I can't tell my DP, so I'll tell you

[RolliePollie]

I wish so badly he wasn't circ'd. Sex can get painful and dry quick. And after he ejaculates, he complains he feels "rubbed raw". And he looks rubbed raw, too. I want to smack my MIL upside the head. I grew up around intact penises and find them more physically appealing to me as well.

One day I'll bring up restoration, I swear. After turning him into an intactivist.

Just felt good to confess!

[Maluhia]

Vent away!

I have similar problems only DH won't restore. :

[trmpetplaya]

I have friends in similar situations. You're definitely not alone

love and peace.

[Claire and Boys]

I'm in the same boat mama it sucks.

[Mommiska]

I'm so sorry...it so, so wrong that anyone else felt they had the 'right' to stick their noses into your and dp's sex life.

[phdmama06]

I'm right there with you!

[Yulia_R]

I know exactly what you're talking about...
it sucks

[phatchristy]

I know what you ladies are talking about. I can say that after several years of talking to DH...he DID finally make some restoration efforts. And, it has made a difference.

My point is, don't give up! Honestly it took him years to be open to it.

[Organicavocado]

Oh, I'm sorry. I know EXACTLY what it feels to be rubbed raw.

I don't remember how it came up, but we talked about restoration at the beginning of my previous pregnancy as I thought it was a boy. He expressed a lot of interest, but I didn't want to bring up any devices or anything unless he had committed to the idea.. I don't think he knew much about them and honestly I didn't either.. just that they existed. He started doing manual stretching then, I wasn't aware, and when later I fwd him a few websites with devices and said if he wanted to get one, we could save up and get one. He is STOKED to "take it to the next level", and I'm excited too.. he was so tight, hairy shaft and all, and now he has enough skin to bring it over the ridge so that's commitment enough for me! I didn't know it was possible to make that much of a difference just with messing with it yourself.

I really wanted him to bring it up himself, because I didn't want him to feel "pressured" to do anything. I was so surprised when he was interested. I showed him the sexasnatureintendedit site once he really started getting interested, and he said it made a lot of sense in our situation. I agreed and told him if he really wants to do it, I'm behind him 100%. We kind of discovered all of it together, which made it easier for me to not seem pushy.

But I am SO happy that he's interested in it and seems to be in for the long haul. Already we've seen a small small difference and I'm hoping its a growing trend.

I hope things go well for you when you do decide to bring it up. You never know, he might surprise you and dive right in! I never thought my DH would.

[MamaVolpe]

Me too!

You are not alone, I feel the same way too. My DH is not open to restoring but I am hoping to educate him on the benefits in a way that he will hopefully be open too. He is very slow to make up his mind about anything though so I doubt that it will be anytime soon.

[transformed]

guys....shave...and lube. Dont build up resentment towards your partner! Shave! And buy some KY!

(The shaving really helps, really-I can hardly even have sex with my partner since I am too pregnant to reach down there to shave. It sucks.)

[susienjay]

I'm right there too.

I got dh to restore for a few months about 4 years ago. It gave him a small bit of mobility where before he had absolutely none. He did go back to it for a month or so after our son was born. I think from seeing ds it was pretty obvious to him that he was missing quite a bit. He keeps saying he'll pick it up again when he's got some free time. I'm still waiting and he's a total workaholic I doubt it will happen. I'm somewhat hopeful that he may show some more interest after we have the baby in January which we know for sure is a boy. I used to get really pissed off about what was done to him. Now it just makes me sad. I think I would be okay if he didn't do any more restoring. The little he did has made enough of a difference that I still notice it. Part of the problem is he hates using the tape but he was cut so tightly that devices like the CatII Ro we bought don't work yet. He'd probably have ot put up with the tape for at least 6 more months for one of the devices to work for him.

[Organicavocado]

Originally Posted by transformed

guys....shave...and lube. Dont build up resentment towards your partner! Shave! And buy some KY!

(The shaving really helps, really-I can hardly even have sex with my partner since I am too pregnant to reach down there to shave. It sucks.)

Being unshaven has always helped me stay well lubed, I dont get how shaving is supposed to help... any amount of lube I make on my own gets scraped out anyway. The amount of artificial lube it takes to keep me from being in pain makes it so that there is hardly any skin contact at all. It's like making love to a giant squid and about as attractive. If it goes on for any length of time, we need to stop and re-apply. "Shave and lube!" is really not going to do anything. Sex will still be painful. I'm pretty sure anyone with a dry sex problem has already thought of buying some lube...

Even with our years of "not great" sex, I didn't resent my DH for being circed or for anything sexually for that matter. Wishing your sex life was better/less painful doesn't mean you resent your partner... knowing sex can be painless and (gasp) even pleasureable or a bonding experience is definitely something women are going to think about when sex is, to them, the equivalent of having sex with a cheese grater.

[Neth Naneth]

Originally Posted by Mommiska

I'm so sorry...it so, so wrong that anyone else felt they had the 'right' to stick their noses into your and dp's sex life.

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