lemme be logical with you.
i am a major risk manager, a major fear manager. i need facts, figures, plans and back up plans, i need contengency and exit plans, i need to run down every ridiculous avenue.
AND i go entirely on intuition.in tuition in tuition
tuition means learning, in the process of learning--using all of my faculty to learn.
so, my process is simple:
1. forget everyone's freakin' negativity and fear mongering. i don't go for that and goodness knows that i have enough of my own fears that i don't need to take on theirs.
2. get adept at reading subtext so that you can see number 1 when it crops up. and boy-howdy does it crop up!
3. stick with what you know. if you strongly feel that UC is right, then fill your mind only with UC support. you're not in a position to take on everyone's 1. you know? you have a baby and a self to focus on, to get healthy, and to prepare.
4. prepare for a UC by working on your own fears. whatever scares you, study that and study the local stuff on that topic. that is, if you're afraid of hemmorage, then study hemmorage. if you're afraid of early birth, then study that, if you're afriad of really painful labor or dealing with tears or whatever, then study that.
but don't go reading people's negativity.
stay in a supportive environment for what you want.
and lets talk about that midwife for a moment. you know how i like exit and contingency plans? well, i know that there's no viable exit from preggers and parenthood for me, so i had to make sure that i was ok with the whole thing before starting TTC (sept, and then this cycle so far).
but, my husband and i are going to have a midwife as back up. i'll go to two PNC appointments and have her on call, and that's it. if we want/need her, then we can call. but if we feel we don't, and we want to go full on with the UC, then we won't call.
there are ways within and around.