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11/20/07 at 4:16pm
Wow. My daughter went to a nursery school program in a vocational/tech school, too, but it was a COMPLETELY different experience than the description of flash cards : 3 year olds need play, they respond to play & they learn THROUGH play. Play is all they need. Preschool kids can & do learn everything they need to know through PLAY.
As an education major & as someone with my Teacher Assistant certification, I am shocked that she's pushing FLASHCARDS this soon :
Why do people think 2, and 3 y/o kids need to do preschool? STOP worrying! Your child is NOT going to go through life not knowing her colors, numbers or ABCs. She will learn them through every day activities. No one is going to ask when did your dd learn her colors? My ds is almost 5 and he is NOT in preschool. I tried doing some reading lessons, but he hated it. There is no reason a child need to learn to read at 4 or even 5. So far my first 2 boys did not learn to read on their own till 7 or 8. My dd learned much earlier, but I think that is because by then i had stopped pushing and so she learned at her own pace.
Be a REBEL! Fight back for the sake of your dd. Don't make excuses about why she does not know something. Talk about what she CAN do and what she likes to do. Sorry i feel VERY strongly about this. Can you tell?
Can I share an anecdotal rant for a moment?
My oldest is just over 4 (turned 4 back in August). She and I love to watch the Sprout Channel's Good Night Show for Sagwa and Kipper (it's "our" time to be together since I WOH fulltime.) Well, since we have satellite, we sometimes catch the end of one 3 hr episode (probably the Central Time one) before it switches over to PST and repeats. So there some commercials between, obviously geared at parents (as in Kaboom, Gerber life insurance, and...) One of the commercials I have caught was for Hooked on Phonics. I am not talking down about this program, but this marketing angle just ruffles my feathers. It's a mom and a little boy somewhere (an office waiting room I gather) and the little boy is reading out loud. So the other moms begin to ask this mom, "how old is he?" "He just turned four," she replies. "He reads so well. Is he in school?" and she says, "No, we've been practicing..." : Um wait a minute, didn't he just turn 4? Now he's in school?
I can't attest to HOP and I'm certain it works well for families. But what bothers me is that this is aired on a children's station in the hopes that parents now become concerned that their little 4 yo is not reading. To me it says, good parents are teaching their kids before the age of 4 how to read. That, to me, sets an unfair standard.
Now to bring this back to on topic... we fluctuate. I feel that we're always teaching and at the same time we're not teaching. Yes, there are things I want my children to know and learn. I was an early reader as was dh (both about 4yo.) But I don't expect that of my children. I'm happy dd know's her letters and numbers to about 15. But this wasn't from drills or lessons. She displayed an interest and we sang abc songs and counted with her. Ds is still coming online with talking, but his understanding is immense compared to dd at his age (about 2.5yo.) If you ask him a color, he'll present the correct one, but he can't fully say it yet (as in blue is still "boo.") I figure one day, he'll be speaking clearly and non-stop. He repeats numbers in 3s, but he's learned them from dd (so he'll say out of nowhere "4,5,6" or "8,9,10" ) Instead, dd was running at age 9 mon (she learned to walk later on) and was speaking 3 word sentences at 18 mon. Children differ. Obviously, if dd is having reading problems later on we'll have her tested just as we would have ds screened if he's not talking.
You're not alone. There are still parents who hope their young children have playschool experiences - meaning painting, imaginative play, story time, etc. (as I did when my mom worked at my preschool) - compared to academic preschool experiences where one need to know all the alphabet and a series of number in addition to writing their own first and last name. :
I think this is what is great about hs'ing our dc -- we'll be able to adapt, if necessary, to their specific styles. The schools here are not good, and while class size is limited with younger grades, I fear that the kids would be more likely to receive an emergency credential teacher. Turn over rate for my district is high.