I have never had a boy before

[Pumpkin_Blythe]

And I am kinda feeling weird with the cleaning of him. He is intact and so I know never to retract him but he always gets erect whenever I touch it! Then he gets poop all around his scrotum and I am afraid to wipe too hard becuase I know on a man thats a sensitive area. Then I am left feeling like maybe I did not clean it well enough.

So then I am changing his diaper at a friends house and she has a son who is a year. She gasped when I took off his diaper and I thought there was something wrong with my kid. She then took the next 30 MINUTES telling me how BIG his you know what was and how much smaller her sons was.

She wanted to show me the difference and Ia refused. It is already weird enough having a boy after being so use to girls but having a measuring contest? Come on!

I guess I just feel awkward with his boy parts and wonder does that go away?

[Nathan1097]

Is her son circumcised? They DO look like stumps almost, when you compare. That's the only thing I can think of.

As for cleaning your son, just wipe the area clean. You can't really hurt him. If he starts wailing about it, he likely has a diaper rash.

JMHO- three kids- all intact, boy 10, girl 8, boy 6

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

The scrotum is very difficult to clean but the good news is for what ever reason the testicals are not as sensitive in a young baby as they are as they get older. I have seen my ds hit his with a closed fist, hard and laugh. How I do it is pull the sac itself out and wipe that way so I dont push on them at all. Pulling and wiping till I cant see any more poo is all I do. I have never hurt ds that way same goes for his penis gentle pulling works to get off what needs to be gotten off.

Like Nathan asked if her sons are circed then they will probably look much smaller than the intact penis. Plus if her boys are more chubby the penis will appear smaller since it will bury up in the fat pad. Still a bit weird to ask to compair tho.

[glongley]

Little boy penises come in all shapes and sizes. There's a range of normal for just about any body part. No need to compare, but also no need for either you or your friend to worry. Every boy is different.

As far as cleaning him, don't worry so much. Of course they're going to fuss sometimes, but you can't really hurt them. You gotta get it clean so he doesn't get skin break down, especially under the scrotum and up the groin area. Using a warm wash cloth can help things come off more easily, if some poop has gotten a little dried on.

Erections are a fact of life. They can get them when they have to pee or when they wake up, it's not so much a sexual thing. Don't worry about it.

Gillian

[blsilva]

My boys get erections whenever the air hits them. Just wait til your ds actually realizes that he can reach it and starts exploring himself during diaper changes.

As for cleaning the testes, they don't seem to be too sensitive at this age. I was cautious at first, but I can wipe them pretty aggressively without hurting my boys unless there is a diaper rash.

I understand, though. Having a baby boy is different. I wasn't sure how to clean him, or what would hurt him, but you get used to it.

[calngavinsmom]

You know, after I had my first son, I wondered why people said an intact penis was hard to keep clean. It is soooooooo much easier than cleaning that darned scrotum and all its wrinkles. What helped me was to get the wipe really wet before using it and kind of squeeze it out over the scrotum. That seemed to get into all the crevices and loosen things up, kinda like presoaking a pan when doing the dishes Follow that up with a dryer wipe to soak up all the excess.

As far as your buddy and her measuring contest.....people are wierd: I used to work in a machine shop and one guy there was bragging about how big his newborns penis was, like it was his big accomplishment or something. Who knows, people can be inappropriate about so many things.

And for the erections, you will get used to it, it used to squigg me out too. Just reassure yourself that all it means is his parts are all working the way they are supposed to and he is normal and healthy.

Enjoy your little guy!

Take care,
Tara

[MyBoysBlue]

Just wait until they get older. DS really can get a handful and just haul on his privates. He is so rough on himself. But part of that hauling on things and the erections is to help along the process of separation. So there is a purpose to it. I never worried about hurting my boys after seeing how rough DS 1 was to himself when he finally discovered that there was something there to grab during diaper changes.

[pantufla]

Originally Posted by calngavinsmom

As far as your buddy and her measuring contest.....people are wierd :

I second that. A friend of mine changed DS#1's diaper for the first time and said, "He's going to make some girl verrrry happy when he gets older." : People are so weird.

[MelKnee]

To make cleaning the scrotum easier, I suggest stretching the skin a tad with your fingers to smooth out some of the wrinkles. I found I didnt have to push as hard when I did that.

[tuansprincess]

Just do EC! I have only had to clean poo off ds (13 mos) scrotum once in the last 6 mos. Much easier than doing wipes gymnatics!

[frontierpsych]

Originally Posted by pantufla

I second that. A friend of mine changed DS#1's diaper for the first time and said, "He's going to make some girl verrrry happy when he gets older." : People are so weird.

A friend of mine said that about her DS and I thought it was hilarious! (I guess you'd have to know my friend or you'd probably think she's a sicko, but she's not, I promise!) I think she was referring more to him being intact than his size though.

[Fujiko]

A little OT: I only have a girl and just learned a few days ago that pre-pubescent boys can get erections. My dh had to explain everything to me! Good thing I didn't have a boy first, because I would have been very shocked.

[pixiedust]

I'm right there with you! It seems so strange to be changing a boys diaper.. it's taking me awhile to figure out how to clean him up well