meghan's mother. she did this when i was a step mom too w/ my step daughter who is my ex's, megh's bio fathers, dd from one of his relationships...he has many dd's.....she is the only one plus megh who were in the picture then... anyway, yeah. my mom freaks me out when she acts like SHE calls the shots...like i'm 10 or something). i feel like i'm gonna snap at her and maybe her boyfriend too.......strings and just control issues i see in both of them. my kids are NOT their kids and i do NOT do things how THEY did things. my mom even pushes having a will for megh and sheamas should i die. and guessy who she wants primary on the will...herself. anyway...........sorry don't mean to hijack here...............just relating to ANNOYING people telling us/our kids how it is....like excuse mother fo's???!!!: i don't THINK so!

[*GreenMama*]

I'm sure she meant no harm, but I think everyone has some mama-bear episode at some point.

I hated when people wanted to wake my sleeping baby because they wanted to see his eyes open. I even yelled at my Aunt once because she was trying to make loud noises to wake him. He was a preemie, tired, and fed, so I just about wanted to murder her...