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post #41 of 63
i was going to say implants if at all possible. i have at least one more tooth thats going to have to be pulled, (3 molars gone so far...one moe molar that hurts as it is. sigh.)and 3 more (that actually show that have definite holes, one on the outside where if i smile big will be visible... and a couple more than have smaller visible holes) that im not sure about that im starting to think about it even though i was horrified by the thought a few years ago.
my grandma had dentures since she was 18 and i never knew until i was i think 13 lol. i used to stay with her a lot, too. shes never complained or anything but i know shes needed them redonea few times in the past couple years for some sort of problem...
thats whats making me think more about implants...and the fact that i lose everything but my kids


if either thing will help you feel better about yourself, and not have the tooth problems anymore, definitely go for something. could you apply for medicaid? if its affecting a lot and you need most gone, and have a sympathetic dentist, they can get you approved if you have the income limits, or one of the dental cards..still a lot of money but way better than full price if you can find providers you like who will take it, and payments, or ive even heard of some who would bargain..it would be cool to find one who would take your services for partial payment or something!
post #42 of 63
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Originally Posted by KentuckyDoulaMama View Post
Oh, and I remember a while ago where we were at a group function and the conversation turned to a girl who had gotten dentures at like, 21.

The guys were all very crude about it and everyone was just so negative about it and picking on her, ect. Especially the guys.
So, that has colored my view I guess.

Then again. I know what people say about me, so whats the difference really?
I can imagine. I've heard all about "toothless blowjobs" and other gems guys come up with. Don't tell anyone who doesn't need to know, kwim? They will look good, and real, and you don't need to worry about anyone finding out and making fun.
post #43 of 63
I say go for it! It sounds like a change that you'd like and be happy with.
post #44 of 63
My Dad received his dentures at 21. My grandmother also has them.

Dad said it was hard when he first got them because they pull all your teeth and then you have to have a couple months with nothing so everything can heal and harden in a bit. He now has no problems, sores, etc. He is fastidious about cleaning and takes them out nightly. He also takes them out when he showers and cleans them then as well. He showers twice a day so his teeth are very clean!

My Grandmother has a separate pair of teeth that she sleeps in. She says it's important to not sleep in the same pair of teeth to avoid sores.

Personally, I've been going to dental to crown route but my teeth are in ok shape overall. It's definately more expensive than dentures, though.
post #45 of 63
I didn't read all the replies, but just wanted to say that my MIL finally broke down and got partial dentures after years of having bad teeth and she is very very very happy with them. And my granny has had dentures since she was in her 30's or 40's and they've never given her a problem.

I think that having nice teeth really goes a long way towards making you feel better about yourself. I hope that whatever you decide to do it works out for you!
post #46 of 63
I have wanted dentures since i was 16 because i hate dentists and have had so mant cavitys filled. I just want my teeth gone!

If you feel strongly about it, i would go ahead and do it.

ETA my mum got her dentures at 16 because she had such terrible teeth, i fear its genetic, my ds's teeth are horrible and hes only 2 and just started eating solids.
post #47 of 63
This thread is so me. I had the braces, beautiful teeth, and now they're shot! It was just the back ones, now it's the front ones too. I'm 35 and it terrifies me to think about going get dentures. I also don't have the money to get them done. It is definitely time to get the dentures and I hope the money and bravery come to me soon!
post #48 of 63
Mama!!! I'm so sorry you are feeling so badly about yourself, and so torn about this.

My first thought, is that having bad/rotting teeth in your mouth can affect the rest of your health... and getting them all taken care of now will save you the pain of many more years of dental work. I am blessed with good teeth, had lots of orthodontic work as a kid and if I'd had sealant as an option when I was little, I probably wouldn't have a single filling. But, just reading about what's happened to you... it's not like you are getting dentures at 36 because you didn't take care of your teeth, it sounds like you have done your best with what you've got. It would be so hard to be afraid of smiling because you don't want anyone to see your mouth. I'm going to suggest going for getting them. I wonder, if dental implants would be an option for you sometime in the future, if your finances allowed for them?
post #49 of 63
I think my grandmother was about 35 when she had her remaining teeth pulled and got dentures. From what my mom says, gma was really upset and depressed about not having her own teeth, BUT she was happy to have dentures that looked and functioned better than her own had and to not have the pain associated with cruddy teeth.
post #50 of 63
My mom got dentures before she was 30. She hasn't had any major problems that I know of. She is 65 now.
Her teeth look nice. They don't make noise or slip around. They don't look fake.
post #51 of 63
Irish people tend to have bad dental health as a result of genetics and sometimes poor hygiene. My father had full dentures by 30, and I knew at least 3 kids who already had dentures in high school.

My own teeth are strong and healthy, but discolored by childhood tetracycline, so I know how it feels to be ashamed to smile. Go for the dentures, I think they will bring you confidence once you get used to them.
post #52 of 63
My dad got top dentures when he was about 18. You can't tell by looking that they are dentures. I wish he would get lower ones. Like you, his teeth rotted, but not due to poor hygeine. He never takes them out. Some people just don't have good teeth. He can eat anything and has no complaints. If I were in your situation, I would get dentures if your teeth were not easily fixable. Just don't get the super cheap ones, make sure they fit well, and no one will even be able to tell. I see so many people with dentures at the hospital I work at, and I don't even know they dentures until I fill out the admitting paperwork and have to ask.
post #53 of 63
Make sure you do research into implants if you're going that route. My FIL just had to have all of his implants pulled out via emergency surgery. He got them 12 years ago, and they got infected earlier in the year. After months of antibiotics that just would not kill the infections, his face swelled up to ridiculous levels and he finally convinced them that there was a major issue. The dental surgeon insisted they come out right away, and he now has (great looking) dentures. The dental surgeon told him that it's not unusual at all for this to happen. He had just pulled out implants for three other patients that week, all of them having had the implants put in 10-12 years earlier. Considering the amount of money he spent on them, thousands and thousands, he really regretted ever having them put in because the lifespan of them was so short.
post #54 of 63
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It's no different than kissing and sex stuff before. No big deal. They don't fall out or smell or "click" or anything.

I have to say the biggest difference for him has been his ability to smile now. It really brings tears to my eyes. He felt trapped before and rarely smiled. Now, he is so confident and feels free to be happy and smile and laugh.

We met when he had the yucky teeth, so obviously, appearance wasn't super important to me. The yucky teeth did give me pause though, just because I didn't know anyone else with that kind of problem. I would definately take him with dentures over him with rotting teeth anyday. Like I said, besides looking better, he feels better and that shows in every aspect of his life and his relationships.
Dh had dental surgery right before he turned 36. His teeth were already somewhat crappy when I met him because of divorced parents that kept thinking the other parent should be the one to pay for dental stuff. By the time I met him it hurt him a great deal to brush, but he did, but within a few years it was just too much.

The first thing we did when we got insurance was see what options we had for getting his teeth fixed. We finally got full uppers, with plans to turn them into implants sometime soon.

It has also made a huge difference in his ability to get jobs. Before people could easily make incorrect assumptions about him which really hurt his confidence.

He smiles now. He didn't really smile before. He also kisses a lot more readily. He also is in a better mood and much more energetic now because he isn't in chronic pain and always fighting infection from his teeth. It has been a very good change. I feel like I got my husband back.
post #55 of 63
Thread Starter 
Thanks so much for the wonderful responses.

I have been thinking of going to a reconstructive surgeon in a couple of months for a consult to see what options would be available for me.
Its been 23 years since my last reconstructive surgery and Im sure technology has advanced greatly in that time. I'd like to know what more they could do for me, to try and make me look more normal.

So, it got me thinking. Maybe the teeth issue (implants) could be part of a reconstructive surgery? Which would possibly make it payable by insurance?

I'm going to go and see what they say. Its all so humiliating though.
First I have to get my medical records from the Hospital for Sick Children in Toronto, so that will probably take a while.

For dentures, wondering how long a person is typically toothless, once they pull them all before the dentures are able to be worn?
I think I'd want to go into hiding for that time period. In a nice hotel with round the clock room service
Are implants a same day thing? Yank and replace in one day?

Anyhow, thanks again for your thoughts!
post #56 of 63
I would try to save your own teeth, if not then get dentures. But, from what I have read and heard if you can save your own teeth, even some of them that is best.

Best of luck to you!
post #57 of 63
Dentures are same day. I think that implants can be same day, but it can be a tricky surgery to do it right away from my understanding.
post #58 of 63
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Originally Posted by emcare View Post
I have to say the biggest difference for him has been his ability to smile now. It really brings tears to my eyes. He felt trapped before and rarely smiled. Now, he is so confident and feels free to be happy and smile and laugh.
Oh man, I so so understand this. I can't wait for the day that I can say what you said above. The day that I feel that free. So happy for your Dh.
post #59 of 63
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Originally Posted by KentuckyDoulaMama View Post
For dentures, wondering how long a person is typically toothless, once they pull them all before the dentures are able to be worn?
I think I'd want to go into hiding for that time period. In a nice hotel with round the clock room service
Are implants a same day thing? Yank and replace in one day?

Anyhow, thanks again for your thoughts!
I was worried about this too and thought I'd have to go in hiding if I went this route, lol. My understanding is that they do a consult and observation of your jaw/teeth one day, then do the actual yanking/dentures another. Unless you'd go to one of those "all in one day" places.

I'm still checking into this myself.

Maybe your teeth would be considered part of reconstruction surgery. I think you can be hopeful of that. You never really know until you ask. I will hope with you.
post #60 of 63
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Originally Posted by SleeplessMommy View Post

By the way, the ADA has a "Give Back a Smile" for victims of domestic violence. http://www.aacd.com/foundation/
LOOK!!! INTO!!!! THIS!!!!!

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If you are about to enter the nursing world, is it likely you would have dental insurance with a new job?

Personally, I'd go to a couple of good dentists and get all my options clearly laid out for me (with a few different opinions) before coming to any decisions.
Yes. Get some referrals from people you know. Get like three quotes. Go for it!

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Originally Posted by KentuckyDoulaMama View Post
Thanks so much for the wonderful responses.

I have been thinking of going to a reconstructive surgeon in a couple of months for a consult to see what options would be available for me.
Its been 23 years since my last reconstructive surgery and Im sure technology has advanced greatly in that time. I'd like to know what more they could do for me, to try and make me look more normal.

So, it got me thinking. Maybe the teeth issue (implants) could be part of a reconstructive surgery? Which would possibly make it payable by insurance?

I'm going to go and see what they say. Its all so humiliating though.
First I have to get my medical records from the Hospital for Sick Children in Toronto, so that will probably take a while.

For dentures, wondering how long a person is typically toothless, once they pull them all before the dentures are able to be worn?
I think I'd want to go into hiding for that time period. In a nice hotel with round the clock room service
Are implants a same day thing? Yank and replace in one day?

Anyhow, thanks again for your thoughts!
Check out the reconstructive angle!!! This sounds fantastic! It sounds extremely empowering!

I'm really sad that you have suffered any turmoil from hearing what "men" have said about women with dentures. Those "men" (and I use the term loosely) are not worth the paper your name is written on. Any time, ANY TIME, you hear that kind of insulting, degrading talk, it's time to MOVE ON.

This is very exciting - keep at it, you're treating yourself very well! Go for it!
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