When I had a 2nd trimester miscarriage during my first pregnancy 13 years or so ago, the doctor back-up for my CNM was so awful.
I know I looked 12 years old, but he was just cruel and wouldn't talk to me... he talked to my mom (my husband had to go back to work after I'd been miscarrying for three days) and asked her if I would follow up with the MW...."You know, so this won't happen again?"
Basically he must have thought I was a teen moom (look at my chart and my wedding ring!) and that meant he could be disrespectful. He even asked me if I knew who the father was and if I could find him to confirm his blood type
anywhoo.. this convo triggered that memory about pushing birth control...