Is anyone else a hormonal mess?

[maisiedotes]

I am actually feeling OK today but I can't wait till the hormonal roller coaster ride ends! I am a weepy mess one second and the next second I am biting DH's head off (this is DH who is currently drilling in the room that the baby is sleeping in...) I almost choked him this morning because we were 20 minutes late for the baby's pediatrician appointment because he was working on installing a door. Being tired doesn't help either! I am trying to keep a sense of humor about it (and I am secretly hoping some of you have some good funny stories about what you are going through- so I know I am not alone!)

I almost lost my mind the day we got home from the hospital. My mom and MIL were dressing the baby on the changing table. The tea kettle was whistling, the baby was crying, the TV was on, the men were yelling at the football game, my mom kept offering me tea and soup, and the dogs were trying to see what who the new person was. And I was bleeding out my butt. Good stuff. Thank cripes everyone left by 3:00 or else I was going to flog someone. Too much chaos!!!! Currently the phone will not stop ringing but at least for the most part it is people wishing us well, seeing if they can drop food off, asking how we are, etc and not telemarketers calling for the 83rd time to see if we need replacement windows.

So, whatcha all up to on the hormone front?

[De-lovely]

Me! I am REALLY struggling nursing and because of it I have been a blubbering fool! I have been teetering on depression because of it too.....my dh is on my nerves in general. He always gets so wigged out this time of year because of the girls' b-days, christmas and the high price of gas heat. We are actually struggling more than we ever have and had to sign up to be a Family in Need on the Holiday Helper thread. Hopefully some decent help comes through or I just dont know how we will make it. So all of that has made my hormones INSANE and I am really hoping to get it together really quick. I am already tired of feeling like this.....I go see an LC tomorrow at 5pm. So thats good.....

[DeChRi]

Oh hun you are not alone. I seem to be SO overstimulated the last week. Dog is curious, people wont leave me alone, it just doesnt end. Im seem really sensitive to the excess racket. The more tired I got the worse it got. I finally just started bawling to DH the other morning.

Im either blissfully happy or totally miserable at any given moment, for no real reason. I remember 2 weeks being a turning point last time.

SO not sure if that helps, but you are certainly not alone. I posted my own breakdown thread a few days postpartum too.

[adon]

oh, i remember the BFing hormones with DS#1!!! i was bawling most of the time. more of a OMG he's so cute, can't believe it thing. right now i'm absolutley a hormonal mess at 41w! i've limited my postings to this board and pregnancy board until further notice

i posted on another forum about a booster seat, and ended up jumping down someones throat for answering the question!!!:: it turned into one of those ridiculous threads where people were siding....blah blah blah....so i went in and deleted all my posts from it:. yay...so i stay here where it's safe! i'm a nutso right now!

[Kontessa]

Almost the full first week I was blissfull. Saturday with my kids away on a field trip, I was a mess. So very emotional. Now it is Tuesday and I am feeling so drained and short with the kids and sick of people expecting me to be up to doing things. One friend some how thought after having the baby I would be feeling so much better and able to do more and yadda yadda. I reminded him he has never breastfed or raised three children alone. He can kiss my butt. :

I need time to heal and recover at my own pace, not more people expecting things of me. I need quiet!

[Curlita]

I have at least one weepfest a day, often two. Sometimes they are directed at my husband and his faults, perceived or otherwise, and sometimes they are based on baby (last night, up for 1.5 hours of nursing in a row, would NOT let me pull him off the nipple without protest, no sympathy from husband, no WAKING from husband, boo hoo bigtime) and sometimes they are random.

My doula was here today for a post-partum visit and she told me that studies have shown that the composition of tears due to happiness, sadness, onion-peeling, and post-partum all have different chemical make ups. Interesting, no? And a bit comforting. It's not just US, there must be some physiological function to all the weeping.

[melissakc]

Originally Posted by Curlita

My doula was here today for a post-partum visit and she told me that studies have shown that the composition of tears due to happiness, sadness, onion-peeling, and post-partum all have different chemical make ups. Interesting, no? And a bit comforting. It's not just US, there must be some physiological function to all the weeping.

I have heard that too! Just think, it's a great way to lose all that excess fluid from pregnancy!

[Ivanhoe]

Count me in

I feel possesed by some kind of Puerperal Demoness... I'm soooo bitchy and angry at almost everything, and at the same time, so sad and blue. All that topped with moments of ecstasy and euphoria about my newborn. So, yes I'm a hormonal mess.

Right now, my husband is sleeping at my oldest son bed... He arrived from work said a few words, most of them related to his big headache and his tiredness of this life of never doing something for fun or some stupid thing in that line, he said he was so tired, he needed to sleep... Suddendly I don't hear him... till I find hin soundly slept. Ds 2 is sleeping too (he went to nap at 6pm so maybe he sleeps till tomorrow skipping dinner) Ds1 is happily watching Harry Potter and The Order of Phoenix and sweet baby sleeps peacefully by my side.... Sooo, I really don't need my husband right now but I can't believe he is sleeping instead of being talking to me! The bright side is he will feel guilty and will take over at night... Or maybe not!

[GinaRae]

I have been SO grumpy and yesterday I finally broke and cried to hubby. Overall I am handling things well -- even the party at my boobs from 8pm to 2am every stinkin' night. BUT this pain I am in makes everything worse, and my poor kids are getting the brunt of it.

I spent the day in bed mostly to escape my mother's talking and her own grumpy attitude. I feel a bit better because of that and a long nap with Lachlan.

Most likely I will be up nursing non-stop until 1 or 2am again, and mostly I am enjoying even the bad stuff like that. But there's definitely a hormonal wave crashing all the time.

[superfastreader]

I've been crying every day, mainly feeling overwhelmed by how huge this is. I think it gets worse when my blood sugar is low, plusI got dehydrated the other day. I was miserable. DH got reassurance from the midwife that it's normal. But it has sucked.

[amylizpat]

Count me in! I think I have postpartum bipolar disorder. One minute I'm perfectly fine, the next I'm having a panic attack due to all the freaking noise in this house.
I've always said if I could get 8 solid hours of sleep, this newborn thing would be a breeze. It's the sleep deprivation that kills me!

[maisiedotes]

Originally Posted by amylizpat

Count me in! I think I have postpartum bipolar disorder. One minute I'm perfectly fine, the next I'm having a panic attack due to all the freaking noise in this house.
I've always said if I could get 8 solid hours of sleep, this newborn thing would be a breeze. It's the sleep deprivation that kills me!

Yeah, I find that lack of sleep makes everything seem so much worse. When we change our girl she screams- she HATES being changed- and it stresses me out so much because when she cries I want to cry... then I get panicky and want to finish changing her really quick and it winds up taking waaayyyy longer... I know it is a silly thing to stress about (her crying) but I don't ever want her to be uncomfortable.

I hope I get the hang of this parenting thing soon. I am just having such a hard time- lack of sleep, breastfeeding trouble, DH going back to work tomorrow, my parents 200 miles away... one income... yikes. It is all so overwhelming.

[renaissanceed]

I am anxiously awaiting the day DH goes back to work. He and my father have been working on the kitchen (still no sink/water - going on day 4) since the day after Silas was born (they tore it apart before that).

What makes me most upset is that I asked DH to stay home whole days from work this time because when DD was born he took 'half-days' off work. Well, he went to work in the morning, then to the gym, shower, shopping etc and often showed up about an hour ahead of when he would have come home had he worked a full day, nice and recharged and ready to go out for his evening activity (he had 3 volleyball leagues that year). So I was at home all day with DD struggling with everything and all evening too.

This time he's been home all day but I haven't seen him at all and I just take the kids out by myself every day. Yep, every day I pack them up (and since Silas has decided that early morning projectile vomiting is the way to go I usually get everyone dressed at least twice before we can actually leave the house) and go somewhere where there is no sawing and hammering and drilling and cursing. And DH is now working on the kitchen all day and evening, with the occasional volleyball game or run thrown in for good measure. So I have both kids and many disruptions all day and evening. Last night I tried to take a bath with both kids because Silas was awake and crying - usually he's in his bouncy seat while I bathe with DD - and he pooped ALL OVER me so we had a tub of poopy water and we have no shower attachment on the tub so cleaning everyone and the tub off was a lot of fun.

This seems to have turned into a huge rant about life in general and DH in particular. Oh, and then he was angry at me last night because of the no sex thing - after it took me an hour and half to get DD to sleep and then another half an hour to get Silas to sleep after which I just wanted to be ALONE and not touch another human being.

So, in short I can't wait for him to go back to work and stop with the noise. Also, he promises that he won't go back to work until we have running water and a dishwasher and a gate on top of the stairs so DD can go back into the kitchen and do things with me like cook or clean.

[sorteep]

I was doing great the first two weeks (Dean was an angel but is now getting pretty fussy and wants to nurse every 45 mins or constantly) I have been exhausted and getting resentful that DH only JUST chg his 1st diaper this morning (after I had a nervous breakdown..) Dean is 2 1/2 wks old and he has not once chg a diaper or clothes or gotten up with him at night.. grr.. we had a talk about it this morning (OK so I had a "moment")

I mean, I KNOW he never wnated more kids and is very nervous esp having another boy but, hey, all those stresses are on ME too.. plus!..

now that Dean is showing signs of reflux (Evan had it severely) he is really freaking out about having another ASD kiddo...

I must say this morning he ahs been much better (DH that is) and even took baby for an hour so I could shower

I know I am hormonal but I need HELP... I am not back working FT but I still have to go at least every other day for a few hrs to do biz stuff and work on a few patients, leaving NO time for rest

OK I am really having a pity party for myself here, sorry...

I remain very thankful that Dean is still SO SO SO SO much easier/ better than Evan was or Jay too for that matter as a baby.. for this I am grateful

Hopefully DH got the message, I think he did, he is currently in the kitchen cooking TG dinner for us.. I think I have to forgive him.. sometimes guys can just be THICK and need to be TOLD specifically what we need then to do....in a fair nice way not nagging/ yelling... sigh

[GinaRae]

I hid in my room for 2 days and feel a bit better.

Things are pretty stressful here...

We need to buy a van ASAP and that's a huge stretch of the budget already but then we were just contacted that an old bill in collections is suing us unless we pay $500 a month for three months. They couldn't wait until January to call us, as it seems they get a perverted kick out of threatening people just before the holidays.

I am also trying to buy some dipes and covers ASAP as the little man is almost out of his KL0s and the newborn covers are a wee bit too small so all I have is one Rikki Wrap from Mother-Ease.

My 12 year old is enduring a med change for his bipolar disorder that has left him pretty loopy and emotionally labile. Bad timing...ugh! Add to that his being on school break and home all day with hi loved ones...the people he cannot stand the most and to top it off, he's acting like a teenage girl having a fit over what's in his closet.

Hubby is trying to be home to help, but he's stressed from work and working most of the day when he is home.

My mom doesn't handle the boys well and so they're at war with each other verbally. She doesn't know how to stop them or step in or handle it when they get mouthy with her or each other. So we're going on a week of the boys constantly sniping at each other. I need to pull it together and step in.

She and I are also crabbing at each other a lot. Hence my spending more time in bed with the baby and my laptop! I sleep for a few hours every day (luckily!) so that kills some time. But I am stressed knowing that my house is so cluttered, I need to take over the diaper laundry, my kids are getting out of hand, etc.

So stressful times here, but yet somehow I am feeling a bit better and less grumpy.