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11/29/07 at 4:14pm
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Originally Posted by transformed View Post
I just feel bad for the men. I mean, how would you feel if someone told you there was something wrong with your anatomy? How sexy would you feel?

Sheesh....take their feelings into consideration.

I could never circ a baby because I know what I know, but the issue of my dh restoring is completley his issue.

If you are having sexual issues, it is possible that they are caused by other reasons as well.
But there is something wrong with circ'ed anatomy. It doesn't make you feel sexy. Dh has always been selfconcious of his scar (though he never came out and said it, he said a girl with braces bit him in HS, we looked really close last night and it is stitch markings). It is a non-consensual violation, as was my painful episiotomy. I was upset on a very deep level about the mutilation aspect. DH had to deal with me about that. And deal with my vagina's response to it. I have seen doctors about that. No one ever once suggested pain could be slightly related to Dh's circ. NO ONE. Not even each other. We weren't even aware that it was an option. Well, I had heard of it, but it seemed silly because of the contraptions. salt_pheonix: could this be why your hubby can't get a good reason?

But I went online for hours and came up with every concievable arguement I could and yep, I hurt his feelings and he hurt my feelings, but in the end he is really curious. Enough so that he is willing to try. And I think it was because I took the time to research it on a practical level-- and no, you don't have to put tape on or use any devices at all to start out. No surgery, no anything... Just, um, pull on your foreskin in the shower, hey after you pee too if you are feeling frisky.
And that's why it takes some men years from my understanding. Or the fact that they want LONG foreskin.
So, if your partner is too... whatever to agree to playing with his foreskin everyday, you could also play with his forskin. Restoration does not have to be a huge undertaking. One of the guys I read about had a huge amount of skin grow quicky from his regimine with out devices. So you really don't need all the weights and straps, etc. It can be fun and intimate and sexy if you want it to be. Really, I don't understand why a man wouldn't at least TRY that part either! And that is what hubby and I agreed on. Manual restoration until there are some gains and see how we both feel about the process as we go. There is no way he is going to tape a film canister to his penis and secure it over his shoulder with a piece of elastic at this time, though He's not super gung ho about having foreskin per say, just having more play in the skin, but I have a feeling that eventually he will be