I miss my MW so much!

[melissakc]

I love my MW. She was an enormous source of strength and wisdom for me throughout my pregnancy. She always knew just what to say, what I needed to hear, how to help me get over the trauma of DD1's birth and go into this birth with a healthy emotional outlook. No one else really understood where I was coming from, but she took the time and put forth the effort to get to know me and help me the way no one else could. The birth was fantastic and wonderful and I relive it in my head almost every day. It was exactly what I had hoped and prayed for and was so empowering and healing for me. I give myself some credit for that, but my MW was a huge part of why it went so well and why I was able to let go and trust and allow the birth to be what it was.

I feel so sad that I don't get to see my MW anymore. I'll see her for my 6-week check-up and once a year after that and I guess if I ever have any female health problems or whatever. But I miss being able to see her every few weeks. I feel like we built this trusting, supportive relationship and now it's suddenly over.

Is that weird? Anyone else feel this way?

[Momma Aimee]

my OB was so awsome to work with i and sad i will only see him once a year here on out, and not really get to "work on anything" together ....sad we most likly will not birth again

[renaissanceed]

I felt exactly the way you describe after DD's birth, to the point where I started taking long walks thru the neighbourhood where my mw lived in the hopes of running into her 'accidentally' (never did)

This time I had fewer anxieties/problems so while I liked our mw I don't feel quite the same attachment.

However I'm hoping to remain active in the local birth community as a doula/activist & keep in touch with local mws that way. I do feel like I just met these wonderful people not that long ago with DD's birth & I can't believe my personal journey is almost over.

[JulieK]

I think it's very common to feel the way you are right now, but it's good and healthy that you are aware of it and coping approrpiately. I think it more often manifests itself in the pp mama coming up with little "pointless" questions to ask their MW/MD just to keep the connection.

[GinaRae]

I wish I did. But mine ended up not being all that great, you know? I feel like I was robbed a little bit.

to you though!

[mittendrin]

I felt like that exactly with my last one and a bit again this time. I thought it was really weird and never mentioned it to anyone.

I guess it's a very strong bond your forming and when I really think about it it seems perfectly normal. She's one of the most important people in my life, helping my babies being born.

[canadiannancy]

I feel the same way. I love my midwife, and this birth was soooooo positive compared to the trauma of my first and second births and I feel the midwife and her partner and event he student played such an important part...I will be very sad not to see her again.

[chrysalis]

i hear ya. you are not strange for feeling these feelings...rue intimacy/bonding w/ other women is a beautiful thing and doesn't come about so easily unfortunately in our culture... i felt so sad when i was leaving MN and i saw my MW and her asst there for the last time. they were sad too... i don't feel that too much w/ my MW in oregon as i know i'll see her around...LLL meetings are in the same location (the MW's birth center) and postpartum c/u's and well baby c/u's...i know what you mean though about the time spent. i feel like i'm falling in love w/ my MW now and i've heard HER say (to me before meeting her when i was planning my escape in MN) that she falls in love w/ her moms and is very selective w/ who she takes on. i definitely feel a beautiful connection w/ her now after about 5 visits w/ her. last visit we sat in the actual birth suite instead of the other room w/ the table and couch...it was cool being in the room on the bed...feeling it out for birthing to come. i really feel that this connection w/ our MW's if we have it, is symbolic and a huge reminder of how we women should be relating to one another...so i think its your intuition just reminding you of this primal truth and also telling you how you feel about your MW...have you let her know how you feel? hugs mama.