Japan is a very patriarchal society. I have had the opportunity know several Japanese mothers, and the ones I know are totally devoted to family life. They spend hours preparing food for their families, washing, cleaning, and in general doing just about everything for their husband and child or children. And Japanese women are very educated as well, so if they want to have a career, something has to give. Being a rather male-centered society, many men want a woman who will stay and home and serve their every need. Men want to find a woman who will stay home, and if they can't find a partner they deem suitable, they can just live at home as an adult, and their mum will continue to do the job she has always done for them. As usual, this is a complicated issue, and I don't think its just the Japanese women who are 'selfish'. Is it selfish to want a life outside of home? Is it selfish to want a partner who will be at your beck and call, waiting to serve your every need? I think I know which scenario I find selfish.
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8/27/03 at 2:17am