Lunar Forest - I have thought about starting a thread on the adoption issue. And I might one day, however, since this thread dealt with the issue of overpopulation I thought it was as legitimate of a tie in as driving cars/cloth diapering/eating meat.
QuoteYes, I have in fact considered adoption. However, as I said before, it is not the bed of roses that it may seem. In my experiance it has often been terriable thing for all parties involved, much heart beack, etc. Something many people just don't want to believe. You can only believe it when you see it, because adoption does seem like such a wonderful thing.
Quite frankly all I want from everyone is a consideration of the issue. I know full well that it is not for everyone. For one thing I would NEVER want anyone to adopt who could not honestly say in their hearts that the love for an adopted child would be as close if not the same for a bio-child. And it takes a special person to be able to do that.
I have one friend who compared my wanting to adopt a child the feelings one has for a family dog. The idea of that person adopting would scare me to death.
But I do know ALOT of people who have adopted and seen great experiences. No it is not always a bed of roses but neither is raising kids in general.
|This is probably why most people who crow 'If you want so many kids adopt!' are not adoptive parents themselves
Actually in my case it is just the opposite. Most of the people I know who don't think I should do it are those who haven't adopted. The many that I know that have adopted don't try and talk me out of it. And while they will admit to it being difficult that will also admit to it being great also.
|then you really shouldn't try to guilt people who desire a certain size of family to adopt.
I am no more trying to guilt people into adopting then the rest of this board is trying to guilt me into cloth diapering. This thread was about population and its effect on the environment. I was offering my feelings about a way to do both - have a big family and still be ecologically-responsible. Funny, how cloth diapering is considered a given but adopting as an option is a guilt trip.
As a general opinion though, as much as we would like as parents for our children to take on all of our values as adults it is not a guarantee. We raise (or rear as Ms. Manners puts it), our children in an ecologically responsible manner only to have them look at the Jones and decide that is what they want. Or vice versus, how many of us where raised in a home opposite what we want now.