DTD becoming a CHORE?

[kgrfcharlton]

Ok, so anyone else just using your dp for his sperm right now? Does anyone else's dp get tired of DTD b/c it's so awkward & totally not fun for his wife???

Just wondering if we were the only ones.

[Curlita]

I never thought I would use my husband to get labor started, but I have to admit that we DTD the day before Conrad was born primarily to move things along. It was fun, but the approach was definitely goal-oriented.

If it's really NOT fun and just goal oriented, maybe you can sub another activity. Aside from the sperm ripening the cervix, having an orgasm can get contractions going, and you don't necessarily need your husband around for that.

[sorteep]

OHHH I totally remember that with first two late babes... my DH even said "again?? do we HAVE to???" one time!!! hahahaha

[*GreenMama*]

My DH has flat out said it puts him out of the mood to think he's being used for labor... Annoys me, because we REALLY do need me to go into labor soon because of all this crappy induction talk, and it would certainly be more pleasant than castor oil. However, I can't get him in the mood enough to "donate" since its so uncomfortable for me in the first place he just wants to stop. Sigh. Maybe he'll decide to help out more if it goes another week.

[adon]

Originally Posted by sorteep

OHHH I totally remember that with first two late babes... my DH even said "again?? do we HAVE to???" one time!!! hahahaha

DH actually refused to once!!!!: NEVER EVER did i think that was possible!!!! first time for everything now he makes sure to say (as a joke), everytime...you're just using me for my sperm. and i just say, yes i am

[Undercover Hippie]

I totally sympathize. I tend to be the one who initiates sex, my drive is always higher than DH's. Especially pregnant, LOL. But the last few times we DTD it was not that comfortable for me... okay in the long run IYKWIM but definitely more of a chore than normal! This is the first PG that I found myself thinking that sex just isn't worth it anymore. It has never helped my late babies come out anyway. But now that I'm more than a week overdue it is tempting to try it again... my DH would totally know it was only for the chance of starting labor though and how sexy is that? Bah. So I feel too awkward to initiate it and I know he won't...

On a TMI side note, I have been going solo every few days and I do think that helps, I tend to have more bloody show on those days then others...

[GinaRae]

What begins with sperm should end with sperm. He has a job to do.

Not that we DTD to get things moving! :

[strawberryfields08]

It is a terrible chore for me right now and DH knows it. It is really no fun for him either because I am just laying there waiting for it to be over Really I feel bad about it but it is so awkward and uncomfortable. I have given up, I don't think he really wants to right now anyway because of how bad it has been the last few times.

[Googy]

Yeah, my DH is totally not into it right now. Part of me is really hurt by it, but I also realize that its probably not too fun being "used" for sperm right now. But I agree with Gina--he got me into this situation, he has a responsibility to get me out of it!!!

[chrysalis]

Originally Posted by Curlita

having an orgasm can get contractions going, and you don't necessarily need your husband around for that.

: orgasm and nip stim you can do yourself, for sure...and it will get the oxytocin flowing which to me, is probably even better than sperm for getting your whole body in gear for labor...