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post #61 of 137
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Thanks Amy...What a heartwarming post! I'm determined to make this happen.
post #62 of 137
: Oh, I'm so sorry this happened to your DS.
post #63 of 137
Hi again--

I also wanted to add that my DH says that there are computer programs available that can play music through a special small keyboard (m-Audio makes a bunch of models). You hook up this small keyboard to your PC and the program essentially allows you to make music. If you have a Mac then you already have the program (Garageband). If you have a PC there are programs you can buy. I don't know what the cost is but certainly less than a regular keyboard or piano. It might be an option if you cannot get either of the above. At least your son would be able to make music...
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I too would donate paypal to help pay for shipping.
me too! hugs for you Op and your little boy.
post #65 of 137
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Hi again--

I also wanted to add that my DH says that there are computer programs available that can play music through a special small keyboard (m-Audio makes a bunch of models).
I have an old pc that someone put together for me. Unfortunately, it doesn't have sound for some reason. Because it's so old, it can't handle most computer software that's out there.
Ooh, I only wish I had a Mac! That would be awesome.
Thanks for trying to come up with a solution. You're awesome!

I'm determined to make this happen. I'll try selling stuff (books, cd's, dvd's) and will do whatever I can to get my sweetie a digital piano. When I really put my mind to something, I usually get it.

I just have to remain positive and get creative!
post #66 of 137
I'm sorry that your son has to go thru sadness on his birthday...
post #67 of 137
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Hi again--

I also wanted to add that my DH says that there are computer programs available that can play music through a special small keyboard (m-Audio makes a bunch of models). You hook up this small keyboard to your PC and the program essentially allows you to make music. If you have a Mac then you already have the program (Garageband). If you have a PC there are programs you can buy. I don't know what the cost is but certainly less than a regular keyboard or piano. It might be an option if you cannot get either of the above. At least your son would be able to make music...
I don't think this would work in this case. Besides, it's totally not the same. Also not good for him with his need for routine, b/c if he ever gets the keyboard, he'll be all out of sorts then... Playing music on a crazy PC bx. a keuboard? No comparison, esp if you're trying to learn! It's ok to use a program if you already know music, aren't autistic, etc. But having a keyboard at home is truly the best option.
post #68 of 137
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I'm sorry that your son has to go thru sadness on his birthday...
Thanks. It's not his birthday yet, though. Almost.
post #69 of 137
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But having a keyboard at home is truly the best option.
Yep, that's what all the music teachers that I've spoken to have said.
post #70 of 137
I agree that having an instrument at home is the best situation, but in the meantime, while you are saving up for that... (or scheming ways to sell DS's father's car... )

You have had lots of suggestions for ways to get access to a piano, and here is one more. If there is a college/university near you, they often have practice rooms for their music students with pianos in them. I see you are in New England - I went to Framingham State in MA and UCONN, and they both had private practice rooms with pianos in them that were available 24 hours a day, in the college center. I think you had to sign out a key with your student ID, but you might be able to work something out or get a student friend to help you out.

Good luck - I hope you figure something out. If I think of anything I'll LYK. Also, I know your church wasn't a possibility as far as using their piano goes, but another church in your area might be able to help.
post #71 of 137
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To be honest, my son would not do well if I had to bundle him up every single late afternoon/evening (especially in the winter) and shlep over to a church or college to use their piano. That would be very difficult for a autism spectrum child. I honestly think it would take the joy out of learning/playing the piano.
It may work for another child but I know that mine would have major meltdowns/tantrums.

My mom doesn't really have money and she's retiring soon (she's a nanny) but I called her and sent her a link to the keyboard. I asked her if she could put it on her credit card and then I could pay her back in monthly installments. My mother is cheap so I don't know if she'll do it but I'm hoping she will.
post #72 of 137
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Just want to thank everyone for their thoughts and suggestions. It's comforting to have support even if it's just online.
post #73 of 137
hey - where in ne do you live if you dont mind saying? i am a musician and live around boston but am from maine (and went to music school there). although i dont teach myself, i know tons and tons of teachers and i could even put out the word with some ppl to looks for an old instrument that someone might be getting rid of - as well as some potential inexpensive lessons. im not promising any miracles but maybe i can help.
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To be honest, my son would not do well if I had to bundle him up every single late afternoon/evening (especially in the winter) and shlep over to a church or college to use their piano. That would be very difficult for a autism spectrum child. I honestly think it would take the joy out of learning/playing the piano.
It may work for another child but I know that mine would have major meltdowns/tantrums.

My mom doesn't really have money and she's retiring soon (she's a nanny) but I called her and sent her a link to the keyboard. I asked her if she could put it on her credit card and then I could pay her back in monthly installments. My mother is cheap so I don't know if she'll do it but I'm hoping she will.
First of all, if your mom won't do it, PM me--seriously.
Second, I had to practice at a church... It SUCKED!!! And I'm only blind. I can't imagine what it would do to someone like your DS. I do know it would be much worse than just taking the fun out of it though. to you and your sweet boy! My heart goes out to both of you!
post #75 of 137
I can see how that would be difficult. I hope your mom helps out! That would be great.
post #76 of 137
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First of all, if your mom won't do it, PM me--seriously.
Thank you, mama.

I should know sometime in the early afternoon on Friday.
post #77 of 137
I just read the OP and the first few responses, so I'm sorry if my suggestions are redundant.

OP, your post brought tears to my eyes and a lump in my throat. I love music and have played piano since I was 5, and I cannot imagine the pain of being denied a much-anticipated chance to learn an instrument. I remember how excited I was to start piano lessons and can imagine the hurt had I been told that I wouldn't get to have them.

First of all, see if you can rent a keyboard by the month, preferably rent to own. That is how I bought my keyboard. It is a very nice one, retailed for $1250 7 years ago. I paid for it $50 per month. Now it is mine. I did this through a small family-owned piano store, maybe they are more likely than big stores to make this kind of arrangement, but call around to see what kind of arrangement you can make.

Secondly, if you can't find a rental or rent-to-own arrangement, see if you can arrange to practice in a local church. If you explain your situation, I think many churches would be happy to let your ds play on one of their pianos a few times a week for a few minutes...he will not need to practice that much at first.

Thirdly, just call EVERY place in town that offers piano lessons and see what the scholarship or financial aid potential is. I used to teach piano and taught a few kids at a lower rate than my normal rate, of course I didn't advertise this in order not to tick off the people paying the market rate, but for one family in particular who really could not afford the lessons, I was more than happy to make them a GREAT deal. But, I know a lot of private teachers can't afford to do this; I was living with my parents at the time so I didn't really need the $$ from teaching and I could cut my rates in half if need be.

You might see if someone knows a high school student who is good at piano who can teach your ds a few things for a very low fee. I taught piano in high school for like $5 a lesson.

I hope you can work this out and I believe that if you are creative and persistent, you can do it. Without ds' father's help. That truly sucks that he would do this to a child.

to you and your ds
post #78 of 137
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I don't think this would work in this case. Besides, it's totally not the same. Also not good for him with his need for routine, b/c if he ever gets the keyboard, he'll be all out of sorts then... Playing music on a crazy PC bx. a keuboard? No comparison, esp if you're trying to learn! It's ok to use a program if you already know music, aren't autistic, etc. But having a keyboard at home is truly the best option.
I know it's not the same. It was an idea to perhaps tide him over until she can work it out. Professional musicians do use computers..obviously very expensive ones but my DH was just wracking his brain and trying to help. That's all.
post #79 of 137
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mrskennedy, I sent you a p.m.
post #80 of 137
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I know it's not the same. It was an idea to perhaps tide him over until she can work it out. Professional musicians do use computers..obviously very expensive ones but my DH was just wracking his brain and trying to help. That's all.
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