Sex and exercise after baby - Page 2

[Curlita]

Originally Posted by lisarussell

I think the REASON for the 6 week mark is so that they can be sure that they've discussed birth control with you.

Doesn't that seem sort of patronizing? I mean, I'm glad that they ask about it and provide you with options, but the way they go about it somehow irks me.

[GinaRae]

When I had a 2nd trimester miscarriage during my first pregnancy 13 years or so ago, the doctor back-up for my CNM was so awful.

I know I looked 12 years old, but he was just cruel and wouldn't talk to me... he talked to my mom (my husband had to go back to work after I'd been miscarrying for three days) and asked her if I would follow up with the MW...."You know, so this won't happen again?"

Basically he must have thought I was a teen moom (look at my chart and my wedding ring!) and that meant he could be disrespectful. He even asked me if I knew who the father was and if I could find him to confirm his blood type :

anywhoo.. this convo triggered that memory about pushing birth control...

[Googy]

Originally Posted by lisarussell

I think the REASON for the 6 week mark is so that they can be sure that they've discussed birth control with you.

I don't know if its ALWAYS that sinister (I'm sure it is for some, I don't doubt that, I'm just saying there's more to it)--the main reason for avoiding sex is to allow the genital tissues to heal, especially if there was an episiotomy or tearing. Avoiding infection is another reason. The timeline for when all of the requisite healing happens is different for different women. Some women have little damage, some have a lot. I think a lot of OBs give the 6 week guideline because that is when the last of the postpartum changes occus (uterus returning to size), so this is when your follow-up appointment is scheduled, so this is when they can check to make sure everything looks OK.

[chrysalis]

: meghs bio and i were dtd about a week or so after my c-sec...i don't recall much pain or discomfort. probably too soon after...and i probably was pressured a bit but i also remember being very turned on by him as well...i wouldn't recommend dtd THAT soon thereafter though. i remember having a pad on one time we started going there...which means i was still bleeding.

as for exercise, it realllllllllly hurt to even do gentle pilates and i remember feeling sooo frustrated. but again, that was after a ceserean so i would think w/ VB it'd be different.

i know THIS time around for me.....it WILL be different. no pressure from a SO & i can fix my own horny moments just fine. if i did have a SO i'd probably wait at LEAST 2 wx but it all depends on lochia and how you feel vaginally, whether you have stitches, etc.

[monocyte]

with ds, i swear we waited months...I was in so much pain.

This time, I'm ready...but not telling him that bc I'm so freaking tired. But physically I feel great. Still having gushing incidents, so we were told to hold off. (going for u/s to check for remaining placenta pieces...but I dont think there is any - my mw and I looked over the placenta for a while after birht.)

[DeChRi]

Thanks for all the input. Interesting to get the different perspectives.

[NeivaKai]

I started exercising within a few days after my son was born, walking three miles a day, doing pelvic tilts. After two weeks I started running again, but I was hiking/walking every day towards the end of my pregancy and doing yoga three times a week, in addition to twice-weekly floor exercises. I was in very good shape when I got pregnant and was running until 6 months. I was then put on bed rest for two months, and the last month I started my hiking/yoga routine again. So I may be an exception. I DTD three months post partum, but that was because my ds dad wasn't around to do it with. I would of done it from week three if I had had the chance.