I had to do this with my MIL. I do not share due dates with anyone anymore. This is because of her. I got accused of telling my mother (which wasn't true, I anticipated this line of attack and hadn't told her either) and not her and she needed to buy plane tickets. After the first baby her "help" consisted of laughing at my nursing pain and telling me formula was just as good and bouncing the twins upside down on her knee while they screamed telling me "all babies love this"
:. I said never again. Six years later we just told her that we had it all under control with dh having 3 weeks off and the six year old homeschoolers a big help and wouldn't need her to come until the baptism (months off). The next time babies came 9 weeks early so they couldn't get here. This time, I haven't told due dates and do not plan to see them for several months. If they ask I will tell them we are not up for any in house company(they insist on camping out in my living room when I do not have a guest room and several fine hotels within a two mile radius) for several months afterwards. You have to set your boundaries from the beginning or you will be fighting this battle for years to come. Please trust me on this. I have ten years in the trenches with inconsiderate inlaws!
:. I said never again. Six years later we just told her that we had it all under control with dh having 3 weeks off and the six year old homeschoolers a big help and wouldn't need her to come until the baptism (months off). The next time babies came 9 weeks early so they couldn't get here. This time, I haven't told due dates and do not plan to see them for several months. If they ask I will tell them we are not up for any in house company(they insist on camping out in my living room when I do not have a guest room and several fine hotels within a two mile radius) for several months afterwards. You have to set your boundaries from the beginning or you will be fighting this battle for years to come. Please trust me on this. I have ten years in the trenches with inconsiderate inlaws!
