I just wanted to say how nice it feels to have someone I've never met thinking of me and my baby. That matters SO much more than any dollar amount spent. The wishes, wisdom and attention of another woman 'in the same boat' feels pretty priceless at a time like this, and I value that more than whatever is being sent.
I didn't spend exactly what was suggested, but I wasn't very far off either. I happen to work for a store where I get huge discounts every once in a while, and I waited until just such an event to snag my goodies. It allowed me to pick a few things I would never have been able to send otherwise. I'm also working really insane hours right now (holiday season in NYC in retail land makes for a very tired mama to be). Picking for my swap partner was the highlight of my day--a chance to focus my energies on a mama I've never met in a way that I hope made her feel good. The last thing I wanted is for my choices to make anyone feel pressured or obligated or any such matter. I wish I could knit, that I got home early enough to have a creative project where I make things, or that I even had a special hand me down to offer, but none of those things hold true for me right now. So I did what I could, what worked for me, and I really enjoyed it. I don't want anything but that from my partner.