Baby Blues getting to you?

[Kontessa]

Baby Blues getting to you? How are you dealing? When did they start?

I am not sure what is effecting me. Certainly little sleep and not eating well. (Who has time and hands?) Mine seemed to hit today. I am so short with my kids, finding it hard to take care of baby and I. Not to mention the day itself.

I worry this could be PPD but also know just Blues can be normal and can go away fast.

Tips on how to get through this would be most welcome or just share how your doing. I know I can do this, just so hard some times.

[Mama2 '05'06]

Me too. I keep thinking that I'm feeling better and then I'll start feeling tearyeyed and/or crying about something really stupid. Or get mad at the kids over silly things. I suppose it will get better- just give it time.

[sorteep]

i just keep repeating.. this will not last forever.. there is an end to the sleepless chaos.. for me, knowing it is temporary really helps,,also not expecting much from self is good..

sorry nak

[maisiedotes]

I am. Just so many things going on... DH is back at work today, breastfeeding trouble, lack of sleep... and lots of self-doubt that I will be a good mother. I feel like I should be playing with Mairaed more or something. All she does pretty much is eat and sleep, and I feel like I should keep her up and do a song and dance for her or something. I guess I am not used to being around a newborn.... I also worry about every little thing. This bump, that red mark, that lack of a bowel movement, am I feeding her enough, am i holding her enough, is she sleeping too much. I am making myself crazy.

My parents are coming up today and I am hoping they will distract me from all the worrying, although my mother tends to worry as much as I do and she is already questioning me about everything. "is she warm enough? Is it normal that she blah blah blah?" Her mother was not there for her when I was born, so she vowed to be here for me but sometimes it is overkill.

I am still taking zoloft and I think I may ask them to up my dosage (I am on 50mg) if these blues are not gone in a couple more weeks. The OB told me it sometimes takes 2-4 weeks for the hormones to regulate. I feel like once the BFing gets better I will feel better overall. I am exhausted from all the pumping!

[superfastreader]

I have been feeling overwhelmed, and have had some bouts of crying. I am hoping it will pass. I just feel like this is all so big and impossible, but fortunately I also have times where I feel happy and competent, so I think it's just baby blues, not PPD.

[momtoKailee]

I'm glad I'm not the only one having these issues. A lack of sleep has not helped and I find myself getting so overwhelmed as a new mommy. Having family here to help has made things easier - I can let a grandma hold the baby and get an hour of sleep as needed. I also find the nighttime is the worst for me. When the sun is up, I feel more positive and like I can be a good mommy. Once the sun goes down, the self doubt and worries start.

I've spent more time in the past two weeks bawling then ever before. My BIL got my daughter a cute stocking and I spent a few minutes just crying.

[mittendrin]

nak

i literally swallow it. when i feel that knot in my throat i swallow hard a few times and breathe thru. what helped me this time around was being mentally prepared. i told myself all throughout the pregnancy that ppd is nothing "real", just hormones playing tricks on me. that worked for - kinda playing it down, kwim?
so when i feel a wave of blue i quickly tell myself that it's ok, i don't have time for that nonsense...
i don't have it bad tho, i am not sure what i'd do if the baby blues would really hit me full force. hugs to all mamas who have to deal with it. i had ppd delayed after ds2, when he was almost a year old. bad stuff

[Isaac'sMa]

No advice, mama, just hugs. Yesterday was hard for me too. I hope you're feeling better today.

[maisiedotes]

I am feeling very undeserving right now. I feel like I don't deserve my wonderful husband or my beautiful DD. This goes way back to childhood and I really want to let myself be happy. I don't know... between worrying about every little thing, second guessing myself about everything... is she cold, is she too hot, should I let her sleep or wake her up to eat, should I hold her more, should I hold her less... I am making myself NUTS. :

[LittleLlama]

Originally Posted by superfastreader

I have been feeling overwhelmed, and have had some bouts of crying. I am hoping it will pass. I just feel like this is all so big and impossible, but fortunately I also have times where I feel happy and competent, so I think it's just baby blues, not PPD.

I am also feeling particularly disconnected from anyone. I dont have the time or attention span to read or post here much so that one last shred is gone. I just don't have anyone IRL to lean on either. My MIL is nice, I just can't stand her for too long of periods and she's got her own issues.

I've had some especially good bouts of sobbing due to missing my mom and aunt for the holidays. My mom won't be able to come here till January. In the meantime my brother is coming to OR (where the rest of my family is) from Norway in a few days and can't come to AZ this time.

[Kontessa]

I am doing better today. I even went food shopping with a friend, the place was quiet! LOL I had energy when I got home for a change even. It was a good feeling after so long.

I really feel for the new new mamas and all those worries about baby. I have confidence in my mothering so much so I homeschool even. Yes, I have my moments of panic but really, 90% of the time I confident I will know what to do or figure it out fast. As a new mama though, I remember how hard that was, specially with no family around to help guide me. I am happy for those who have their mothers or local crunchy mothers to help guide them. My advice for the new new mamas. Find local mama groups and get out to them soon. LLL and baby wearing groups are wondeful help.

For those feeling like they need to be doing more with baby.... Read to baby! Just a few minutes at a certain time of day, every day. Baby is used to hearing your voice and will give wonderful love energy to both you and baby and you will feel more confident in being Mommy. Choose to put joy into your voice when you read, you will feel much better after. This is a homeschooling trick by the way. It really helps.

Did you do anything for yourselves today mamas?

Till my next Blues moment, Much loves, Kimmy.

[kathteach]

Glad to read I am not the only one. I've got some blues but I'm coping. I can't remember where, but I read once that giving birth opens your heart so much that you feel so deeply and the intensity is overwhelming. I like that description better than "baby blues."